>Received multiple happy Birthday text by multiple men, friends, relatives>But not from the one man i am actually in love>Basically invisible but only to the ones i likeAnd this keep happening in my Life. FUCK. JUST WHY. WHY
>>34086625It's because you are attracted to avoidant men. Notice how the one who stays away the most is the one you crave the hardest? This is because you find something strangely intoxicating and even mysteriously familiar about this dynamic where you are unheard, unseen by a male who you want love from.
>>34086636I know. Then how can i turn him into maddening loving me? Its all i care.
>>34086642You can't. But what you can do is realize who the first man in your life it was where you craved for his love and attention but he either would not or could not and no matter how hard you cried or screamed his back was always turned to you. You know who that is. You need to let go of that ghost of the past and you'll be free
>>34086642>into maddening loving me?You would drop him as soon as he would become available.
just tell himI forgot a friend's birthday and instead sent her an unrelated goofy dog gif, she called me out so i invited her to pizza
>>34086655No, i truly love him>>34086664I gave him multiple clear signs. But i also know men are usually clueless idiots that need explicit infodumps to realize anything
>>34086690>I gave him multiple clear signs. But i also know men are usually clueless idiots that need explicit infodumps to realize anythingYou don't know this, but many of us men play dumb on purpose. There's lots of things we notice and can see in what a woman wants or expects and we just turn a blind eye and act like we don't see it when we do. We do it when we can't be assed to bother. What you're calling 'explicit info dumps' is what us men call "nagging". And we pretend to be dumb precisely because that's what we want to run away from, a woman's nagging. We bury our heads in sand to maybe give her the message that we can't be assed. Or maybe this guy of yours is different and he is genuinely oblivious and would like you back if he was told more directly. You tried doing that? You ever verbally said to him. "hello. I have strong romantic feelings for you." ??? Try it
>>34086655This. I literally was that guy, then I became too available, then I got dropped. Nothing you did in the past matters, it's like overnight they decide you are scum.
>>34086625been on the opposite end and my experience was fear of want. i was afraid to want her because my life would change (for the better) and i am a bitch stuck in the mud. it is scary to want and be wanted. selfish inadequacies pushing away someone i loved by fearing love.not sure if im him but from bad family examples, porn, and pain i have chosen prejudice spending years fostering this contempt and now trying to unwind it. maybe he loves you, maybe he doesnt want to want you tho he knows he should so hell try to push you away, maybe he is dense, maybe youre crazy, maybe he thinks he can do better.do you spend time with him? has he met your parents? have you told your parents about him? could be you need to force his hand with a family effort to obligate him to come over.dunno. im a piece of shit. do what you think is best.
>>34086625Nobody did anything wrong to you. Shut up.
>>34086717Yep. That's why I'm cold even in relationships now because bitches don't appreciate shit. I gave my gf Christmas gifts today and I didn't even get a card in return, its no big deal because I know that's how you bitches roll. The more you love, the more it's thrown back at you
>>34088063>I gave my gf Christmas gifts today and I didn't even get a card in return, its no big dealNta im a guy but normally I’d tell someone in your position that you should never give for the sake of getting back & its better to just give without expecting returns. But holy shit not even a christmas card? Watch out for that OP thats red flag territory.I had an ex who did similar on Valentine’s days and birthdays. When I asked her about it, she would say “I am your present” because she was narcissistic as fuck.
>>34088275>OPmy bad youre not OP. Point remaining though, thats some fucked shit anon. Not every girl is like that I promise you, I used to believe all girls were selfish brats too but then I stopped dating them and now I got a girl who gifts me like crazy
>>34086690unironically what is a clear sign
>>34088336I talk to him a lot, called him a jerk multiple times, find any opportunity to met him and asked him to not bother me on chat despite giving him my IG (reverse psycology). I mean its should be oblivious
>>34088359That seems like gay teenager nonsense. You're giving mixed signals.
>>34088359Its not obvious
>>34086625you piece of shit bitch I'd love such a text from literally anyone
>>34086708Speak for yourself dude. If a woman info dumps on me I'm not going to avoid her I'm gonna dump all this cum into her mouth hole asap
>>34088428I feel youIt's rough out here
>>34088359>asked him to not bother me on chat despite giving him my IG (reverse psycology). I mean its should be obliviouswe gave this the right to vote
>>34088359>and asked him to not bother mewoman moment
>>34086625Be grateful someone remembers your birthday. My birthday is basically just another regular day
>>34086655Yup. Exactly. Women just enjoy getting what they can't get. It's why the wedding ring effect mostly happens to female. You rarely see men stealing other men's wife. It's always women stealing other women's husband.
>>34086625I haven't received any birthday texts in my entire life. Go fuck yourself
