I'm honestly scared of her, even if we have a 7 year agegap (she's 21) i somehow find her more mature at least superficially? And that stop me from trying to understand her more, she has like this perfect image of herself that stop me from even trying to get closer other than the formal "hi" "happy birthday"...
>>34086684Consider seeing a therapist, there may be some repressed sexuality there
>>34086700>repressed sexuality thereWhat do you mean by that? i don't want to have sex with her, i just don't want to get yelled at as she's a very acid woman
>>34086705Don't listen to that anon, he's deliberately trying to sexualize your topic because he's a bored and horny fantasist with too much time on his hands on Christmas day.
>>34086684Anyway, since that other gooner anon brought out the word 'therapy' may as well throw out some concepts. Look up "Golden Child & Scapegoat family dynamic". It's when parents highly favor one sibling and do everything to support them and give them every advantage, but then for the other sibling they do absolutely nothing, no support no encouragement no financial or material provisions to help reach success, nothing or even worse, controlled or constantly criticized and punished. Meanwhile golden child gets all the praise and love. Or golden child makes the same mistakes or similar ones and gets no punishment, but if you do the same you get hell for it. So what happens is, golden child feels more adult. Scapegoat (you) feels so tiny compared to them in mind and spirit, like a child. Even if they're younger than you are. Sound familiar?
>>34086684Well my sister and i have the similar age gap of 6 years and to be honest she is a real bitch she bad mouth me and i came to a conclusion that if she wants a brother to care about her,try not to treat him like shit, i avoid her mostly its sad but what do you do about it right?
>>34086729Nah, they kinda support us 50/50 honestly, maybe i gave my parents more hell in my teenager years and got more attention from them? And she forced herself to be the person i was not? (perfect scores in college and healthy, i'm the opposite lol) I really don't know without talking to her, still scares me, a few months ago we went to see a movie and after i made a not very kind comment on a woman actress (my bad) she shushed me in front of her friend and our dad and i felt like shit for the rest of the day>>34086742I really don't know how this started, i feel like it was always like this, one day she was all over me and loved her big brother, the next she was aggressive
>>34086748Oh okay, so it's nothing seriously dysfunctional causing the sibling tension that's good. I think she shushed you but because of the comment about an actress. But because she was watching a movie and some people are easily distracted by talking when they wanna watch a movie and someone talks it can disrupt their focus a bit and they go "shush".Did she do the shush super angrily though and bitch like? Like she was an angry parent or teacher doing it yknow the vibe?
>>34086758>Not because of the comment about the actress*
>>34086758>Did she do the shush super angrily though and bitch like? Like she was an angry parent or teacher doing it yknow the vibe?it was after the movie when we were going back home, and yeah, in a very authoritative way, like an angry parent but even worse? Like in a disgusted bratty/bitchy way. She does that to our parents aswell since i moved out and keep getting worse
>>34086684First off find out what her personality is if she is a narcissistic person don't bother as down the line you will be blamed for something that you have not done to make them feel better and if your emotionally involved it makes you second guess yourself. If she's a normal sister start by asking her how her day is and tips on stuff like how to get away with stuff with your parents. Also if she tells you something bad DO NOT tell your parents about it as this is her testing you
>>34086742Thats a lot better than my sister she got 10k off my mother for her lawyer fees when she had a divorce from her boyfriend and she told her to fuck off and threw dads funeral in her face. So at xmas I asked her did you apologize to mum and she threatened to leave I told her go ahead as you have to be at least that level of decency to be here. She left mum was upset but happy at the same time that someone stood up to her.
>>34086790>Also if she tells you something bad DO NOT tell your parents about it as this is her testing youTo be honest the problem is how to start, even how's your day will just get me a one word response, i'm a serious and not shy person overall if needed. I have no problem keeping things to myself, i would only discuss it with one online friend because she's helping me with this aswell
>>34086803Well if you want to test the waters do something like you had a beer at a friends and see if she tells your parents and if they find out tell them that you want to connect with your sister this is what will be difficult as you will feel embarrassed and even though it will be painful it will bridge the gap and make sure you tell your parents its a all made up about the alcohol now if your parents are the overprotective they will see it for a desperate connection.
>>34086748Yeah i agree it is weird same thing happened she was nice and boom a real pain in the ass it happened around when she was a teenager tho she became bi girl personality and she started shiting on me around those time to be honest she is not the brightest girl also i know she is fine because she has a big sister also hates me i haven't talked to them in a while when i moved 2 years ago it got worse i haven't talked to them in a while went back home for Christmas, new years stuff they are still the same i will just wait it out until they want a brother in there life.
>>34086814I mean, my parents are not in the picture at all, them and my sister have a whole different set of problems together, the whole game of telling or not our parents is not worth even trying. I'm an adult aswell, i can drink alcohol if i want to lol, she woulnd't care
