Because you don't talk to women

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>>34077790

>>34077786
Because you spend more time taking pictures of other couples instead of actually trying to establish rapport or communication with an available single female and building a relationship with them.

>>34077794
I wouldn't be doing that if I had a gf. Try again.

>>34077798
>Try again
No, you’re wasting my time and your own time. You aren’t here to understand or overcome problems. You are here to argue to keep yourself with the problem. Stop making threads about this, you clearly enjoy being alone. That is genuinely OK and a respectable walk of life. Just be alone and enjoy that, you do not want a GF. If you truly wanted a GF, you would want to learn how. You don’t want to learn how, you want to justify remaining lonely to yourself. Stop trying to justify it, just accept and be happy with solitude.

>>34077806
You're the one who answered with a preconceived notion about why I don't have a gf.
If you think you know it all, record yourself cold approaching chicks and prove
>just talk to her bro

Its not. You just gotta be out and about. People wanna hang when they see you doing things.

>>34077808
Have you personally tried it yourself?

>>34077819
Yeah. It only works if you look like hot shit.

>>34077808
>You're the one who answered with a preconceived notion about why I don't have a gf.
Okay I will admit I was presumptuous and for that I will duly apologise.

>If you think you know it all, record yourself cold approaching chicks and prove.
I don’t know it all, I just know enough to reasonably build a relationship. I’m not a love guru, I suck at lots of things, particularly the middle part of relationships after honeymoon phase ends I struggle. But starting a relationship I can do it in my fucking sleep. And I am not a stud or particularly handsome either or rich.

First thing is first:
>record yourself cold approaching
I never cold approached a single girl in my entire life and yet I’ve had over a half dozen girls. Cold approaching is a mentally ill strategy that only works on the school playground when you are a child. On the streets it’s a different social game, and if you have autism you are gonna not understand the rules of this game because the rules aren’t written down, yet everyone knows them except unsocialised autists.

If you really want to progress in your love quest, ditch cold approaching, it’s a cancer strategy sold to you by pick up artists who dupe desperate men for money and clout.

>>34077830
Tell me exactly how it happened and what you said to the girl.

>>34077833
How often do you get bored of the relationship and start a new one? Care to share your experience and strategy so less fortunate guys can finally get some chicks?

>>34077786
You’re truly not trying hard enough.

>>34077857
Why do all you faggots think getting a gf is relative to the amount of effort you put in? Most of the dudes I know in relationships fall ass-backwards into them.

>>34077861
>Most of the dudes I know in relationships fall ass-backwards into them.
Copy what they do then. What do they do?

>>34077866
There is no secret formula to getting a gf besides being born lucky or having a fuckton of cash.

>>34077786
Hypergamy, social media, and radical feminism

>>34077850
>How often do you get bored of the relationship and start a new one?
I don’t have sociopathy my friend so I don’t know what it’s like to spontaneously grow bored of someone after using them like an object or a tool only to start the process again on a whim. I’m not a psycho lol. What happens is my dumbass gets into arguments with the dumbass girlfriend eventually and then the relationship crumbles. Either they dump me or I dump them or we both agree to split, whichever.

>Care to share your experience and strategy so less fortunate guys can finally get some chicks?
Yeah I have no strategy, thats my strategy. I am being as honest and serious as possible even though that sounds like a paradox. I make it a fucking point not to have a single strategy. And this allowed me to not give a fuck about scoring the chick or embarrassing myself or being rejected, I genuinely did not care what the outcome was gonna be. This read to women as ‘confidence’ and it attracted a lot of female attention. Unfortunately for them, they mistook indifference for confidence and they found that out usually a year or two after dating me lmao. But hey I TRIED to warn ‘em, as did their goody two shoes parents, they were told about not dating the deadbeat badguy but they do it anyway.

>>34077880
Do you even date with an intention to marry? Sounds a bit toxic what you say about your attitude.

>>34077786
Half of men nowadays are going to have to cope with the fact that they will never have a girlfriend or have very limited and unfulfilling relationships. And it's probably going to get worse

>>34077906
>Do you even date with an intention to marry? Sounds a bit toxic what you say about your attitude.
Believe it or not, but yes every single time I always had the intention to marry. It wasn't my intentions that was toxic, it was my lack of discipline and lack of ambition that eventually contributed towards the death of each relationship which is why I attribute my initial successes to my indifference. But that same indifference bites my ass later. I was never abusive to any of the ladies, just woefully careless and lazy. For some reason a lot of women see that in a guy and either a) mistake it for confidence or a laid back easygoing attitude or b) acknowledge it and decide "I can fix him".

Women are a weird species or something. But my point to OP is, there exists no guidebook or instruction manual for this shit. You can only learn it by doing it through praxis. And you cannot get that praxis through 4chan threads or taking pictures of strangers on the street

>>34077932
To sum it up: lack of discipline, lack of ambition, indifference, carelessness and laziness. Not exactly a husband material yea? Are you going to change that in you so in the future you can secure a waifu?

>>34077953
>Are you going to change that in you so in the future you can secure a waifu?
Yep already on it and been on it for a couple of years now which is why I am able to snitch on my own patterns of behaviour. You bring up a good concept, "husband material", it brings to mind another nuance to women and dating. There's lots of "materials". Fuckboy material, dating material, cute boyfriend material, husband material, father material. Some men are amazing at one but shit at the rest. Some are great at a few, bad at the other few.

I have never met a single man alive or dead who was good at all of these aspects, and I've never met a single man who sucked at every single one of these aspects. Maybe OP is a man who fucking sucks dick at dating material. But maybe it turns out he makes for amazing husbando material. If this is true, OP is stuck in a feedback loop of error:
In order to reach marriage one must date first. And if he can't find a date he can't make it to marriage where he can thrive.

Solution: OP should give up on dating and find a girl who also wants to insta-marry. It might seem crazy or non existent but I've seen it done, there's places in life where such women exist.

Convince me that getting a gf is not luck-based.
Protip: You can't

>>34077979
Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity, or so the old greek cunt Seneca said. Could've been cuckius Aurelius I forgot. Anyhow luck does not exist luck is just causality that the human finds to be convenient to their goals. One man's luck is another man's misfortune.

>>34077993
I rest my case.
Whether it's some fag born with chad genetics or someone who meets their soul mate in high school, it all comes down to luck in one way, shape or form.

>>34077976
I assume a decent woman with clear, family goals would look for a husband and father material. What would you do or change in yourself to become both? I’m kinda the same with my ‘whatever’ approach but ultimately my goal is a family. I wonder how others might try to achieve the same thing.

>>34077786
>Why is it impossible to find a gf?
Because you spent a good part of your life developing techniques to avoid all human contact.

>>34077995
You didn't make a compelling case to be real with you. Luck doesn't objectively exist, subjectively it can because we can make it real. If I was a secret bitcoin millionaire I could prove that point to you right now by deciding that you are a lucky man today as I donate $100,000 to you. And then you will have to call me the god of luck because I deliberately chose to make that real for (you). Bad news, I am broke as fuck lol. My point remains though the power of will mogs the shit out of luck every day of the week. You would be wise to stop relying on the concept of luck

>>34078004
>What would you do or change in yourself to become both?
I'd start by taking myself and life a bit more seriously. Specifically my untapped potential and wasted motivation that I kept buried under facades of cynicism and jadedness, which ultimately would put me face to face with the real final boss: fear of failure and fear of success. The fear of fucking up and the fear of the pressure of keeping something successful non stop should I make a success. And all of this would mean recognising the flawed framework of my thinking: All-or-nothing mindset. That's what I'd challenge and what I am currently challenging personally

>>34078029
Good luck mate, I really hope you will find a woman who is a wife and mother material.

>>34077786
It’s impossible to find a gf that you like sure
But if you ask strangers on soc for example to rate you
Get the average of that rating
And go for girls a solid two points below you, you can easily get a gf

>>34077979
Yes luck based but more to do with putting yourself in the environment the girls that would like you are at
It’s luck based if you rely on doing your normal routine and hoping a girl finds you by her randomly jumping into your life (happens)
But if you strategize and analyze the types of girls who might like you , and get yourself to where those girls are at you increase your luck
Notice I say girls that would like you and not girls you like
That’s another story

>>34078078
No it’s not. You could go to all the social groups you want and still never attract a girl. Then another dude could turn up and instantly vibe with someone. It’s all luck in terms of meeting the right person and/or having the traits women find attractive.

>>34078138
Notice how you said
>You COULD
Not
>I did

You are speaking without experience. You don’t actually know this. You think you do because you think so, but knowledge isn’t gained from thought it is gained from experience. Thinking is not experience, actions are. And if you don’t actually attend social groups or events then how can you possibly know?

Be a hardcore guy.

>>34078149
For the most part, you are correct. Anon is theory crafting his own defeat as an excuse to avoid action.

But "could" can introduce a hypothetical. One could very well go to social activities and never attract a woman. Because one could choose the wrong activity (gun shooting, fishing club, MtG, WH40k or other sausage fest) or one could be the kind of person that woman actively avoid (aka the ick).

>>34077979
everything is luck based. surviving until tomorrow means you were lucky a car or a meteor doesn't wreck you. describing anything in life as luck based doesn't add any descriptive clarity or insight

>>34078462
>But "could" can introduce a hypothetical
if someone posts 'spend more time with activities trying to get yourself into a friendgroup to meet women' why would you immediately narrow that down to nitpicking the fact that activities with very women exist? people suggesting that when they post aren't saying universal guarantee, or even that it will come from the group, lots of people just happen to meet someone's sister randomly one day who would never care about Warhammer army men, but likes that it makes a cute guy turn into a nerd

it's just a general recommendation that, given the small chance of meeting a women that likes you, more socialization in public increases the encounter rate. the nitpickers interpret this as "you will meet a new oneitis at the thing and you will get to be with her"

>>34077875
Yet the poorest, unluckiest bastards get married and have a ton of kids at a disproportionately high rate

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>>34078700
Not op, but as average looking/ugly, being in the right place AND at the right time AND with someone you get along with AND have the same goals AND is also attracted to you IS luck.
>spend years going on dates, from chadlites to orcs, goes nowhere
>install shit tiny dating app
>1 day in find exactly who I like

>>34078819
>get married
means they aren't
>unluckiest

>>34077786
Better mope more on the internet about it. That’ll do the trick, surely.

>>34077786
Because you're trying too hard

>>34077979
>Convince me that getting a gf is not luck-based.
it completely is
>never have any luck with girls
>start a new job
>embellish a few details about myself to the older woman manger
>she tells a few girls how the new guy is in a band (we sucked and already broke up) and how he was pre-law (kicked out for bad grades since i was a drunk)
>'hey anon, invite me over to play for me sometime'

>>34078149
Not the guy you're responding to, but I did. I am a 23yo kissless virgin who has never had a girlfriend or shown signs of attraction from a woman. Since my teenage years ive been going to bookstores, libraries, book clubs, gyms, martial arts classes, church, choirs, orchestras, marathons, climbing gyms, board game clubs.
I went on tours all around the world with some choirs and orchestras, travel a lot, go to the opera house at least once a month, go to the music hall every 2 weeks, go to the cinema every 2 weeks at least, go to rock concerts and shitnfor bands i like...
90% of the people i've met are 10+ year older than me, mostly men and older women. All 3 times i mustered up the courage to ask out one of the extremely rare young women i met who weren't obviously taken, they were lesbians. Like not "lesbian because i need an excuse to refuse you without saying it for real", i mean actual lesbians. I don't know why young women who enjoy classical music/opera are lesbians so often, but that is my experience.

So i am a genuine example of someone who has tried his jardest (i still am trying) yet has had 0 luck. Meanwhile most of the guys i know who have girlfriends don't really have any hobbies apart from watching tv shows with their girlfriends or playing videogames, and their girlfriends literally fell into their laps. Around half were approached by their girlfriends themselves. I just feel extremely unlucky when it comes to meeting young single women. I am extroverted and have the gift of gab, i just don't meet any babes to use it on.

>>34077786
>OP pic shows a guy with a gf
>thereby disproving his own premise

>>34077798
>I would only act normal if I already had my "reward" for acting normal!
Try again, indeed.

>>34079062
This goes in direct contrast to >>34077857
This.

Make it make sense

>>34080402
Being a loner guy is a catch 22. Anything you do, you are obviously doing wrong and shouldn't be doing at all because you don't get pussy.
At the same time, anything you are NOT doing, is the sole reason you don't get women.
Example:
>lonely guy asks for advice, gets told "you need to go to the gym, and get jacked, women love muscular guys, why havent you been doing that"
>lonely guy gets jacked, still no women
>"why did you get jacked, retard, women hate muscular guys. You need to go to climbing gyms, thats where women are"
>guy goes to climbing gym for a few months, no success
>"you are retarded, why would you look for women at a climbing gym, you need to do..."
Repeat infinitely. As long as you don't get a girlfriend, everything you did in the previous iterations was completely wrong. If you did get a girlfriend, everything you did was correct and perfect

Happy hunting!

>be 37
>banged a hot college girl a few weeks ago
Maybe try developing a personality, you dweeb

>>34080371
>So i am a genuine example of someone who has tried his jardest (i still am trying) yet has had 0 luck. Meanwhile most of the guys i know who have girlfriends don't really have any hobbies apart from watching tv shows with their girlfriends or playing videogames, and their girlfriends literally fell into their laps

Okay, and I believe you 100%. I have no reason to think you are lying and I will believe in good faith you did and still do try your hardest. If I were in your shoes I’d be frustrated to all hell and want to tear my own dick off and throw it down a fucking toilet from the frustration if that’s how your efforts have went so far. I respect the dedicated hard work you put in, not many guys have that especially in the face of constant dead ends, lesser men would have quit a long time ago.


>I am extroverted and have the gift of gab, i just don't meet any babes to use it on.
I’d want to examine this gift of gab claim. I believe you have gift of gab, no doubt. I enjoyed your writing prose alone. But be that as it may, gift of gab can still land flat on its ass if you are missing the other key: Gift of intuition. Social timing, social cues, making the correct reads on subtleties and nuances and contexts. You could have the most silver tongue in the world but if the situation calls for bronze and you bring silver, you’re out. If it calls for wood and you bring silver, you’re out. That’s my analogy for saying
You can know what to say, but its important to know how and when.

But i dont know you personally so I can’t call it I could be completely way off base too. Do keep trying though I suspect you’ll hit your mark sooner than later.

>>34080452
Well i'm not angry or bitter, because i love the things i do, i don't do them to meet women, though that would be a nice bonus. I give myself time until i hit 30, then i will go and buy a high end prostitute and give up. But i hope that the law of large numbers is on my side and i succeed in finding a girl by then.

I think i'm okay with social cues, i can befriend strangers on planes or make friends with random passers-by when on holiday in foreign countries.

My main cope for the lack of success so far is "it's just a numbers game", but my worldview gets bruised whenever i'm playing fifth or seventh wheel for my friends and their girlfriends and all their stories of how they met are some permutation of "oh we were neighbours since we were kids" or "we went to the same high school and she came up to me". One friend recently broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years and he admits he has absolutely no idea how he attractes her (she came up to him) and has no idea how or even if he will get another girlfriend. I started taking him to the gym with me to cheer him up and give him a hobby.

>>34080474
>I think i'm okay with social cues, i can befriend strangers on planes or make friends with random passers-by when on holiday in foreign countries.

And do you avoid common human errors or habits such as ‘people-pleasing’ & ‘oversharing’? Those can kill your ability to pull people in if you are unknowingly practicing those. People pleasing is nice but too nice, too formal, too dry. And oversharing kills mystery and intrigue right away.

Not that I think you do these, just me projecting my own issues when I was younger and also a common hurdle for lots of guys.

>>34077786
This isn’t for OP because he is a troll who has been doing this crap for years but to all lurker anons.

GET OFF THIS WEBSITE. YOU WILL NOT FIND ANY GOOD ADVICE HERE, IT IS A SHITHOLE. TALK TO GUYS AND GIRLS IN REAL LIFE AND MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS KNOWN AND YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT. THIS PLACE WILL ONLY POISON YOU.

>>34078784
While things the common advice
>go to social events
>find a girl
It still is a luck based thing
The way to eliminate luck is to backwards analyze your own persona
What archetype are you of a male?
What type of girl likes this archetype / character? That I have chosen to be?

Where does this type of girl hang out?

That’s where you begin increasing your luck

>>34078057
juggernaut theory

>>34080500
>GET OFF THIS WEBSITE.
Hmm.. sounds like something somebody, who's giving me bad advice, would say..

>>34077790
>Because you don't talk to women
/thread

>>34077786
Ten minutes on tinder and I guarantee you can match with a fat, busted looking black bitch.

Your question is actually "Why is it impossible to find an attractive gf?" and the answer is, because you're unattractive.

To become attractive, you have to develop either your style, your physique, your finances, your personality, or any combination of those four things.

You're essentially this suburban upper middle class white guy whose mother pampers instead of someone who lives a real life doing real things. If you were gay people would feel everything clicks with your background. Given you're not, people think your hiding something sinster. You essentially give off Jeffrey Epstein feels, being good looking, but so trustworthy and around authority you could twist it to manipulate people and rape them without anyone knowing, compared to your average pothead who just parties and hates school, you are the more evil one.

>>34077790
Why is it impossible to find a single woman to talk to
the whole internet is full of men