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>26 in the new year
>No women since I was 19
>Fat body and thinning hair
>Literally sit in my parents basement and rot every day

It's passed in a flash. I had a booze problem for the majority of my adult life due to being autistic and never fitting in (sober 3 years in feb). I was good at music but never had the social skills when in bands to flirt and get with women. This isn't even about that honestly. My real problem is never wanting things bad enough. I always quit or straight up don't engage with life opportunities and have done for years.

Had a chance to send music to someone in the industry, he asked me personally and I never followed up (that was almost 5 years ago now). Had some good money in my bank from a family member's will and spent it all within a few months on mundane bullshit and it wasnt even the good kind. I could have had a gf a month ago but I couldnt be bothered to drive all the way to see her and see a movie so just ghosted. I was offered gigs where I could get money to start saving for a new car and never followed it up. I worked out for 3 months at home this year and built a real routine then just stopped one day and got even fatter.

Now I'm here, I know what my problems are and I shouldnt be asking you all. Especially since this charade of new years resolutions is contrived anyway. But I've made progress in a few aspects. I can drive, I've played gigs this past year with a band and it's nice to know that I still have just enough hair to pull off an okay look even if it's obvious there's thinning there.

My plan so far is this, get minoxidil again, message people for gigs, get back to working out and maybe join a gym, learn how to properly cook so I can stop being a fat retard and most importantly. When women present themselves actually take them because beggars cant be choosers. No 7/10 goth is going for a fat ass retard like me.

What do you think boys?
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>>34095397
I say don't settle. Your lack of enthusiasm for them won't be fertil soil for a good relationship. I say shoot for the 7/10 goth.
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>>34095397
>I shouldnt be asking you all
some people choose to be losers, and it looks like you've been choosing to be a loser all this time, faggot OP. The fuck you want us to tell you? Not be a loser? That you should try more? You need to learn the reality of life is turmoil and work- and no one is going to be your cheerleader. Like fr grow up. You posting this crybaby drivel makes me sick honestly.
>boohoo I missed all these opportunities
like damn bro that's your own damn fault as an adult. That sucks, honestly. The game was to be successful and be skilled with something at an early age so you can enjoy the fruits of your labor while you are still young. Why do you think in other nations, parents are pressuring their young children to succeed at such an early age? Yet, here you are- crying that you let all these chances pass. What did you want us to do for you? Touch your peepee? What advice did you want?
>fat ass retard like me
atleast you are aware of your situation. You've always had the choice and power to change shit around. Maybe you weren't aware before, but you sure are now. If you still don't make progress within 6 months going into 2026, I don't know what else you want me to say. You are in a global competition- you don't have the time or resources to be fucking around.
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>>34095397
I'm 34. In even worse situation. Be like me, op. You know you want it.
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>>34095397
Your parents aren't going to live forever and they will soon become a burden and then they'll die. And when that happens, your life will be beyond fucked if you don't get your shit together beforehand.
>i was good at music
So am I, classically trained and nearly went to Berklee. What the fuck is your point? Do you believe that you're the only one that's musically inclined? No, you're not.

You're chasing missed opportunities. What for? Do you believe that your life would have went on an upward trajectory had you had done so? Why did you stop working out? Go back to the gym. If not for your physical health, your mental. You'll feel better overall. Do it now. I'm 34 almost and I wish I worked on my physique when I was younger. Minox might work for you long term, but you probably have to stay on it for a while. You say you drive right? Turn that into a business. I did, I've been doing Uber Eats on and off for about five years.
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>>34095693
Are you me?
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>>34095397
Get sober
Get out of the basement
Get a job
Get a life



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