>25>self destructive personality>Isolated from social norms for 5+ years>No friends or romantic partners for same amount of time>Sober from degenerate alcoholism for 3 yearsI'm fat, my hair is thinning and I'm running out of time. I smoke and I eat like shit. I know this is a crazy place to ask for this advice but I just want to hear from people who've managed to get out of ruts like this.All these things are self inflicted, I put myself here through anxiety combined with laziness. I am in a unique position given that I am by definition completely isolated from the world. A basement dweller if you will. I want to take steps to change and I just need to know how to avoid the DIP you get a week or two into the transition. So what is the dip? That moment where you're trying to work out and its not working for you. Feel sluggish and gross and devoid of energy. Then temptation sets in, just quit and get a pizza etc. Or if theres an opportunity there for you but because you can never sleep properly you stay up all night and miss the opportunity. Lets say you have a date (once every year or two I get chance to date someone but it never goes anywhere beyond talking stage) and you're excited to meet the girl. But then it turns 5am and you think "I'll just not bother." What is this phenomenon called? Severe retardation obviously but I call it the DIP. It's happened to me more times than I can count. I could be doing really well and because of one small thing that goes wrong it's like a game of jenga and it all falls down at once. This wont be easy to fix, Ive failed over 500 times at this point trying to work out and eat healthy then go back out into the world. But I need to fucking get a grip and try. Even if I fail this next year, I quit booze all on my own for three years so its not like I havent had the willpower to stop something.Call me a faggot n that etc just try throw in some words of encouragement while you're at it.
I was in a similar position as you at that age. you have plenty of time, especially since you are realizing you are a retard now. I realized it when I was like 31. it took me like 1.5 years to fix my skin, get in shape, etc. so start now and stick to it. my life is way better now but the only caveat is that Im tall and was always decent looking(just not in shape or ambitious). or just kill yourself now and get it over with
>>34099185I wish you didn't say that last bit lmao. I am the shortest in my tall family. Cousin is 6 4, younger brother is 6 1 and then theres me at 5 10/11.
>>34099185almost thought I wrote this. I came to the same conclusion at OP but at 30. I completely overhauled my life - stopped drinking, started lifting, set up a proper diet, and started getting enough sleep. It completely transformed my body, and my face. This also uplifted my mood and got rid of my anxiety and made me more energetic and sociable overall.The change in my physical appearance got me a lot of dates and my better mood and sociability helped me seal the deal. So yeah trust me you can overhaul your life, 25 is very early so if you start now you will be in prime position. I wish I'd started that early>>34099215I'm 5'10.5 too bro trust me height is not an issue, everyone just thinks I'm 6'
>>34099233Man 4chan can be a cesspit but thank you so much for this. It really is a nice to hear that it's not too late. I know its gay to say but I really appreciate the advice! I might join a gym, been putting it off for years because of horror stories. Just not sure if I'm ready yet. I need to learn how to eat properly to start I think.
>>34099151Something I realized from falling into a hole a couple times in my life is it only takes 2 weeks of consistent behavior to get rid of a bad habit2 weeks of dieting to stop craving fast food2 weeks of laying in bed at a normal time to get your body used to sleeping early2 weeks of running for my body and lungs to get used to it2 weeks of no fap to stop craving porn
>>34099368Of course bro. I cannot emphasize how big of a difference lifting makes. I went from barely getting any action and basically being ignored by women to having women pursue me for the first time in my life. The successes snowball your confidence a lot; I have no nervousness on dates now and I just have fun with it.>I might join a gym, been putting it off for years because of horror stories. Just not sure if I'm ready yet. I need to learn how to eat properly to start I think.You can do both at the same time. What worked for me is I wrote a few different mealplans, and I calculated each mealplan to have the right number of carbs/protein/fat. Then I just made those meals. That secured the diet.Regarding the gym, the fitness industry has overcomplicated it on purpose because that's how they make money. There are some PPL plans you can find on the internet and follow.Also quitting booze is huge so good job. The DIP phenomena is real but you can get over it. For me the motivation was fear - I knew if I didn't make a change NOW then it would be too late. Fear is a strong motivator it turns out
