>>34089548
OP if you think you're not mature enough that's something you can't change. The age difference is causing that

>>34089548
this is a well thought out problem asking for a clear solution. i do not believe you are a woman.

>>34089548
He likes you because he can manipulate you. He's with you because he cannot trick anyone else into thinking highly of him. Every other woman he meets thinks lowly of him, because that's what he deserves.

You should go back to school and earn a degree and get a high-paying job, and then he can dump you because he's no longer interested in you once he feels that he can't hold his power imbalance over you anymore.

>>34089548
>just don't get why he likes me so much
it makes you susceptible to doing the nasty things he wants because you're young and gullible. once you begin to set hard boundaries that will dry up and he will slow fade you. men don't date internationally unless they want to be able to disappear forever

>>34089584
/thread

>>34089584
A bitter 30yo female typed this.

>>34089548
>I don't know why he likes me so much


>he likes me so much
>help me change completely

Many such cases.

>>34089573
But what if I read more and worked really hard? People mature when they think and experience stuff. The more I think and experience the more I'll mature. I need to become a woman and stop being stupid.

>>34089580
I won't show you my tits.

>>34089584
You think if I become better he will dump me or do you think I'll dump him? Because I wouldn't dump him. I love him more than anything.

>>34089588
We know eachother's parents.

>>34089614
I feel stupid, maybe you are right and I shouldn't worry so much.

>>34089616
If you climb higher on any "ladder" than him (job income or prestige) then he will either dump you, or he will dump his life and stay at home all day playing video games as a cope (while he contributes nothing to the household and still expects you to do all the chores). This is what happens to men who don't date their equals. They must be above you, or they give up on life if they can't be.

You should read more and work hard because the sooner you're free of him, the sooner you're free in general.

>>34089632
I don't wanna be "free of him", I want to be his.

>>34089548
people are mysterious, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. but prepare to be used, and have an exit plan

>>34089672
Then give up all aspirations of improving yourself. He enjoys you most when he is far above you.

>>34089548
>am stupid vulnerable easily manipulated person
>goes to the worst cesspit on the clear internet
>find an older man from another country who wants you to move away from your support network
Unless you're a thirdie that needs a visa this is suicide.

>>34089548
He clearly already likes you, so no need to change any of that stuff. That said, it is always good to learn more, learn skills (like cooking, plumbing, carpentry, sewing), and get fit

>>34089548
Instead of taking everyones opinions here at face value, why don't you ask him what he wants? What about what your parents think?

Though if you want a general rule of thumb to keep a man happy: feed him, sex him, appreciate him. And generally support him and make his life easier, but all this could be also be hogwash since everyone is different, so try communicating, he might tell you himself exactly what he wants.

>>34089548
Don't try hard to act mature. By your definition it seems like you'll fall into an inferiority complex. Learn to see through virtue and consider the possibility he could slime you out anytime. If you can't digest that, realize that guy origins and your young ass.

>>34089683
He is not that way. I think he actually loves me.

>>34089711
He is really sweet and good. My parents love him.

>>34089718
Ok yes! Im already fit but maybe I could learn more skills.

>>34089719
I already asked him: he says he loves me and I am enough. My parents say Im adorable and I shouldnt worry kek. Thank you, this is really good cute advice. I was already planing on doing that. I want to spoil him so bad. Its just I think Im not valuable as a person and I don't want to be a disappointment/burden.

>>34089750
I don't think its that. I don't distort my self-view. I just want to be better for him, because I love him.

>>34089548
You're getting a lot of bad advice here from, excuse my French, miserable cunts. Being long-distance is certainly not ideal. I think it'll be difficult to have anything long-term until you close the distance properly. That being said, I don't want to rain on your parade. You owe it to yourself to do your best to nurture this relationship. Firstly, I think you're fine the way you are. Take it from me, men don't really date women because they're educated. They hardly care. It's like how men think they'll get women if they have the biggest muscles in a crowd. They'll mostly impress other men with that. Instead of trying to become someone else, you should grow as a person. If you'd like to be more educated or knowledgeable, try some good magazines for surface-level knowledge, or get into literature. If you want to be classy, learn about proper etiquette and dress the part. To be honest, you don't really have the right to question his feelings because they're his feelings, not yours. Accept that he loves you. Now, aim to make his life easier. If you want to be a good girlfriend/wife, that's the #1 thing to focus on. Some food for thought: I don't know a single man who wouldn't be pleased if his girlfriend were a good cook. As a man, I date women who make my life easier. The three traits a woman should have are these: flexibility, giving, and integrity. That being said, it sounds to me like you think you're not worthy of him. It's his place to decide that, not yours.

>>34089548
all I would want from a woman is (a) she's not a whore and (b) she's loyal
if you have those two down, you're golden

>>34089779
I love your way of writing. Yes, being long-distance is hard, I miss him a lot. You are right, I shouldn't question his feelings and I should definitely improve as a person. I will try to become a better cook, dress better and read more. I think I am those traits you mention, but I'll keep that in mind. I really enjoyed reading your answer and it has helped me. Thank you a lot anon.

>>34089782
yay Im golden :)

>>34089548
You have to be a girl to be a girlfriend. You will never be either.

>>34089772
>Cute advice
Uhh... Sure

The most basic thing you can do is make yourself as pretty as you can for him, then be loyal to him, then become a competent partner, emotionally, physically, socially, then become a competent mother. If he can take care of you then you can really focus on improving yourself, taking care of him, then taking care of your family, ideally speaking...

Anyways, since you essentially want to improve yourself so you can proudly stand by his side, (which is very respectable) then chatgpt would be better suited than /adv/ on these (and most) topics.

>>34089942
Thank you so much anon! Yeah, you are right. Ill ask ChatGPT how to become competent in those aspects.

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>>34089772
>He is really sweet and good. My parents love him.
So too is a pitbull before he takes a bite. Atleast finish your education and get a job in his area before moving there. Also its interesting how the women who think men can actually love them, are the ones always getting screwed over in relationships. Men are for protection, sperm and money and not much else, and you give them the illusion of loving them in order to bolster their ego.

>>34089953
Glad you found it helpful, one last thing you can try in hopes of being pointed to a more relevant direction, try asking him again but not in a heavy, insecure, “Am I enough for you?? (Please validate me)” way that puts him on the spot, but in a sweet, curious, loving way:

“I want to be the best partner I can be for you. What makes you feel most loved and appreciated in a relationship?”

“What do you value most in a girlfriend/wife?”

“Are there things I do that make your life better or happier? And anything you wish I did more/less of?”

“When you think about our future together, what kind of woman do you picture by your side?”

>>34089953
From using chat gpt i can now appear to be educated on a certain subject, but i actually am not.

>>34089548
>I feel like I am not mature, smart or cool enough for him.
Okay, I don't want to sound unkind - or at least not unnecessarily unkind - but you're right: you aren't mature enough for him. Quite possibly you aren't the other two things either. This is simply not going to work out. He probably knows that and is using you; but even if he isn't, it still won't work out.

I don't understand if the replies are a larp or actually bitter females, either way they are envious you get love; you seem kind.
To be a better woman my 2 cents are learning and explore being more feminine, try new clothes and ways that you like to present yourself and see what he likes! (Not what the current vogue likes, men, especially on 4chan, have different tastes and there's probably a particular style he likes) Also read some old literature to delve into deeper feelings and express yourself with more acumen.
Honestly, you should ask him.
Like he said >>34090039
And this anon gave very solid advice >>34089779