Well, not quite, but that's almost the gist of it.Basically, after turning 30 and moving to a completely different country, I've accepted the fact that either I make friends at work (alternatively, some weekend sports club) or I'm stuck as lonely loser for the rest of my life. This year, I tried my best to befriend someone, anyone, especially because I really like my current workplace. I've joined my colleagues for drinks post-work, asked them out for lunch, joined some of them for their martial arts practice, tried to watch/play/listen to stuff they like in my free time, so I have more topics to talk about. I also tried to become a person who others would be interested in befriending, by trying out new hobbies and becoming all-around knowledgeable. In a way, that worked: I feel like we've became a tiny bit more comfortable around each other. A few most outgoing ones even referred to us as friends.The thing is, I don't really see them to put any effort to build a relationship with me. I rarely, if ever, get invited for things outside of work. I don't think most (any?) of them have any interest in my hobbies or likes/dislikes. In other words, they don't try to meet me halfway. I've been chalking that up to them being socially awkward (some of them truly are) and me being the only foreigner around, but there are limits to those kind of copes too.Am I weird for even feeling that way? Part of me is constantly discouraged by lack of tangible progress in relationship with people I spend tons of time with, the other part is ashamed for being that needy, and in the end I spend every other day going down this stress spiral.>inb4: just bee urself
Unfortunately, true friendships are rare, and they're becoming even more rare in modern times. You're fighting a force stronger than you. I'm not saying "give up", but manage your expectations.
>>34085896Either your standards are too high or you're too scared/shy. If you want a friend, be a friend. I'm sure there's plenty of homeless people right outside who'd think that being your friend was the greatest blessing God could possibly give them. Oh but no, that's not what you mean right? Not those people. You might get hurt, they might get their yucky germs on you. Like do you know trash of a person you sound saying " I tried my best to befriend someone, anyone, especially because I really like my current workplace. I also tried to become a person who others would be interested in befriending, by trying out new hobbies and becoming all-around knowledgeable?" You sound like someone who's either a real piece of shit snob or someone who's a little slow or something. Try saying that non-sense to someone who REALLY can't make friends and actually tries to. Go volunteer, go to a church. Go to mcdonalds and buy 20 cheeseburgers and drive around pass em out to the homeless. Stop being a uppity snob dude. THAT'S WHY YOU DON'T HAVE FRIENDS. Moron.
>>34085941>Go to mcdonalds and buy 20 cheeseburgers and drive around pass em out to the homeless.I'd rather buy them machetes to keep them safe.
>>34085896>Yet another "I don't have friends" vent threadThanks for the helpful title. I won't read the rest.
