I broke up with my ex, as I couldn't see a daily life with them and didn't want to waste their time. After a month or two, we had a talk or two post-breakup where I indicated I didn't mean to hurt them so badly. I felt I was doing what was best for me as I knew they wanted more seriousness. They were hurt but appreciated where I came from and that I would reach out at all. She told me she would reach out to meet up one more time to try and be friendly Immediately following that there was no follow up on their part, and in fact they now won't even look at me in public. I feel like I'm in a dumb position where I broke up with them, but I'm the one with hurt feelings. I know it isn't so simple, but it's as if as the dumper I am supposed to be the jerk who gets to escape the bad feelings and the dumper is left with the pieces. But I really didn't want to be that jerk (historically I have been that jerk), which is why I reached out in the first place. And it's not as simple as I regret breaking up. Trust me, I explore that feeling regularly especially on sad lonely nights. It wasn't going to work long term, they have issues. We live in a small town (I see them weekly) and I'm just looking for advice on how to navigate these feels. And maybe perspective on why they are doing what they are doing. Obviously if they don't want to talk, I won't. Plus it's kind of like, fuck you why did you agree to talk only to be extra cold immediately following. But I'm a social creature and it feels like a nasty void every time I see them, I can't realistically keep going through life completely avoiding them and it being acceptable. This wouldn't be nearly as much trouble if I didn't see them physically...
>>34080495Have you ever tried to put yourself in her perspective? You said yourself it would be much easier if you didn't have to look at her.Now that they want to keep their distance and get on with their life, you feel bothered by it?You seem to have as much empathy as a sociopath. You probably should do therapy.
>>34080495Small town or not, stop interacting with them dumbass. You broke up with her, so move on.
>>34080534All i meant by that is that if they wanted to ghost me after meeting i wouldn’t be as affected if we weren’t in the same circles. I also wouldn’t feel bothered of they didn’t reach out and make plans that they silently went back on. Im sure it was just strong feelings that made them say one thing and do another… I see yourpoint about empathy, is it sociopathic for me to feel bad not for what i did but for how I made them feel? I broke their heart breaking up but i didn’t cheat, i didn’t lie, and I communicated regularly as best i could. Anyways don’t bully me im about to jump and this blood will be on your hands>>34080547I’m not interacting with them, nor will i. Just looking for advice how how to cope with the feelings. Im not used to small town things.
Sounds like they're the immature asshole, why waste any attention/emotional expense on them? You lost nothing of value but some immature retard who won't communicate cuz they're of this emotionally retarded immature generation who grew up with this culture of tiny ignorant little social media bubbles where their world is constricted to tiny echo chambers and they are not open to anything outside of the same familiar myopic narrow set of things they were born/raised withYou were doing what was best for them, respecting their time and not leading them on etc, they are retarded if they don't acknowledge that
