My life sucks so bad right now. I don't have any friends, no girlfriend, and I'm turning 19. I'm going to uni but I'll join a course I didn't really want to take because my grade on the admission exam wasn't enough to get me accepted into my desired major. I don't have any relevant skill and I'm bad at everything I do. I don't have anything to do during my vacations, really, and I'm quite anhedonic as well. I had potential to be a good human being, but fate disagreed and now I'm a failure.I don't even know how to get out of this jammed situation I found myself in. And I honestly don't think I want or could become a normal person. Since I was 13 I desired having a girlfriend, but when I actually come to envision what life would be like with a gf, it's hard to imagine myself being a "gentleman" to her and doing this kind of manly stuff. No, my T is not low (well, it used to be, but I take a medicine and it is now at 800ng per dL). And when it comes to friends, I guess it would be nice to be able to depend on someone if I need at just spending time together with another human being, but at the same time, most people are midwits and normalfags that are unable to talk about interesting topics.I honestly wonder if I'm depressed. All I wanted to hear is that Im so much better than everyone else, but this probably isn't the case, even if I might be slightly above average. Or maybe I'm not even that. Damn, I wonder if I'm depressed.
dude, once you're Into uni, you're In. you can just transfer to the major or course you want (in most cases), and if not, book an appointment with the Dean of the course (show you're proactively interested in switching in) - unis care about money first, but go-getters second. uni is a whole other life. Join clubs and societies - it keeps you happy and positive something to look forward to, and also is a way to get chicks AND friends who share the same interests as you. :)the 'so much better than everyone' attitude is what will bring you down in the end (espesh in college - because you just become a Number in a large system). try and work on reframing it to being the 'better than previous me' or the best youve ever been relative to you. else you'll probs drown. join clubs you like to keep spirits up and be happy (because classes Will kick Everyone's ass - so, you need something else to look forward to outside of it). Good luck anon.
>>34079132My university is thankfully tuition-free, but yeah, I'm going to apply to transfer my major. Last year, there were 13 applicants for 5 vacancies. Maybe I will be able to transfer. I also plan on joining the athletics to compete at a sport I like, but other than that, I think my life will still be rather empty...
>>34079161that's good to hear. transfers are definitely a go-go. i challenge you to take up one extra club of something you never thought you would Ever do - idk, like, anime club, or a theatre production. something weird. something completely out there. challenge you to go to three weeks in a row - if you dislike it in the end, then leave it, pick a new club, do three weeks, etc. until you find an unexpected one that sticks. even for the smartest people and people in courses they like, classes will always become A Lot (whether its pressure, time committments, boredom, overload -there'll always be something). stick through it - uni is a different life to school, and after uni as well. If things get empty, pick up another random hobby. Volunteer in the community (even if you don't /want/ to or feel lazy cant be assed, someone else out there Does want you to help them out, and its better than staring at a wall or sleeping all day. You seem like a driven person, so, give it a shot.If you're bored in the holiday break and want to prepare, then read textbooks on your class in advance -doesnt have to be the official one, just look on the Internet Archive for anything in ur discipline . :)
>>34079102nico nico ni-
>>34079102>>34079132>>34079242I relate hard to all of this except the possibilities of clubs. My school is fucking dead. It's not a school. For one thing, it's a commuter campus. NEVER enroll at one of those. I remember how hopeful I was about the potential of joining clubs.We don't have students. God fuck this place is a fucking joke. I ended up at the most desolate and empty campus in the universe. The universe exists to screw me
>>34079278hmm that sucks bro. is there any way you can organise a placement or a student-swap as a part of a class?or maybe start some clubs? it's harder to do when the infrastructure isnt there, but, there are probably heaps of students who feel the same way as you if it's as shit as you say it is. maybe even just starting with a noticeboard and putting up a paper that you'd like to start a clubs committee, or just pick a club to start of something you like (or even course-related). you can apply for community grants, or even the uni will help you when they see someone trying to set it up. it's not impossible - but, it is harder unfortunately. definitely sucks anon, sorry to hear it, but, maybe there's some way. i wish you luck!
>>34079327ty anon, have a bump
if i were you i would either apply to a bunch universities for that one major and maybe get into one, or retake the exams next year instead of settling for a major that is useless. and as for vacations i think you can spend them in a good way even if you dont travel or party with friends. quit social media, stop using your phone, go outside, find some nice spots in nature, go hiking, etc.
