28.5 year old man, I met a recently turned 20 year old girl at a weekly activity I go to (ageless activity), and she added me on instagram and likes every story I post (and I like hers back). I don't know if she knows how old I am (people usually estimate me around 23ish).She is incredibly beautiful, very smart and has great personality. You couldn't blame me for being attracted to her, she's the girl I dreamt of when I was that age, but I never found one and have been alone my entire 20s so far. Should I ask her out? Everyone would judge me, but I think I could get over that. I'd be more saddened if she suddenly thinks I'm a creep when I reveal how old I actually am. I first interacted with her about 6 months ago, I've spoke to her directly at the event a few times, and I've spoke to her male friends (who I get the strong impression are not into women) who are also very friendly. I've never attempted to message her purely because she's young. Starting to become a bit obsessed with her. The punchline I guess is if she revealed she was actually trying to wingman her gay best friend because I gave an ambiguous signal off or something, but I hope that's not the case.
>>34104163thanks for the blog. no you should not ask her out until you hint to her how old you are and then hint your affection and get positive response back. are all of you people retarded?
>>34104163>at a weekly activity I go to (ageless activity)ah yes, that well known thing we all do, ageless activity
>>34104321It's not important to my question to tell you what doxable thing I do every week.
I mean you can. You are willing to deal with people judging potentially, and the only way to find out if she has an issue with the age gap is to shoot your shot and hear her own thoughts.Just don't underestimate that if everything goes perfectly and you do end up together, an age gap relationship like this does come with even more need for understanding where the other person's coming from. Most guys that meet a girl they are instantly really taken with and end up dating her, do not want her to change a lot in terms of things like style, hobbies, the kind of company she keeps. But it is not realistic to expect a twenty year old to be a slightly older version of herself in four years the way that is a realistic expectation of someone your own age or older. It can be a difficult balance to not be patronizing and still not unfairly hold the younger partner to the standards you have for yourself. Good luck.
>>34104163> spoke to her directly at the event a few times> Should I ask her out?probably should start by interacting with her more than than just a few times in a 6 month period before you go all in.
>>34104163You only live once man. Nobody will judge you if you don’t make it their business which is what you, as a man, should be doing. Stop sharing your activities with other people because it’s none of their business. It sounds like she’s into you too, so shoot your shot and if she says no then laugh and shrug it off. Don’t be a wimp about it
>>34104163Is it a big deal for 28 year old to date 20 year old?
>>34104519It didn't used to be but these days people make a huge deal out of it.I was on a date with a 25 year old a couple weeks ago who started talking about 'weird age gaps' said someone "5 years younger than her" hit on her, and she freaked out. K well my mum is 7 years older than my dad so I wouldn't even exist.
>>34104550>It didn't used to be but these days people make a huge deal out of it.No they don't. This is as manufactured a 4chan autistic talking point as they come. Nobody gives a shit about a 20 year old dating a 28 year old.
>>34104550Hell, the French President's wife is a quarter century older than he is, and they met when he was like 12. Take it from the rich and powerful - groom a 12 year old to be your spouse when you're pushing 40.
>>34104559Dude, normies talk about it all the time now. Unlike you I do actually touch grass, hence how I met her.
You can do whatever you want. The gap doesn't matter between two consenting adults if you want to smash. But don't expect anything long term. Don't fall in love with her. No one at that age is ready to commit, and the feminism idealogy that she's exposed to will convince her woman brain to inject "problematic" elements into the relationship, if not hee stupid bitch girlfriends. She will definitely get cold feet and bail, and things like the age gap, and her other options, will influence her flee response if you aren't a literal millionaire. If you want it go for it, enjoy the ride while it lasts. Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks. But she will not stay. If you take nothing else from this thread, remember that.
>>34104163I could actually argue both ways. On one hand, it's really hard to meet quality women so you definitely have to have an open mind about age, race, etc. On the other, I dated a 20 year old at age 27 and did find the maturity difference to be a bit much. I had to hang out with her annoying friends all the time and when she turned 21 she wanted to go out to all these horrible bars that I'd gotten sick of years before.
>>34104579>hence how I met her.Talk with her more than a few times over a 6 month period before you start patting yourself on the back.
>>34104599I actually like her friends, they're all extremely intelligent. >>34104586Devastating reply anon
>>34104163Ask her out if you want; but tell her your age.
>>34104579>Dude, normies talk about it all the time nowNo they don't. You're referring to things you read on twitter, not real life. There is no massive population of people in real life who make a huge deal out of people in their 20s dating each other. You've invented this very clearly out of thin air.
>>34105171Yeah, I fell in love with a girl ten years younger than me, but she inevitably didn't want to stay with me, and I know the age gap was an influencing factor, whether she admits it or not. She was immature in ways I didn't expect, and we couldn't even get on the same page of what we both meant by "I love you." Shit was beyond retarded, but I learned a lot. They really are too young to know what they get themselves into with men at that age. Or she got cold feet and just wouldn't tell me the truth anymore. Either way, it won't last. Don't let that stop you though. Just take it easy, and keep that in mind.
>>34104586>>34106868OP do not listen to this dooming faggot. It can work out just fine if you both talk and communicate and like eachother. 8 years is literally nothing. He’s mad it didn’t work for him and is crab in a bucketing you.
>>34104163Yes, 8 years difference is fine if you get along and treat each other well.- chick whose long been attracted to men 6-12 years older.
I've decided she's worth the risk and that I'd most certainly regret not trying. I will obviously tell her my age, I've already gave her hints, so I'm sure she's estimating me being at least 23. I imagine she probably thinks I'm maximum 26 though. I can't help being young and beautiful. I did tell her male friend "I'm like 10 years older than you" during a conversation. Not sure how literally he took it, but I am 8-9 years older than them. >>34106899I think I could handle another heartbreak anyway, I'm used to it, so I'm not really afraid>>34106909Thanks based foid
