If I don't get any responses I'm doing it in an hour.At first this post is going to be a vent and at the end an advice request.Basically I went to a few dates with this girl I met in university, an insecure girl, not really comfortable with herself, but I liked her. After a month of seeing each other we stopped and she told she wasn't interested in relationships.fast forward to a few months later she writes to me, things start coming back together, I tell myself that I'll give her a last chance, if she isn't interested I'll then begin considering her as a friend.We meet a few days later, but she is mentally distant, I don't even understand why she deflects any fun or romantic topic like a pest, for some other reason when I signal that I'm about to go she insists that I stay, I stay for some time and nothing really happens.I guess she wasn't into me, still don't know why she texted me out of the blue after months of being apart.I text her after the holidays and she ignores it, send her another, she replies, send her a text to possibly meet as friends, she ignores it.I'm not foreseeing to see this girl ever again since she ghosted me and we don't have any groups in common.-----She is cute and I feel bad for her obsession on losing weight and insecurity; I want to close all the threads I left behind before the arrival of the new year and not having to think about it anymore, which is why I'll text her this:"Anyways, you really are beautiful altough you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, it's not like we are planning to see each other again"Is this a good idea? I don't wanna think about the strange ways she treated the dates anymore, she did me no harm, but I want to stop thinking about her, have a closure.
>>34078143>I'm not foreseeing to see this girl ever again since she ghosted me and we don't have any groups in common.That is the correct path. You've given her enough chances.
>>34078174>You've given her enough chances.Yeah, but should I text her that last message? I don't have resentment towards her, she's kinda insecure (shouldn't be) so she might need the compliment and I want to plainly close with her before the new year, cleaning my mind.
>>34078143>for some other reason when I signal that I'm about to go she insists that I stayShe wants to be with you, but doesn't need you to be actively with her. I know this doesn't make a lot of sense. Picrel helped my figure this out.I would suggest 2 things - first, talk to her about this. Ask her what she explicitly wants from the relationship. Explain to her what you want from the relationship. Then the both of you have to decide if you want to continue, within those parameters.
>>34078215>Yeah, but should I text her that last message?No, because it looks like you're baiting for a response, and it looks like she's using you as a crutch somehow. If you really have to get the last word, just say hey, I just wanted to let you know that I thought you were really cute and funny, any guy would be happy to have you, but I don't think our proverbial legos fit together too well, so I'm going to move on. I hope you have a good holiday and lots of fun with the senpai. See you around campus maybe. Done.
>>34078239>She wants to be with you, but doesn't need you to be actively with her. I know this doesn't make a lot of sense.No, it doesn't, I know from other girls that if they are attracted they get closer to the man or make way for the man to come closer. She isn't attracted and I that part is best settled, otherwise it's transformed in game of tug and pull that doesn't progress, I would waste my time.>>34078247>No, because it looks like you're baiting for a response, and it looks like she's using you as a crutch somehow.So I have to close the possible escape points I guess, I'll change the last part.>funnyshe's not "funny", the compliments I give are real>but I don't think our proverbial legos fit together too well>I hope you have a good holiday and lots of fun with the senpaiOkay, you are trolling.
Possible final version:"Anyways, you really are beautiful although you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, since I don't think we fit well. I'm closing this open-ended thread before new year. I wish you happy holidays and lots of fun around italian bars."
>>34078385That last bit looks like you're being a dickhead. "You're pretty, but I'm moving on" is all you have to say
>>34078396It's a reference to how she asked me to teach her how to speak with the barman, I'm Italian, she's not. Anything could sound like I'm being a dickhead, but this I hope in context makes sense.
New:"Anyways, you really are beautiful although you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, since I don't think we fit well. I'm moving on. I wish you happy holidays and lots of fun around the italian cafes."
"Anyways, you really are beautiful although you don't notice that, and I'm telling you just to let you know, since I don't think we fit well. I'm moving on. I wish you happy holidays and lots of fun around the italian cafes, without mistaking your ordering"makes more sense, yeah I think this is it.
>>34078443*"messing up your order" but yeah, I'm sending this.
I sent it, I might update the thread if I get a reply.I think you guys helped me clean all the hanging threads left in my message and head; it, the message, permeates a positive mood.
>>34078492no one told you to send it but you did it anywayclassic /adv/
