I truly believe something is cursed either with me or my area. I rarely get dates. I am talking maybe 1-2 dates every 5-6 years. I am 33 and male. I have been on dating apps for over a decade and had a single date from one of them. My friends basically told me that I shouldn't use dating apps. Not because they don't work but because I live in a smallish area(city of about 45,000 people). So obviously the apps are not as volume filled. A friend from Los Angeles basically told me that living in really big cities is such an advantage for dating that even being average will net you a decent amount of dates. Overall, I am not looking for one night stands at all. I am looking to eventually get a girlfriend. My trouble is that I just can't meet any woman anywhere. I have tried online dating, real life(going to bars and such), tried asking real life friends if they know any single woman that may like me etc. No options anywhere. The most jarring thing was going to bars in real life. I never go to bars. I went to 3 bars in town. One was filled with maybe 40-50 somethings who chain smoke. 2nd was a sports bar but the crowd appeared to be heavy contractor folk. Basically no women there. Last bar had drug addicts hanging out in it. Didn't stay long.So what are my options? I just don't know where to go, where to look, what to invest my time into when it comes to searching etc. I think this is why I envy women. It seems like every woman I know basically had the man fall into her lap. Not saying they had to do nothing but it feels like I have to actively search while they get to just passively do whatever they were doing and meet someone.
I have also tried maybe checking out some hobby spaces around town. Unfortunately, most of that stuff is male dominated. Even stuff like rock climbing was male dominated. It was a decent amount of fun though. I don't think I'd do it all the time but it was okay. There must be something with my area man.
>>34080916>my area.It could be you but the area sucking is a real thing.I lived in NYC- tons of dates could have multiple girlfriends at once. Bumfuck Upstate NY- next to nothing. My advice would be to visit bigger areas and look for a girlfriend while you are there and if it works out move to there or have her move in with you. The dead areas you kind of just need to marry your school friends or be a millionaire chad or you are fucked.
>>34082738Fuck. I was afraid of that. It seems like most of my friends somehow managed to get girlfriends who all live closer to them but it may just be that they have known these women from those highschool days etc. The last woman I managed to date lived 1 hour from me and I found that to be too long of a drive. Or rather, too long of a drive to do consistently. Am I being too picky when it comes to distance on dating apps? Should I increase the range from 15 miles to 100 miles or something? I don't like that just because I know the distance is going to eventually bother me if I do get to date a woman.
>>34082746If you want to date someone nearby you are going to have to get really lucky or obtain some high status in the area or get rich + ripped. If you are a pussy about driving don't bother increasing the distance.
