how does one know they're fit for a relationship?I keep meeting people who've been through multiple divorces and I just don't get it. How do they keep fucking up even after having so much practice? And how do I know I won't be the same way? Is it learned, or are you born with it? Do you have to have good parents and a loving upbringing, or is there hope for everyone?
>>34079407I think being a good partner is part personality but it’s mostly learning and adaptability. You have to be willing to change as a person to fit your partner’s needs. You have to be willing to accept when you make a mistakes or when you’re wrong. You need to find a partner who is the same.You need to learn how to be a good partner by being in a relationship, and you have to leave your ego at the door. If you can do that then you’re fit for a relationship. Divorces happen for a million different reasons and it could be completely on the fault of the other person. It’s impossible to say if that will happen to you.
>>34079407The people with multiple divorce either don't learn or fix their obvious personality defects (case in point, my father is on marriage #3 and never stopped cheating) or they pick the wrong people. A lot of people choose partners that are just a really bad match and that explains many of the multiple divorces
>>34079407>I keep meeting people who've been through multiple divorces and I just don't get it. How do they keep fucking up even after having so much practice?That one is easy. Once you know you know, and it’s sad when you know because you can be in a room and you can tell who is gonna eat a divorce just by hearing the way that person talks. If someone talks about>”falling” in love>”the one”, finding “the one”>”us against the world”>”ride or die”All that teenage minded bullshit, you hear it just once coming from someone’s mouth you know for a fact they’re gonna be part of that 51% divorce statistic. Because they out themselves as having the emotional maturation of a child.
>>34079407once a guy/girl is divorced i think the chances they'll stay in their next marriage plummet.it also hugely depends on the number of premarital partners. so yeah, good marriage is picking a good partner and then you both working to maintain it. a good partner is hard to find though.
>>34079407>How do they keep fucking up even after having so much practice?You are thinking about it backwards : they've had practice at fucking up relationships.
>>34079687Interesting take, but I suspect you are wrong.From what I've read, the most telling factor for a long lived relationship is respect. If the couple don't respect each other, it's doomed. And lack of respect can be subtle or obvious.
>>34079407It would be difficult to make curtains out of concrete. Doesn't matter how good your method is if you're working with the wrong materials.
>>34079687kek this is exactly it i think. i've noticed that pattern too>>34079844this is the other bad option. what you're referring to is "religious nut who's so scared of divorce they'll stay in an abusive situation". not very interested.
>>34079886>Interesting take, but I suspect you are wrong.>From what I've read, the most telling factor for a long lived relationship is respect. If the couple don't respect each other, it's doomed. And lack of respect can be subtle or obvious.You’re not wrong, but you’re grabbing the pointy end of the stick. I’m talking about the root, where lack of respect develops from. And it develops when two fantasists date each other, when two idiots have in their head an idea of an ideal love, and an ideal person, “the one”. What happens is both idiots will write the whole script to the fantasy movie of what they THINK should be their love life in their own heads, and then get bitterly mad at each other when one partner doesn’t know the lines of the script. In other words, idealists will start disrespecting the people they date for falling short of their ideal. These types of people never fall in love with other humans, only approximate ideas of humans they project onto the face and body of whoever agreed to date them. So eventually what happens without fail is a ticking time bomb to break up or divorce.Could happen in days, weeks, months, years, decades even. But it always happens to them without fail no matter what. Then they become a statistic, a 51% stat. And instead of actually reflecting on themselves, they will call it ‘misfortune’ or they dated he ‘wrong’ person at the ‘wrong’ time, or if theyre especially immature and retarded, will villainise their exes as if they had been victims of emotional robbery or some crazy shit. And they’ll continue to think love is all a numbers game or a statistics game and chance rules everything lol.
>>34080210>t. virgin
