been going out with gf for 3 years. she's pretty amazing except she has tons of diagnoses thar she lets hold her back. autism, adhd, ocd, pcos, endometriosis, childhood trauma, you name it. she lets it invade her mindset way too much imo. she's incredibly capable (she is doing her masters in social work right now) but acts like she's incapable of doing anything.genuinely can't decide how to move forward with her. her family sucks, she has an 8 y/o kid with her ex, she's terrible with money. she constantly whines about how unfair the world is. but she's beautiful, always dtf, supports me to hell and back (she'd literally let me fuck a prostitute if I asked her to, she's talked about hiring one for me). sucks my cock like her life literally depends on it.idk. i really like her but something feels weird about it. feel like every time I meet some great girl I start thinking about the optimal stopping problem. aren't i definitionally a cuck if i help raise someone else's child? how do you know that there's not someone better out there?
How she still fertile with all that dogpile PCOS endometriosis8 yo kid, tf how old sheIt's cucked unless you have more kids
just finding a girl who's dtf is a pipe dream for the majority of posters here bro. you are not going to find better than her
>>34099024Also, therapoo's everyone, again. Ofc the retard acting all helpless and muh fifty mental illnesses tries to become therapoo. And not the person with a head intact to actually model off of. Therapoo trying to therapoo themselves to no avail. If they were worth their weight they'd be cured of all those retarded labels by now
i can guarantee you that these problems will magnify by a power of 10 if you marry her. this is not the person you want to bind yourself to legally or religiously. she will spend all of your money. she will sap all of your energy with her meaningless whining. she will always excuse her behavior because of "ADHD". she will see you as the financial provider and have little motivation to get a job with that master's degree.how do i know all this. well i was with a girl very much like yours. as soon as things got "serious" and she believed marriage was on the way, everything got worse. she stopped working on her degree (anon can pay for everything). she stopped going to therapy (anon can deal with me). she refused to take responsibility for her actions (if i act sad enough, anon will feel pity). and I realized that she was bringing NOTHING to the table except whining and a pussy, which was likely infertile due to endometriosis.sit her down and tell her to get her act together. she needs to act like a wife. if she demonstrates that she can't do that, walk away and you will save yourself a lifetime of trouble.>how do you know that there's not someone better out there?no idea. but I can tell you this. being alone is much much better than being with someone who drains you like a vampier.
>>34099024I have no fucking clue honestly. I nut in her balls deep multiple times a week and I really doubt she could get pregnant again. Freak accident I guess? From all the shit she's gone through I think she's less fertile now after the pregnancy. She had to get a c-section to deliver and laparoscopic ablation and shit to delete some fibroids.We're both 34. I have no kids.
>>34099045I'd lean towards find someone else 2bh
>>34099043>sit her down and tell her to get her act together.I'm such a pussy because I know I need to do this to her but I know she'll just get pissy and upset with me. It literally might be the end but you're right, I need to call her out on her BS. The diagnoses she has might be real but they also poison her mind. She uses them as a crutch way too much. She'll literally interject like "oh because of my ADHD I do blah blah blah" but in reality she's capable of making better decisions just like anyone else is.
>>34099065sorry man there's no way around it. you've got to put your foot down and it will not be fun. people who excuse rude or poor behavior because of "ADHD" (a near-meaningless diagnosis) are irresponsible. they're blaming an imaginary third party for the choices they make.when people have these nebulous mental problems, the mantra for their loved ones needs to be that actions have consequences. having special diagnoses does not excuse a person from suffering consequences of bad choices. if you just shuffle away and say, "oh, she's just acting this way because of autism/adhd/something from childhood/pcos/that time of month", you are hurting both her and you. and her kid, since he watches and learns from how his mother behaves.i get it, you don't want to have a big confrontation with her which will cause her more hurt in a life defined by hurt. but her future will nver improve if she continues down this path. if she wants you to stay, you need to agree on measurable actions she can take to improve the situation. buying you a prostitute or having more sex with you is not an improvement, nor is any other shallow people-pleasing crap. you need to decide what her biggest deficiencies are and what specific actions she will take to help herself.
>>34099169Man this is so true. Especially the causing her more hurt in a life defined by hurt. She expects life to constantly hurt her, even when things are actually totally OK.
>>34099007>how do you know that there's not someone better out there?this might sound cliche but honestly when I met the right person I knew by the 3rd date. As in, it didn't even occur to me to question whether there was someone better. I just knew I wanted her and I had to make her mine and I had to put babies in her. It also helps that I have a strong idea of what I want in a wife, it took me trial and error to realize it.It didn't work out between us, not for any fault from either of us. But after that experience I realized it's possible. It's just that most people settle out of fear, and because they haven't worked on themself to the point of attracting the person they really want.Anyhow raising someone else's kid is rough because their baby daddy is always in the picture. That might be acceptable if she's really special to you but you listed a bunch of reasons she's not. It sounds to me you really like her because she's lenient and does what you want and is pretty.
>>34099394>It sounds to me you really like her because she's lenient and does what you want and is pretty.Yeah I like that she's pretty and let's me do whatever the fuck I want with her body. She wants to me to use her pussy, mouth, and ass to masturbate with. It's addictive af.I feel like I'm literally weighing having a whore for the rest of my life vs. having a vanilla bitch who is actually independent and capable on her own. Sounds kinda dumb but I think that's what it comes down to.
>>34099007Never put your dick in crazy
>>34099516Too late.
>Marrying, let alone dating a single momDo Amerifats really?
>>34099007>she's pretty amazing>diarrhea, smallpox, gout, donkey teeth, babboon assbrother
