can self isolation lead to regression of social skills?I've essentially become a hermit since my ex cucked me, and now whenever I do go out I drunkenly embarrass myself or obviously step out of line with people without realizing it. Before the whole ordeal I used to be the popular happy go lucky type, but since then I've moved countries and botched EVERY single first impression I've had since getting here, be it with girls, workmates, authority, you name it.I've become a hateful, drunken shell of my former self and I don't know how to go back. Why do I dread social interactions? Why do I fear and hate women? Why do I drink myself into a stupor before every single social event I attend regardless how rarely it happens?Honestly I think I've started to enjoy wallowing in self pity and vegging out all day, it's scary.I didn't even realize how bad it's gotten until a workmate told me the shit spewing out of my mouth when I was drunk during an office party, ironically on the same day where three other unrelated people asked me if I was depressed.Holy fuck I need to get out of this vicious cycle ASAP
stop drinking and deal with your issues with a therapist. yes, isolation causes social skill regression, if you aren't practicing your skills they will degrade, that's true of anything. you can get them back more easily than someone who never had them but it requires sobriety.
>>34077524I'm already in therapy. She doesn't really help.The gist of it all was>lmao move on there's plenty of girls out there>find a hobby and stop drinkingI'd rather not? I don't 'enjoy' any activity besides getting fucked up and having sex. A work colleague has been pulling my teeth about going to the gym, but yeah nah.
moving countries, even to ones with basically identical culture like from Canada to the US is still harrowing in terms of learning the little bits of etiquette and expectation for a highly functional normie. you are in a frustrating position because of that. the unfortunate circumstances of your relationship suck, but you are rushing to make connections and draw conclusions from that series of events. you are trying to make a grand narrative about what this means about your identity and how it is specifically malformed and has led you to disaster. this sort of catastrophizing is common amongst posters here. i don't have any magical advice that is going to resolve your situation for the better, but in the meantime, i could just advise you to compartmentalize these separate difficulties in your life, and think more in terms of having run into 2 or 3 difficult situations at once, where any part of one might turn out better or resolve even if the others are stuck. what i see too often on this board is people taking real but separable problems and instead tying them into a huge gordian knot that destroys their desire to take action to make any one difficult situation any better because it won't solve all of them at once.
>>34077546they aren't inseparable issues dawg. Me moving was a direct consequence of losing a long term partner and half a friend group.I had nothing there except for my aging parents who rightfully don't want me to stay. The country and the differences in cultural minutia aren't the issue, I am.People I do meet are more often than not busy with their adult lives, or loser gamers/druggies I'd rather not gel with.
>>34077513the less you do something the worse you become at it and that applies to social skills too. the bigger issue is your alcoholism, that needs to stop. get into religion, use it as a vehicle to stop being a degen.
>>34077531not what i said, the greentext was pulled directly from your ass. i see now that you are a paid demoralizer here to push an agenda and not to get actual advice.
>>34077656I was talking about my therapy
