I don't like being negative, but the trans ideology is so misogynistic and illogical that I can't find a way to respect it. I'd love to have my views changed so that I can stop feeling like a hater, but it's impossible to have a conversation about it, because any disagreements or questions get you labeled as a Nazi. You're only allowed to completely agree with everything they say no matter what, and anything else means you're being deliberately evil. That's not conducive to teaching or winning someone over, that's just "shut up and think how I tell you to". It just makes me like them even less.

it's over.

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I think honesty is one of the founding pillars of a relationship. I want to know everything about my girl, the same way my girl should know everything about his man, being me.

>>34107718
That sounds good in theory, but every man constantly thinks about raping and murdering, at the same time he also has some feminine thoughts that are consider weak and faggy. Your girlfriend is quite unlikely to want to know about all this.

>>34107724
>but every man constantly thinks about raping and murdering
What

>>34107724
I beg to differ. Would you like your man more if he kept things hidden from you, or would you appreciate the sincerity and eventual accountability on both sides?

>>34107718
Your gf wishes you were taller

>30, male
>never been in a relationship
>tried going on dates but they would either go sour or i'd pull back
I spent pretty much all my 20's trying to finish my degree or working, i never allowed myself to explore interests or hobbies outside of gaming, which was simply a way to numb my senses and distract myself from negative thoughts.
My fear is that at my age, paired with lack of experience with relationships and lack of achievements will make it impossible to loved/be loved.
I've been told that i'm handsome and buff, but it only stings worse when i hear this because it feels like i'm at the finish line, but despite trying to run i can't clear it.
With this idea if i render myself vulnerable it'll only hurt more: "Wait, you're single? what's wrong with you? ew"
There is a nagging fear that i'm only acting to prevent my self-worth from going down more as i get older, that improvement is not possible and i'm simply trying to preserve whatever value i have, if it even exists.

>>34107764
I don't have a girlfriend, and I'm pretty confident in my height. You're not since it's the one thing you always bring up, and what I find very funny is that I'm pretty sure I met you by chance and I am taller than you.

I'm genuinely unsure if there is a life available to me worth fighting for or if it's just logically better to try and die faster.

>>34107783
Oh yeah, height, being unemployed and smoking weed. Why is it that the things you point out about me are always exactly things I have zero confidence issues with? You're not managing to make me develop confidence problems lol

>>34107600
im 30 today, have a good job and good money. i should be happy my family are still around but i feel like an utter failure cuz no gf. people who say you dont need one of these to be happy are talking shit because ive had a gf before and it made everything better. i just feel like my chances of having a family are slipping away, i dont wanna wake up 45 and still fucking single

Grok told me 130IQ is too low to bother doing anything with my life and to quit wanting to write stories and design games.

I hate waiting and letting things happen in their own time, but I know I must. It's not like I have the guts to make the first move- especially not after the last time.

I'm just trying to relax. Take it easy. No worries. If it's meant to be, it'll be. I need to enjoy this, even the lead-up where I'm going crazy with interest and hope. I should be happy; it's something to look forward to, for now at least. And thinking of him makes me smile. That's more than I had last month, isn't it? That alone makes me smile.

So give it time. I know he's looking at me too, and that's enough of a promise. No more forcing things. No more going out of my way to be in 'his' path. No more subtle trying, until it's so not-subtle everyone else in the room knows except the one I'm aiming for. He'll come to me. And I know I have friends here who'll give us a nudge, if he doesn't know how to approach.

More importantly, I think I've grown. I think I'm more open to a relationship and what that entails, compared to the last couple years. I'm in a different state now. No more obsessing. Just taking it like it is, and trying to enjoy things more. I'm leaving space in my life for a partner.

>>34107600
Nobody respects me and I wish I had the strength to stand up for myself. I feel this rain cloud and miasma of pathetic insecurity weighing me down and it’s making me depressed. Everytime I have something close to an emotional reaction against something someone says my mind finds a million ways to hold me back through feelings of guilt, empathy, and obsession with self image or wondering if I misinterpreted them. There are so many people I want to tell to fuck off, but then I worry about how I look or that I’m the asshole for hurting someone even if they hurt me. I wish I wasn’t so fucking weak.

Im 23 years old and I feel lifeless as fuck, I feel no love, no grace, no empathy. I dont see the point on keep living.

>>34108076
Haha, look at this loser

>>34108055
It's not weakness, I'm much the same. It's conditioning and training from your childhood. The parents and guardians who are supposed to look out for us typically beat us down the hardest. But you can work to counteract it, possibly undo it if you try hard enough.
Conditional love is not real love, and people don't have to be getting one over on you just for you to have value to yourself or your loved ones. There's a big difference between being an asshole and being a nice person who has boundaries and principles.

>>34108055
It's fated. Have you looked at your own astrological chart?

>>34108100
Yeah, I had strict parents who demanded a lot from me and didn’t stoke my confidence very much. Not to mention my mom was in a religious cult which was abusive towards our family and also expected to shed personal identity to conform to the organization. Was also bullied a lot for a bad speech impediment. So there has been a lot that has made me doubt my own confidence. Thank you for the reply, anon.

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My whole body aches, but I am relaxed because there is a cold, black flame inside me that calms me, soothes me, makes me think clearly.

I take full responsibility for my mistakes. I accept the punishment you give me for having badly mistreated YOU, the woman I love.

I wish I found a "soul-mate" before I got old. Guess I wasn't good enough.

>>34108189
Same

idk if this girl was trying to full disclosure cheat (because she was unmistably getting my attention and showing off her goods) when she said her bf was out of town or if she was just trying to see if i'd pursue her up to that point for the sake of validation and maybe eventual monkey branching, but i don't like it

she's ridiculously hot tho so my brain isn't working so good

>>34108314
i think my jaw actually dropped when she pulled her hoodie up and i saw her hip to wait ratio and how lean she is (fat in all the right places)

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Is it normal for poor people to not understand how kitchen utensils work?

I don’t mean homeless people just people that don’t earn a lot of money because i have seen this twice

The first time was my neighbor, an old lady that grew up poor she didn’t use a knife to cut food she just ate with her bear hands sometimes, i thought maybe it was because of her age

But today we served steak to the workers that are helping remodel my mom’s home and this 19 year old did the exact same thing just eating the food with his hands completely ignoring the knife

>>34108438
"""Poor"""
I've only ever seen non whites eat with they hands. Last time it happened was with a latino coworker that kept scooping rice with his free hand instead of using knife and fork; never making the mistake of getting food with them again. Bad enough I have to listen to them all suck dey teeth clean and smack their lips all day at work.

It’s new years and i’m spending it lurking around the internet. again.
I feel like i have way too little energy to do anything else anyway, but the thought that other people are celebrating right now kind of makes my heart heavy.

>>34108552
Probably just as depressed as you.

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>>34108552
>>34108589
Cheers big ears you're spending your time among frens. happy new year!

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For anyone feeling shitty (especially you suicidal anons), I'd like to formally invite you to the annual /a/ stream of Sora no Woto this Saturday, regardless of whether you like anime or not. The annual streams were started by /a/nons who were alone during the holidays to do together, and it's still going strong. Arguably stronger than ever; last year there were at least 600 streaming, and many had friends or family watching with them.
It's pretty /arthouse/ and pleasantly grounded, a real passion project unlike most anime. It's a sobering yet uplifting series and it always motivates me to keep going, a great way to start the new year.

stream.wotos.eu
Bookmark it just in case you get curious. It lasts from early afternoon until 11pm, 14 eps total, feel free to pop in any time. Bring some alcohol and snacks, we drink.

>>34108314
Remember that karma is real
She probably is signaling it but I wouldn't indulge in that messy behavior
It will come back to bite you in your ass and if you don't then you can walk with some dignity about yourself

>>34108552
25% of people are actually going out
The majority are staying home and a few less aren't even staying up to midnight
Don't feel left out
People aren't as exciting as they seem

I think 2026 will finally be my last year. I want to wait just to see the ending of One Piece but I had enough of this life. I would say it has been pleasure, but I would lie.

>>34107600
I'm getting jaw surgery to fix my severe underbite in mid-January and I am happy about it. It's not just a looks thing, my speech and breathing will improve substantially too. Been waiting for this for years.

>>34109214
Hopefully you heal and get enough therapy to help with the pain and emotional toll

>>34109177
yea i'm not going there and i think i subtlety enough made it clear that i'm not that kind of guy

the crazy thing is i'm still attracted to her

my goodness though, got a bit of a show today to say the least

>>34109243
Ew you're gross

>>34109250
it's not like i'm trying to be a creep here, and she was smiling at my inability to focus

>>34109243
Women like that probably get off on the thrill
Her BF is some poor sap

>>34109262
She's an exhibitionist and gets off guys or people leering at her anon. Just be careful

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I know We will be together again. That's just how soulmates work.

I need to stop lying about stupid things, it only makes me look like a bigger loser than I already am.

I'm very fucking good at building roofs and walls, too bad houses are built on foundations and NOT those things I mentioned. At least I'm learning...

Stop making women eat your feces. That's fucking disgusting.

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I'm thankful that our story together is better than the garbage that surrounds us here. We are secure in each other

>you complete me
>I complete you
>Nothing will ever change that

Can the data harvesters stop humiliating me publicly? There’s no reason why me and my female friend should get bombarded with an ad that starts with woman AI voice saying: “PREMATURE EJACULATION? TRY THESE PILLS AN-“

I didn’t even google anything related to that, and now you’ve embarrassed me in front of my friend for no reason. Are you trying to bully me into paying for a subscription?

I know you're just being nice and that you don't mean anything by it, but it means a great deal to me. And you know that..

>>34109876
The ads will continue until sales improve

I'm imagining what would have happened that day if I said "hi, you're cute! what's your name? which class are you in?" For some reason I think you would have turned me down, and then the day after you would have went looking for me at school, found me, and then you'd have asked me out yourself. I would have showed up with enough anxiety to power a whole city, but I would have been there.

I was going to go to a NYE party, even got excited, now I dont feel like going and feel like shit. I dont even understand what happened, my mood went down hard. I wonder if im afriad of social interaction, because I cant figure out what to do at social events and I'd hate being that out of place.

>>34109930
I think of many places when I think about this, but the ONE that stays stuck in my mind is a round square, inside the big park.
We share a little bit about each other, and we find out after all maybe our first impressions were right. We like each other after all, more than we are willing to admit to each other, and deep down, ourselves. We share our first kiss. We look at the stars.
I don't know for sure what happens next. The next episode of our own romcom anime has yet to be written, animated and aired.

My uncle called my mom telling her that I was "sharing too much" on facebook. I was always using facebook to post pictures of my vacation, some pictures of sunsets, and my baked goods (cookies). I opened up recently and posted some selfies of myself, also a video of a concert. My facebook is closed to non-friends so I don't see the problem. I think they are making a fuss about me being goth and getting a piercing. It's actually crazy how offended people are over goths, punks, emos, and metalheads. A few days ago someone on the streets was crying about me wearing a cross in vain. You can't make this shit up. Can't they just grow up?

Male BTW.

>>34107635
I'll humour you without any name-calling. Can you explain why you find it misogynistic and illogical and why these things matter to you so much?

A girl asked for my number tonight

I'm a terrible fucking person, and the last thing I want is for other people to give me grief about it. Shut up, you suck too. It's called being human. The world would be a better place if people were willing to own up to their faults.

>>34109978
>Whats your number foid btw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss142Aix2Bo

I would cum inside of my best friend every single day of my life if I had to give up every worldly possession I own

https://youtu.be/kPBzTxZQG5Q?si=t_JrOmSBDeJ4_V4I

2026 will be the year we tighten up and achieve greatness

Sexting is so fucking cringe but women eat it up
Basically just never second guess how cringy a horny instinct is and go with it, they'll fucking leak for it

>>34110323
>Basically just never second guess how cringy a horny instinct is and go with it
Interesting. I'm very tired and reading your post made me realize... Fuck it I can't be bothered with talking about psychology stuff right now. Just know I appreciate that bit of advice. Normally I'd not say this and you wouldn't post that kind of thing....
Later.

>>34110375
Yeah, basically nothing will happen unless they have that initial attraction to you, and once they do they're fully open to your whim and will hit with "yes sir's" to basically anything you say
The difference of being boring and being on her mind is how far you're willing to push her

shes dead :,[

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>>34107600
You know Molly, I really want to write this in a letter to you, but something feels wrong - sending something to your house doesn't feel right, it feels easier to write it out here for the New Year.
I've said it here anonymously, but I want to say explicitly, I think you were right.

I don't think I did appreciate you, and it honestly it bothers me looking back at how many things I should have taken so much more joy in. From your music (which I've really gained an appreciation for NIN and Massive Attack) your devotion, your gifts, your mods(!), your hamster memes, your smile, your love, all of it and I wonder why I didn't appreciate them more, because on paper, I should have remained head over heels for you.
It's hard for me to say, as I feel like I'm partially handwashing it all away, but when you attacked me and went home and you cut yourself I think that's when the seedling that hardened my heart set in, and it never faded away, the initial break up for me was so emotionally turbulent all I could do was cry because I knew I did love you.
I felt like I opened my heart to you and you hurt me so badly, you hurt yourself because of me, how could I not cry? Seeing your scars and hiding my heart's...

Even with the new clothes, the care you gave to me, all the delicious meals you made for me it was always in the forefront in my mind. When we were going around shopping in Manchester, when you could see the despair and sadness on my face - I should have told you honestly what was on my mind instead of pretending nothing was wrong and carrying that thought until the end.

It's such a mixed set of emotions because a part of me wants to get it off my chest, a part of me wants to say I'm sorry, because I know I wasn't a good boyfriend, a part of me wants take accountability and say I was too distant, I was afraid of upsetting you, of harm and being harmed...

I wish I was honest with you and I wasn't. I wonder if we could fix things.Whether we'd want to.

I'm slowly becoming more and more hateful and misogynistic and hateful because of the women in my family. I know all women aren't absolutely insufferable and evil, but I just can't let go of it. Worst part is that I'm stuck with them until I can leave the family, but I'm just barely scraping by...
Might try gym, but idk bro. I just want to leave behind all this anger and be happy for once.