I'm 24, bodycount : 1. My current gf. The sex is kinda boring and I often fantasize of other girls. This is becoming a problem because I'm getting hard FOMO seeing my friends get sex left and right. Of course, they don't get love like I do: I see them getting ghosted, frustrated, confused, sad, etc, by the behavior of these one night stands they fuck. But I wouldn't care, I would never get attached to some ONS whore. I just want pure sex with girls of all shapes and sizes. I am sex crazed and just want sex sex sex. Meanwhile my poor gf is wondering why I don't want to touch her. Jesus Christ. How do I move on past this yearning WITHOUT cheating? Hard mode : also find a way to rekindle my physical attraction to my gf (she isn't ugly, I'm just got physiologically tired of fucking the same person like a dumb whore. Yes, I've tried sexy lingerie, new sex contexts etc)
tell her to dress up as a cat and behave like one too. Lead her on a leash. Make her lick onions milk from a bowl. Have her sleep curled up at your feet, playfully sucking on your toes
>>34115596>How do I move on past thisjust live truthfully. When you start lying is when things get muddy. So if you're a real one, you'll break it off with her and build your harem of women and have all the sex you want. Because that's what real niggas do. They don't lie to the girl and keep her around because you're too much of a coward to go after what you want in life.
>>34115620I hear you and have thought this before. But I feel some kind of responsibility towards her. I am her first (and she was mine) and she kinda is immature/fragile/needs my guidance. If I left I believe she would get horribly depressed and also make all kinds of retarded choices and obviously end up with a man inferior to me. I want to keep her not just for my sake (it's true, I do get easy love and a good situation out of her) but also for her. It'd feel like killing a puppy or abandoning a kitty or something, I've thought about leaving but have come to the conclusion I just cannot. It's been years and I love her, and she loves me. Leaving for a not-so-noble reason like this, I fear I'd regret this AND also ruin her life to a degree.
>>34115596You are not missing out on casual sex (btw its mostly normal sex anyways as both parties arent comfortable to divulge what theyre rly into) Your problem is that you and your gf are not creative. Try new positions, roleplaying (maybe rp a casual hookup together?) Etc. Casual sex is honestly not worth the financial and/or energy investment imo you get the same experience from jerking off. The emotional aspect is a large component of the experience. And lastly the whole smell/genetic compatibility thing. There were girls who I thought were very hot, but afterwards I felt grossed out and it felt like my face smelled like their asses even after I tried to wash.Basically you have a good thing going and you/gf need to be more creative. Next time you go out on a date and come home rp like you just met.
>>34115633Seems more reason to break up with her cuz she ain't your "equal" and needs to grow a spine
>>34115596Fantasizing about sex you’re not having is up there with painful shits and dead parents in terms of universal human experiences. The act of merely being aroused by strange pussy is not abnormal. I would go as far to say it’s not even worth mentioning.If this has become an issue with your gf then you should tell the truth. I would normally tell you to simply write off your feelings as passing horniness but you are the one making this into something more by not engaging her physically.Truthfulness will damage your relationship but the majority of that damage has already been done. Be honest and maybe she will help you. Probably not, but could it hurt?
>>34115596You can deny it all you like, but I bet you either consume porn regularly or have used it heavily and are only just recently backing off. No porn, no jerking off, no sex for a month. Your GF will look like the most beautiful and sexy woman in the world, trust me.>>34115620More wisdom in this post than it lets on but it's important to mention that when you do this>build your harem of women and have all the sex you want. Because that's what real niggas do.You often come back around the bend to just wanting a regular relationship with a nice girl because unless you're a celebrity or ballin' in some other way, it's mostly just going to be a bunch of hookups with mediocre women and intervals of weeks, months, or years with no intimacy because life circumstances can and will flush your "roster."
Envys a sin.If its not about sex you're going to be fantasizing having something else
You could try skipping sex for a week or two. You will crave her afterwards. You can tell her the true reason. (Take it as an advice from a virgin.)
>>34115916Yeah. I have tried stopping before and it does bring me back temporarily but in the end I start craving novelty again. I'm just deeply afraid I will keep craving it until I get it out of my system, but I don't know if that's a trap. Maybe someone else who's done this can tell me?>>34115924I'll gladly take something else if it's something that doesn't break my gf's heart>>34115965Ty virgin bro. I remember giving top tier relationship advice as a virgin. I can't tell her though because one time I admitted all men still see other women as potentially attractive sexual beings even when we're in our relationship, and we just ignore it. She broke down and told me she thought I truly only saw and desired her. It took her like 6 months to stop randomly crying about it and even now sometimes she'll have a mini break down if she learns I got invited somewhere with girls etc, she got super jealous. This would destroy her.
>>34115596Break up with your girlfriend and have some casual sex. You won't enjoy it very much, and afterwards you won't be able to get back together with your gf, but at least you'll have got your priorities straight. The current relationship is dead anyway, given how you feel.
>>34115596Just leave her. You clearly do not love her, this relationship is doomed from the get-go.
>>34116054Why do you say it's dead? We still deeply love each other. There are some other issues which make long term difficult unless one changes for the other but that's unrelated. All in all, we do love each other and wish for things to go the right way so we can have kids and grow old together.
>>34116061Why the fuck does everyone imply I don't love her? Because I'm unemotional and pragmatic about the situation? Yes, because I'm on an online forum full of men and I'm in reflection mode. But if I were this cold and unbothered about it, I would have cheated a long time ago because it solves all my issues at once.
>>34116067My bad for the wording. Your Philía for her is genuine, but there is no Érōs. You're inevitably gonna cheat on other girls, so just hope she's into threesomes.
>>34116062>We still deeply love each other.She may love you; you don't love her.
>>34116114Source?
jewish post and jewish mentality lolthe core of the problem is that it's never enough for you, so there's no action that solves your problem because it'll never be enough. you think that cheating on her would "solve" all the issues at once, but it won't solve the core problem. do you realize this? even in the best case scenario which is you cheating on her, it would still not solve your problem nigga, you're doomed
>>34116124>Source?Life experience, and my ability to read. He (you?) is in love with the *idea* of being with her, but is bored by the reality of her.
>>34116285Yeah I understand that. That's why I wanna overcome it, maybe by working through it mentally or idfk. It's just that I don't know how to do that. I've already tried spicing things up, roleplaying/lingerie etc. It's like somewhere along the way there was an off switch and now I don't find her attractive anymore, despite finding her beautiful on an objective level : like I KNOW she is hot, I see it but I don't feel it. And somehow I just KNOW if I left her I would desire her so hard after a couple of weeks. The Jews truly did something to my brain>>34116304I'm bored physically, yes. Emotionally speaking I'm really in love and want to be with her. I dreamed that I cheated on her once, in the dream I was kissing a girl. Immediately I felt regret and felt sick to my stomach, that awful sensation when you truly fucked up and did something irreversible.When I woke up and knew this didn't happen I felt so relieved. I believe if I cheated IRL this is exactly what would happen. I would never betray her.
>>34116738>I would never betray her.Yeah, you will. You'll feel like shit about it, but you will.
>>34115596Visualize the future and bear in mind that even if you got exactly what you're craving, it wouldn't satisfy you one bit in the long run. Nobody has ever found lasting happiness in sex. You would just get horny and feel unsatisfied again, and again, and again until the entire process left a bad taste in your mouth. The end of every pleasure is exhaustion and disgust. It inevitably becomes boring. Novelty is inherently fleeting, finite and impermanent, so anything that derives its value from its novelty is actually worthless and has no value of its own. Meditate on this idea every single day, envision the unhappy future that pleasure seeking would lead you towards, make it the mental equivalent of drug/food addiction, and eventually the cravings will go away because they'll be too stupid to take seriously.
>>34115596Grim.
>>34115596Bad company corrupts good morals. You must kill and severe the bonds that make you sin against your mate/spouse/gf.
Kill the lust deep within and go porn free and fap free. Don't listen to the anons here that say otherwise, they are diabolical
>>34115596That's your own fault retard. Sex is boring because you're boring.
Honestly, I feel the same way. I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years and I don't really crave her anymore, it's like we're good friends who have sex and care about each other. But there's no intense sexual tension like with a new acquaintance you're just getting to know, a female friend who you find out is into the same kinks as you, or the feeling of accomplishment and validation when you get someone new to fall for you. Now I know there are different stages of a relationship and I respect and appreciate my partner and hence will not cheat on her. And I'm not hot or anything, so the chances of getting that much sex is low. But damn I sometimes wish I could do that.
Same... I fucking hate myself for it. I wanna go around and fuck 45yo teachers, friend's moms, busty whores, a neighbour, a cousin, women of different races, crazy goth bitches... Talking with friends who fuck around makes me so jealous secretly I wanna explode. I feel like this is always who I was inwardly, ever since I was a small kid I imagined fucking my mature aunt in the ass. Before or after discovering porn, there is no curing it unless I chemically castrate myself. People say you lose a piece of your soul for every bitch you fuck but I just can't possibly fathom any of that happening to me. I just wanna make women feel good and crave me, I have a lot of love to give. As a punishment gf is the most paranoid slow burn in the bed possible. We started fucking recently but honestly I dont see it getting any better with experience and time. God help me.
>>34115596If you wanted sex you'd fuck your girlfriend. You want novelty, and greener grass.
>>34115596You could get multiple monitors and trick the primitive part of your brain into thinking you're have sex with 18 women simultaneously
ask her if shed be interested in threesomes or something like that but not up front
>>34115596It’s completely natural to be attracted to other women and be bored of sex with one person.Trying to force yourself to only ever be attracted to one person goes against human nature.Monogamy is a social and cultural construct. It’s taught. It’s not something that would occur by itself.IMO don’t try to force yourself to feel different.
>>34115596>missing out on being a hedonistic waste of space with nothing to live for but cheap dopamine hitskys retard
>>34119658imagine the seething if a woman said thisalso, some wild animals are monogamous...
>>34120221I dont necessarily disagree with you but appealing to animals is one of the lowest barrel bottom tier arguments out there.
>>34115596Not much advice to give you, OP, but I can relate.I was/am in a similar situation. I love my gf. I really care for her and want the best for her. She's an excellent person. However, over the past years, my feet have got itchier and itchier. Part of it is plain lust and curiosity, but it also ties in with bigger doubts about the long-term viability of the relationship (like you also mentioned). Everything gets tangled and you can't tell what it is that's actually driving you away from her.I'm not sure what to advise you. I cheated on my gf, felt shit about it, admitted it to her, and now we're on a "break" which will probably be permanent. Part of me wants to do what I can to repair things. Another voice tells me to just let it die and not hurt her any more. The second option sounds more loving in the long-run, although I know she misses me and I miss her.
>>34115610Yiff in hell, furfag
>>34120264YOU SAID THAT MONOGAMY IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT YOU FUCING RETARD>pointing out the fact that i am wrong is one of the lowest barrel bottom tier arguments out there.
>>34122481You cant prove whether something is social construct or not for humans by appealing to animals you imbecile. You can use that same argument for polygamy.
>>34122490okay, so what? you're the one who brought it up in the first place.>coyotes made monogamy upmoidslop
>>34122517Im nta
>>34115596casual sex makes all sex boringYou should just take out everything in your gf. if your sex life is boring then you aren’t really putting your heart into it
>>34116046Go noporn. It’s the only way.Using porn literally rewires your brain into thinking that you have your own personal harem. Then when you go try to fuck your gf your brain says “where’s the rest of my harem? This is wrong, this sucks.” You’re emasculated by it.Your porn usage is the beginning and the of your sex troubles. Until you quit porn this will NEVER end.
>>34122269She's getting dicked down by randos daily, bro. It's over.
>>34120221>some wild animals are monogamousNot most primates, though.
>>34126031most primates dont use toilet paper either, do you follow their example?
>>34128045Humans are serially monogamous. Humans are wierd.
>>34115596If you were "sex crazed" you wouldn't have issues fucking your gf at 24... I am pretty sure there is some important details you are not talking about.
>>34115596>BRO IF I WEREN'T TIED DOWN I'D BE SLAMMING YOUNG HOT PUSS LEFT AND RIGHT FO' SHIZZLENo, no you wouldn't. You'd be here on /adv/ complaining about being foreveralone and asking advice for how to approach girls.That's not even counting the headaches you get from hooking up regularly like this, that's simply not in the equation when you're in a long term, loving relationship. STDs, risk of pregnancy, paying a shitload of money for each date with a new girl, scratching your head trying to figure out how to get a girl in the first place, lying to a girl you just want to bang because she wants a relationship, being in your early 30s while your friends are magically married and you're still trying to swipe on Hinge.It's all so tiresome.t. mid 30s guy who left a long term relationship to sleep around and is now jerking off to Kpop band feet pics.
>>34128139Anti survivorship bias. I have a childhood friend down my street who fucked at least double digit side hoes by now probably while still somehow maintaining secrecy in a LTR of like 3-4 yrs. She does study some 400km away but still, its a case by case thing. I know for a fact if i decided to ravage some rando on the side the gossip would get to my gf somehow within 24 hours.
>>34128139>mid 30s guy who left a long term relationship to sleep around and is now jerking off to Kpop band feet picsDid you regret it while sleeping around was still happening? Was it worth it in the moment?
>>34128209In the moment? While I was having the orgasm? Sure. But during that entire time I was hoping for a long term relationship with a girl that's actually attractive, not simply fucking these 5/10s.
>>34125476Probably not true, but I should probably make myself believe that so I can move on.
>>34116046This is manipulation, intentional or no. My gf does the same thing, not saying it's bad, we all manipulaye eachother to some degree but there are levels.I feel similarly, i have a pretty good relationship but she can be a bit clingly and sometimes our chemistry isn't great, when that happens I can find her supper annoying and yappy which I hate feeling.Before I met her I had basically given up on dating since it feels like such a hassle and if I break up I will probably go back to doing the same, maybe doing the ocassional boink but not really looki g for it.When I met her I was really messed up emotionally and she was too, so that's why i think we felt a very strong bond initially. After a few months of decent drunk/high sex we took a trip together but after that I didn't feel the same, then she started talking about marriage (not even 6 months in), I considered it casually but then we got into a fight when she wanted to marry at the year mark. After that I lost intrest in her sexually. She's very pretty but her body type isn't my preference.After a few red flags (not wifey material but almost) for me and these constant fights I put my foot down and told her I am no longer intrested in marriage at all. It's been a year and a half, we live together and have a decent relationship but honestly I think I prefer her as a friend. But if I break it off I loose all the cuddles and if I want that again I have to date... Haven't banged in like 3 months and even then it has been very boring sex, especially because after the trip it all went vanilla af.Idunno if I'm being too perfectionist and should just accept the good with the bad. Part of me just wants to have relationships/fuck more people but even when I lived in one of the biggest cities in my country the dating scene sucked. (I have dated in diffrent countries and that shit is either ez mode or I just go out way more/IDGAF behaviour gets pussi)
>>34116076This.
>>34115596Improve your libido through protein heavy keto no joke. Ben Greenfield is a great source. I didn't read enough to know if u broke up w her but you've got a gem dude, treasure what you have otherwise you'll always be unhappy.
>>34115596i'm not going to read this entire thread, but have you considered that your current girlfriend is unable to satisfy your inherent libido, and you might be mismatched?i'm not saying to dump your gf or cheat on her (cheating is morally abhorrent), i'm just asking whether you're actually compatible or is stuff is actually all that important to you. you might just need to have a come to jesus moment where you realize a fulfilling relationship is more meaningful than gratifying your id; or perhaps it isn't the right relationship if it isn't.
>>34135568>keto>protein heavyReal keto is 90% fat, almost no protein
>>34116046>one time I admitted all men still see other women as potentially attractive sexual beings even when we're in our relationship, and we just ignore it. She broke down and told me she thought I truly only saw and desired her. It took her like 6 months to stop randomly crying about it and even now sometimes she'll have a mini break down if she learns I got invited somewhere with girls etc, she got super jealous. This would destroy her.I wish I was in your position dude. I just wish. I'm not the anon you were going back and forth with. I would kill to have a girl grovel at my feet, another virgin to my name. My god.
>>34115596You are a woman pretending to be a man. Stop making these useless threads ugh
>>34137054Imagine being so fucking retarded you think a woman would pretend to be a man on /adv/ 4CHAN OF ALL PLACESMaybe you're a fucking clanker bot
>>34137064Yes yes I am a retard. I bet you are very smart sorry for insulting your intelligence queen. Why would a woman pretend to be a man on /adv/ a board where all men are actually women pretending to be men lol
