>>34074606
Everyone is weird and autistic now, but basically if you have enough interactions under normal every day conditions you should bond to some degree. I was going to start playing massive multiplayer paradox events and not care about but be open to making friends, but I figure if I do it regularly for a year or so with mostly the same people than I'll probably end up making friends naturally. Play the game with people. Have a mic.

>>34074619
that makes sense, i guess i play every game too sporadically since i usually only commit for 2 weeks tops before switching to some other game for a few weeks. i don't think i play any games that use mic and it might make this a bit harder ofc. but thanks for the tip! if you have any more specific advice i'm all ears

>>34074723
You know what? I think it's a lot of dumb luck and consistency. Everyone tends to have a lot of friends in and slightly after school for this reason. But human relationships are a lot about having near daily connection, whether at school, through family gathering, shared interests, or whatever else, but as long as you don't burn bridges they're usually reaccessible, and people might be in a place where they change to suit being around you more often. I maybe recommend charity or getting a part-time service industry job. Sorry if that is vague. What kind of games do you like?

>>34074763
yep i definitely know it's an uphill battle. had a few friends in middle school but was never that close to them, and then i managed to breeze thru hs with absolutely 0 friends. with video games it's kinda hard to "see" someone daily in order to befriend them, even in guilds it seems really hard because often everyone already knows each other and the old members who talk the most prefer each others company (based on my experience in osrs)

my country has a really high unemployment rate and i also happen to live in a place with lots of students, so almost all part time jobs are impossible to get unless you win that 1/4000 lottery lol. this applies to more or less every job i could get. i live like an unemployed person basically since most of my classes these days are also online/solo.

but thanks for your advice still anon. i just gotta put in more effort i think.

>>34074606
It's not the same, but I've made a very valuable and very "real" friendship on a language exchange website.
The key is to be patient and not be discouraged by things not working out. I've talked to dozens of people on there, 75% of them didn't reply or dropped the convo after a few sentences, 20% I didn't feel like I clicked with at all. At the end there were like 3-4 people left I had regular conversations with after several months of using the site regularly. One of those became a really close friend.

Think about it this way, there are probably some very specific sets of traits that someone you click with should have, so what are the odds that some random person would check all those boxes? But if you talk to enough people eventually someone will tick enough of them.

That's more advice on mindset than on how to actually approach/talk to people, but I don't use public Discords so no clue about that. I guess just be active in them and eventually you'll start recognizing the other regulars or something.