>always said pic related (is horsegirl)>finds boyfriend 4 years ago, moves in with him>after 3 years he kicks her out, we don't know the reason>comes live with my mom again>barely neglects bills, gets a ticket or fine every week, almost had to go to court for paying one late>her room is a mess, full with trash>multiple rooms are full with her hoarding crap>doesn't help out in the household at all, disposes trash in her car by just throwing it on to the driveway>has 2 ponies in our yard, neglects them, doesn't clean up everything>acts like a diva, always arrives late, leaves early, claims she has stuff in need of doing>is self employed, but can barely afford to pay for anything more than 500 dollars>doesn't clean up after herself>is always away, staying over at friends, only comes home to shower and to drop her trash off in her carIt's tearing my mother up because she's distant and thinks our family is stupid. She steals a lot of stuff for her own personal use from us. She doesn't want to listen to anything you say and the moment you ask her something, she gets pissed and throws a fit.For example, I cleaned up her mess with the horses she has. Cleaned up all the plastic garbage she littered around, in the mud, etc. Took me 3 trailers to dispose of her trash. The place was a DUMP. I occassionally go look and it looks like its becoming the same dump again.She wanted to plant tomatos and shit in our yard, and now she didn't take care of it. I asked her to dispose of them since everything was rotten and overgrown with weeds. I have her 3 weeks time and now I cleaned it up and now she got mad at me because the soil was of high quality and really expensive and I ruined it.What the fuck is wrong with this cunt? She is so horrible to live with and she always thinks she is 100% in her right. If I didn't remind her about her bills and fines every week she would've been summoned to court already.
Learn to be happy being alone and be fierce with it so that you don't have to deal with your sister and that family. Typical upperclass bullshit. Thank God I don't have to succumb to that bullshit.
Sounds like her family (which includes you) never let her encounter the consequences of her actions, so she never grew up.>If I didn't remind her about her bills and fines every week she would've been summoned to court already.You are enabling her. Stop.
>>34076004Whenever something bad happens to her and she has to deal with the consequences she blackmails us and that she will never see us again. My mom is really taking it hard when she always threatens to cut contact with her. We try to look out for her cause she is family and hope she realises and understands it, but she never seems to be able to do that.
>>34076001sounds like depression desufind out why she got kicked out of her boyfriends placeneed to figure out if she caused harm and has crippling shame that she's not processing - there could have been a cheating situation that is causing her to collapse inward and not talk to anyone out of fear of further consequences that already happened with her ex.likely needs to have a consequence-free intervention with you guys where she goes through everything that's happened, how she's feelingif the hygiene and animal neglect is something that only happened after the breakup, the relationship was likely the catalysttake care of her animals for her, she's clearly too unwell to care for them. worry about rehoming them later if she doesn't improve and it's too much of a burden on the rest of your family.if there's no evidence of depression or shame after having the intervention, or if you can't get a straight answer from her, talk about getting her into counseling.she may be involved with substance abuse. make sure you know who her friends are. if you have contact with them, talk to them - if they're real friends and not acquaintances in mutual suffering, they're likely confidants and know more about her recent history that you do.if all of this leaves you high and dry, then start talking with your family about consequences and tough love. basically "rule out depression, shame, and drug abuse before you think about disowning"all of this can be accomplished within a span of a month. get to work.
>>34076243>if the hygiene and animal neglect is something that only happened after the breakup, the relationship was likely the catalystNo, whenever we visitted their place, the house was always littered with trash and before she moved in with him she wasnt very clean and already a hoarder.
>>34076307fair enough, depression still on the table, but may require tough loveregardless, best of luck. the whole situation sounds like shit.
>>34076001Let the cops do their job and take her. She's mentally unfit.
