I have fallen kind of hard for the sweet little grocery store girl. We speak everytime I go in, but I can never feel confident that it's appropriate to ask her to hang out.What is the secret sauce to asking girls out in settings where they are getting paid to be nice?
>>34129263"It's fun chatting with you, but you have to work. When do you get a break? I'll buy the coffee."
>>34129272I have given her little gifts related to conversation. Didn't really make for any hang out time but I asked if she would like X thing, and she said "yes". Idk, do girls accept gifts from guys they don't like?
>>34129278Don't go in to hard man, just be casual. Simply ask her if she wants to go on a date somewhere.It's helpful if you've had conversations and you know her hobbies, or you have some of your own to invite her to.If she says no, just start using self checkout.
>>34129263Usually you don't ask out people you don't know if they like you. You have to develop the social skill to KNOW if someone is attracted to you.Then asking out that person is as drinking a glass of water.If your confidence is very low, probably you vision of reality is distorted and then, even if someone is attracted to you, you would not believe it. So you live in your own hell.Read some psychology about how to know if someone is attracted to you. Subtle signs will show it. Her behaviors when she sees you will reveal. Example: she becomes anxious, fails to execute common tasks, blushes, giggles, etc.Realizing when someone is attracted to you versus standard social niceness is a learnt skill that socially integrated people acquires through life.Of course living in a basement prevents that, and is hard to get out of that hole.Then, you have the nuclear option. Because, you have no more options:Just ask.You'll grow as human, and the mental suffering of the fear of rejection will make you better.
>>34129363>she becomes anxious, fails to execute common tasks, blushes, giggles, etc.These aren't universal signs. Some girls are just anxious without being attracted to you and some girls are confident and will be friendly and nice while being attracted to you.The only way to know really is to ask, everything else is pointless guessing game
>>34129425Yeah this girl gets nervous but that's because she is a little autistic.. in a very sweet kind of way. I can't be taking that as a sign kek.
>>34130624how do you know she is autistic when you're only seeing her in a customer facing context and haven't had even a friendly hang out
>>34130633Autistic as an adjective. She serves the beer at the little in store craft taps. I have had several long conversations.
>>34129263Get her number or social media. Ask to hang out when she's not working.
>>34131572Seems like I have only one option then. It's easy to be brave when it's not in the moment. Thanks anon
>>34130699You posted about this months ago faggot, it's not happening. Your gifts are seen as tips.
>>34132210You remember me owo .Nigga I'm a keep trying.
>>34132778Where is this supermarket I bet I can date her before you retard
>>34133529Honestly having the pressure to take a shot would not hurt.
>>34129263>What is the secret sauce to asking girls out in settings where they are getting paid to be nice?Don't overcomplicate it. There is no special technique, no girl is special. Don't get oneitis, it ruins it every time.
>>34129263>What is the secret sauce to asking girls out in settings where they are getting paid to be nice?There isn't any secret sauce. You can't really know for sure without just asking.Personally I don't like feeling like a creep so I just don't fuck around with these kind of situations. There are plenty of better social situations where it's obvious when women are showing genuine interest.
>>34129263>I have fallen kind of hard for the sweet little grocery store girl.That's not true mature or romantic love, you have a one-sided infatuation with a complete stranger and it's important to not delude yourself. Maybe you're horny and you should go jack off instead of fantasizing about a complete stranger, that's kind of cringe>We speak everytime I go in, but I can never feel confident that it's appropriate to ask her to hang out.It's not, she's working.>What is the secret sauce to asking girls out in settings where they are getting paid to be nice?You don't. Literally do not do this
>>34134945Ignore this.> She is working Can't ask her out.> You are workingCan't ask her out> She is at a clubJust being social can't ask her out.> She is on a dating appIt's creepy to ask out a stranger.This way of thinking is retarded.
You are hopeless OP
