>>34136535
Reread what you wrote and see that you have the answers all along

>>34136535
>I feel so guilty for this
Don't. If you aren't in to him, you aren't into him.

And above all, do NOT sign a lease with him.

You’re in the early stages of what’s known as socially acceptable whoring. You’ll be monkeybranching to someone else in no time and then do the same thing to that poor sap because you
>just lost le spark
And then rinse and repeat until you’re approaching 30 and you realize there’s no time for monkeybranching and then you’re stuck holding the bag

>>34136535
Your bf most likely isn't a tall chad who commits crime and regularly abuses you so it's no wonder you're not attracted to him. Being an average guy doesn't cut it these day, if you're not an irl main character you don't matter to these women

>>34136610
She didn't mention another guy at all. You are projecting.

Whatever decision she makes she'll make up her own accord what she feels is best based on her feelings for the boyfriend and if they are there or not.

>>34136617
Fuck off with that garbage. Pedestaling yourself is pathetic

>>34136535
Well first of all

Have you changed anything about your birth control recently?

If not, the honeymoon is finally over and for you there isn't much left apparently. I just got dumped for basically the same reason. The excitement wore off and he decided he would be happier alone than with me. What would make you happier?

>>34136535
>Dating since mid 2024
>'attraction' is lost

Honeymoon period is over. It ends about 1 - 2 years in, OP. Honeymoon period is when infatuation is the main source of attraction, it's a powerful feeling that operates by itself without effort and then it fades away. When it fades away, you can do either one of two things:

Bullshit your partner & yourself that you were never attracted/no longer attracted and break up only to restart the cycle with someone else where the honeymoon period comes back only to fade again

Or

Understand that losing the honeymoon phase is normal and the way to keep things warm and attractive is through mutual efforts: go out on dates, consciously plan hang outs, make romantic gestures, sexual activities, share experiences and make new ones together.

If all you've done is co-exist and cohabitate the past 2 years, when honeymoon phase ends you'll be convinced the relationship is fucked or phony. If you fall for that then you'll be fooling yourself into the idea that relationships are suppose to be 100% emotionally automatic and never about building and maintaining them. Relationships are work, OP, and without the work they will always wither away. Unless you realize the perspective you are missing and let go of the old one of infatuation

>>34136617
Kek this

Funny how girls never seem to get bored or outgrow those types

You're either compatible or you are not. The honeymoon phase is bullshit. You just stopped clicking with him and there's someone else out there that you'll click with. If you think about not dating him and you feel better then that's the direction to go. If you feel The spark with him still that's the way you go

>>34136649
Same fag, more pedestaling

>>34136661
Holy shit namefags are the worst cancer to this board
You smoke weed and live in Cali don't you

>>34136535
Why do people fall in love then "lose the spark"? because the entire point is to make children, a childless marriage is doomed, now or 50 years later, you're not supposed to be in love forever, you're supposed to transition into a more transactional relationship where both care for the child.

>>34136671
Transactional relationships are toxic. The spark does not go away and love does not fade. What you were describing is a form of not receiving true love and settling any relationship that is not fulfilling naturally from the heart.

True love the spark does not go away. You have not experienced it or just like to push the transactional relationship gimmick.

>>34136674
Take your meds faggot

>>34136535
>im not married and pregnant

>>34136680
You don't like the truth and that's on you

>>34136674
it all depends on your IQ and EQ, when I had a ~140IQ I was infatuated with so many women always depressed, then I attempted and woke up normal and without depression since but I dropped 20IQ points so I am closer to you now and I no longer have those feelings, so yes it goes away.

>>34136674
Nta but you need to get over this grandiose delusion of "true love". Life isn't a Disney movie, there exists no ultimate super special love that maintains itself indefinitely by itself. Adult relationships are not about and never will be about unconditional love (which is what you seen to be describing). The only time that exists is between a parent & a child, or a pet owner and their cat or dog.

Adult relationships have conditions and one of the biggest conditions besides loyalty is 'effort'. Both people need to consciously make efforts for each other to keep things moving and keep things ignited. Adult relationships are like a campfire, you need to chop some wood and throw it into the kindling to keep the flame going. If you just sit there like an infant and cop a wishy-washy daydream that 'twoo wuvv' conquers all and the flame is never gonna go out, you're always gonna walk away disappointed and cold. Love is not an emotion, it's a choice. A choice that needs to be reaffirmed and chosen each and every single day, and then the positive feelings come out of that.

Only immature people think the feelings should come first and choices later. Those are the types of people who will always pack up and quit the minute life gets hard or reality tests the relationship.

>>34136723
>Adult relationships are not about and never will be about unconditional love (which is what you seen to be describing). The only time that exists is between a parent & a child, or a pet owner and their cat or dog.

sorry to piss on your parade I like the rest of your speech but even then it's not unconditional and definitely not without exceptions.

>>34136730
Yeah even then it's not unconditional (parent - kids). But it should be, and every person striving to be a good parent ought to try and make that reality for their kids. Not a single parent will ever do a 100% perfect job at this, because that would imply people can be 100% perfect, which doesn't exist for anyone. But the ideal is perfect and when delivered at least 60% of the time or more results in a good upbringing for kids. Children who had a transactional/conditional relationship with their own parents eventually get into some abhorrent relationships as adults. They also tend to not do well in greater society in general because they typically internalize rotten ideas about themselves or others thanks to a shaky upbringing.

It's the only time humans should ever conciously believe the unconditional love ideal for their kids. It's a role the parent adopts at that point, to become a living archetype for their children to learn from. It's also worth mentioning: the whole plan goes to shit if the parents forget the important of discipline. Too much molly coddling spoils a child too. Punishments are necessary, but withdrawing love or affection should never be one of those punishments

>>34136535
You can end the relationship if that's still the case let's say 3 months from now.

>>34136723
You have never experienced true love then. I have and I do not have to defend it. You are just inknowledgeable or have allowed the outside world to influence what you know is true

>>34136748
More like end it within the next couple days If you are not living together. If you are living together then it'll probably take you about 2 weeks to find a place and you do it on the way out

Bite the bullet, cut the cord, dragging it out is only painful it's much healthier for you to just move on once you've decided

>>34136760
This true love of yours, she still with you? Still dating and/or married?

>>34136766
My soul's journey is my own and is above your input.

You have been labeled (silenced)
Your words have no impact

>>34136674
All relationships are transactional, limerencefag

>>34136781
Your toxic. And you can choose to engage in toxic things like that.

I choose true love. It's above your garbage so I'm leaving you in the dust because it's not even worth my time talking to you

>>34136535
It happens when you're not having enough sex, have more sex and it should fix itself.

>>34136618
he didnt mention another guy either. All he's saying is eventually she will find a new guy, have a spark, date him then lose the spark and repeat the cycle until she has to settle down

>>34136535
>Is this on me or does it just happen ?
Both.

What you're experiencing is the end of the "honeymoon period". The first 18 months or so of a relationship, you're infatuated with each other: it's all intense, exciting love, and fireworks. That absolutely always fades. It fading is normal. What makes a relationship work in the long term is if both people use those first eighteen months to build something else - something less exciting but more comfortable, something enduring. You clearly haven't; so that's on you. But it's too late to start now. You should split up, find someone else, and do it differently next time round.

>>34136779
>My soul's journey is my own and is above your input.
It sure is

>You have been (silenced)
It was a simple question, and judging from your reaction I'll assume your answer is 'no'. And if you had been honest enough to answer directly, I'd have simply have told you to maybe re-examine your idea of 'true love' if that person is no longer in your life. True love should mean they stick around, an if they haven't, why call it true love?

Unless you are a widow or you lost your girlfriend to mortality and death or something.

>>34136785
What's the difference between true love and all the other sorts of love? The transaction is sustainable. Full stop

>>34136829
Don't bother responding to him, he always harps on about true love and Disney tier ideas of romance, yet he only ever tells every couple to break up, break up break up break up etc. A couple could make a thread on here and complain about stubbing their toe on a table leg and Mike would show to say "break up" lol

>>34136792
You're projecting into the future of things that that have not happened. The next guy could easily happen and there's a spark that lasts the entire time. You were just doom posting and demoralization campaign that it's a shit cycle so she should settle the shit. Fuck off with that

>>34136826
Tldr

>>34136829
Nah, it's fine that you don't understand. I did my part making it known that it is a thing and it is out there.

>>34136854
How retarded are you. Ops post clearly states she's at the breakup point and answered her own questions in the original post.

You were the one making connotations to Disney and all that. That's on you faggot.


True love, soulmate love is worth everything.

It makes your words worth nothing.

I would suggest a couple gets together If it's The correct answer to what op's dillema is.

You were again projecting and creating this entire scenario in your head and putting it on me. I am not to blame for anything that happens in the future because it has not happened yet. If it happens and I'm to blame then, I'll accept the blame. But it has not happened and so you are in the wrong projecting and casting disillusions and demoralizations at others.

Fuck off

Fucking narcs. You're so fucking horribly manipulative. It's gross. I don't even have to guess what you do at this point because you only have one card. Smells like shit

>>34136866
>How retarded are you. Ops post clearly states she's at the breakup point and answered her own questions in the original post.

You're the one projecting actually. You can run a neat experiment and find this out for yourself. Hit 'ctrl' + 'f' on your keyboard, or if you are a phone poster touch the funny column of three dots on the top right and tap on 'search in page'.

Type in "breakup" or "breaking up" and notice the OP post has 0 (zero) results for those terms. Which means OP did not mention a fucking thing about a breakup, (you) are the one running that narrative. That's your projection.

>I would suggest a couple gets together If it's The correct answer to what op's dillema is.
That's what the dilemma calls for, but you seem to prefer handing out catastrophic solutions to what could easily be sorted out through introspection, coming to terms with adult love, and developing communication skills & practicing reciprocal efforts. But nah that's too much work so it can't be "twoo wuvv".

>I am not to blame for anything that happens in the future because it has not happened yet.
Yeah this is called having no accountability. "The bad things I contributed to hasn't happened yet, so that means I haven't made bad contributions it's never my fault!"

You're the demoralizing one, you're the one who thinks they know more about a 1.5 year relationship than the person in that relationship and you think you can call it 100% and declare it's fucked and s breakup needs to happen lol

>>34136723
How to survive the period after honeymoon phase when things are getting boring and repetitive, when excitement is replaced with comfort and you feel like roommates rather than lovers? Idk, I guess I’m addicted to the honeymoon phase but I love my husband and wish to stay in the relationship. How do you handle that in yours?

>>34136535
I hate women.

>>34136662
It's trve.

>>34136890
Talk together, make a plan, set a date, and execute. Go see a movie, go try a new restaurant, go check out a new experience together, work together and play together and this reignites the initial chemistry and you get the excitement back. Life will always stagnate it again, don't shit yourself as this is normal. Sometimes there's times in life to both knuckle down and tend to shared responsibilities, trick is to make sure both of you don't stay in that phase too long. You shake things up every once in a while by consciously setting a plan to go and have together time over a new experience, again through dates or outings or activities you both plan and execute.

Think of it like a bottle of fizzy liquid. If you don't stir that shit, it goes stale and flat. Stir it every once in a while to keep the fizz

All women are unsalvageable whores.

>>34136886
TLDR

Opie does not have any feelings for him anymore. There's no sense in prolonging things. The spark is gone

>>34136919
>Women are only capable of loving Chad
So trve.

>>34136792
>All he's saying is eventually she will find a new guy
With how many orbiters women have now because of increased crowded populations and the internet there's probably already multiple guys lined up. That's one of the things that will always be left unsaid. Don't have to put any effort into actually thinking about who you're going to be with, what your future with them will be or maintaining the relationship when you can just switch it out like a tire. I only wish people would be more honest to start so you could do the swapping better and remove the illusion of love at any meaningful deeper level being involved. It causes unnecessary stress and gets in the way of moving on the way they want to anyway.

Honeymoon period is bullshit and it's only being used in this case in an attempt to push OP trap OP further into a relationship.

If OP is dating someone here, keep that in mind. So you are not manipulated

>>34136920
Not true whatsoever. But in your limited worldview and demoralization scope I can see how you have difficulty even breathing troglodyte So I can't blame you for being so retarded, only judge you

>>34136924
Is it that hard to accept that women are whores and all of them want the same guy when there's infinite proof of that?

>>34136926
Your argument is empty because you don't talk to discourse, the only words you say are ones you want others to hear feeling you can win ground. It's really quite disgusting because you're stuck in this limited worldview self-obsessed with no accountability coupled with Weasley conniving spineless behavior.

It really is quite pathetic.

There's so much more to life than your creepy incel'isms that you've used to manipulate girls into sending you tits on here were they leave with some trauma because you lied about who you were from the beginning just to manipulate them and then they eventually find a good guy out there and realize how much of you is a lie and wish they had never met you in the first place. People like you should be taken out back and put 6 ft under because it makes a world of difference to everyone who would have interacted with you in the future. Such a better world without you in it

>>34136932
You sound like a retard. I guess you need some way cope with reality so you make up some nonsense to defend the indefensible. Women being whores is too hard of a pill to swallow.

>>34136935
And there's the character assassination which reflects your empty words would you follow up by repeating your incelism because you're a broken record narc Who only has one card to play.

You should take time alone to work on yourself because you have such low self-esteem and self-concept that you rely on manipulating others to bridge the gap of your own inadequacies.

>>34136941
You're a simp. You ignore reality. You delude yourself to no end because you think the devil is benevolent. Pathetic.

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>>34136917
>TLDR

>>34136948
Here's the character assassination again.

Man are you actually retarded? Like, I gave you the script You're stuck on and way to.Get better (to the best extent a turd scraped across the asphalt from my shoe can be)

All you can do is mimic. I feel like I'm talking to parrot.

>>34136955
Like I said, a parrot

I think would be best for you is to spend some time by yourself, turn off the screen so you stop repeating the words on the screen over and over.

I hope you feel better. Maybe make a trip to the dock and see if you can get some meds to help with your narc issues. Some lithium or some shit.

>>34136886
Don't bother with these namefags, this fucking faggot is white knighting for a lady that only exists in his imagination on this sri Lankan belly dancing forum

>>34136948
Oh and you're hyper fixation on religion is actually pretty creepy. Big ick

>>34137030
Character assassination parrot. Can someone ring a snack at this point please? It's really in misery, all I can do is run in circles and squawk at itself

I'm not even take the time to correct the voice to text. You aren't worth it

>>34136723
You sad, sad little man

>>34137203
What's more sad is going into a relationship and expecting the partner to emotionally wipe your ass the same way mommy or daddy did unconditionally forever and ever. It's especially sad if this expectation is entirely fueled by fantasy and not reality. Triple sad if those fantasies were informed by Disney, movies, anime, love songs and fictional books, and quadruple sad if you're a man with a cock and balls doing all of this out of some backwards mating ritual to be a people-pleaser.

>>34136723
This post is actual wisdom and the anons here would do well to take it to heart.

I see only one mention of birth control above but this is very relevant. If you've recently started or changed it, be aware that you'll basically have this reaction.

Otherwise consider some of the more positive and mature advice in this thread.

What other way to keep you in prison than to take you off birth control. Notice the pedestaling and at the same time knocking others down.

You won't find advice here anymore. Only toxic Weasley ick behavior from him. Hence no spark.

But you can always follow his advice of sticking it out for 3 months and getting off birth control.

Fucking idiot thinks he isn't see through

You labeled the thread losing attraction to boyfriend for no reason

You know the reason

>>34136535
that's less than 2 years dating, that's exactly why people date, to see if they fit together, if you two don't, move on

>>34137221
I just love her, man. I don't need Disney or celebrities to tell me what to feel or what to make of it. It just is.

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>>34136671
>transactional relationship

>>34136716
>I dropped 20IQ points
bwahahahahahahaha

honestly tell him this and just be forward

>>34137587
>I just love her, man. I don't need Disney or celebrities to tell me what to feel or what to make of it. It just is.

That's good for you man, really and I will demonstrate good faith to you and I will choose to believe you. Still worth remembering though, love ain't a feeling it's still a choice. When chosen, accepted and returned gives you the feelings you know as 'love': admiration, security, amorousness, peace, connection, all that good shit. If you are choosing love then you get all the goodies from that. I'm just saying it's always worth remembering it's a choice first before an emotion. People out there get it backwards and when they don't get their emotions they will outright refuse to make the choice and then the relationship dies and they'll typically blame everyone but themselves and will say "they were not the one" "muh oneitis" "muh soulmate who was supposed to make me feel good nonstop 24/7". Emotional perfectionists basically

Subjectively, I do not know what your relationship looked like, how you felt, what you did, so all the more I cannot tell you if it’s your fault. And at least that’s how it seems to me, but you also do not know whether you should listen to my advice or anyone else’s, because maybe those pieces of advice will lead you to a place where in the future you want or do not want to be. I have not lived very long, I have not experienced very much, but it seems to me that it would be good if you calmly thought about it: where you are now, where you want to be, and with whom in the end. But you have already asked the question and received a lot of answers.
Personally, I do not recommend doing something against yourself out of guilt or a lack of emotions for another person. At the same time, it seems to me that it is worth remembering the other person and being honest with them. Besides, it seems to me that everyone has their own world and their own value system. Although much in these worlds connects us, much also differs, and one of these things is the definition of love, as well as how one wants to spend and end their life and with whom. Although not everyone thinks about it and does not have to, in the end in our world, we decide what will be true for us. However, only in ours, while the other person also has their own world and their own truth. There is no objectivity. Likewise, you must choose your truth and take action or not (no option is wrong, it just leads you somewhere else).
Personally, I recommend not relying solely on emotions, because at least I perceive them as reactions of the body, not as truth or a determinant in life. Part 1/2

I do not know about yours, but in my world, true love is care, it is choice. In this way, a feeling of love and value for another person is born, like caring for objects, when you begin to care for and notice its characteristic features, different from other objects. The key is not to like these features, but simply to know them, because to be closer to each other in a world where so much divides us, where words are inaccurate and people are often envious, this knowledge gives stability and the awareness that we are no longer alone, or at least it creates such an illusion. I chose exactly that. I do not know how you want to live, or whether you have chosen, but I know that if you want to live in your world and your definition/illusion, I recommend thinking about it yourself.
And finally, returning to the main question what do you think a spark is? Before you make any decision, I suggest getting to know yourself better and what you really want.
(Let everyone live as they want, you too. No matter what you choose/do, there will be people who will condemn you or praise you, seemingly obvious, but we often forget this when there is too much condemnation.) Part 2/2

>>34136535
Whore
>>34136610
This 100% unironically. It's the neverending cycle.

>>34136661
Why do namefags ALWAYS give the worst advices and opinions? Is it intentional? It can't JUST be because you're retarded.

>>34136535
Hahahaha
You got the ick
Just fucking dump him and go fuck a black guy.

Making use of this thread, how do you genuinely avoid becoming the guy that is OPs bf in this scenario?

It feels like there’s nothing he even did wrong

>>34138533
Talk to other women. Note:I'm not saying to cheat, but even just talking to other women, having similar interests to them is enough to keep your gf on her toes. The whole chad thing mentioned above isn't only about physical attractiveness, tho that plays a part, it's above uncertainty on the women's part whether you desire her. Even the extreme shit like beating falls under this. That said, no woman really cares if you reject them if you're not accepted by other women.

Unless you work to keep the spark sparky, then being in a relationship is about choice and commitment. It seems like you are already choosing to not be interested in him anymore based on your post.

>>34138842
This, the best way to guard yourself is always have insurance. You dont need to cheat, but you can definitely take a page outta a woman's playbook and have potential women to take her spot. Always keep your client window open. I feel like I'm going through this now with my gf, she's becoming a thorn in my side because she thinks a relationship with me is just fun time and rainbows and doesn't take into consideration the real work that will be needed to maintain us. So as if now I've been talking to other women, not sexually but just talking, just in case this shit goes south

Which it most likely will.

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>I would never cheat but I don’t feel the “spark”
this thread is bait

Wow this got a lot lol. Op here, sorry it’s so long

To the guy who asked about BC
No. Nothing changed in regards to that, but desu we were never sleeping together a lot anyway. I just naturally lost attraction ,

>you’re dumping him because he’s not chad not tall etc
He’s is only a little taller than me but that was never a huge issue, the me falling out or love has nothing to do with him being “chad” or whatever. It actually didn’t occur until he brought up the house thing, and I didn’t feel anything

I appreciate all the advice, I genuinely just think making it wait is worse - but again, the thing I feel worst about is he did nothing wrong. He’s going to wonder if he did; and I don’t know how to work around that

>>34136535
>Is this on me or does it just happen ?
Yes, but stop overthinking it. It's normal for feelings to fade.
>I would never cheat but I don’t feel the “spark”
Weird way to say this, but you're already PIMO.
>I feel so guilty for this
Yeah, but it is what it is.

Look, do him a favor and let him go. You both deserve to be happy and that doesn't always mean it'll be with each other. Waiting for this to suddenly change is only going to make it worse.

>It’s been like this for few weeks now so I don’t know what to do
Yes you do.

>>34136610
I hope this guy is wrong, but be careful OP. Don't fall for the "hoe phase".

>>34139229
Easy. You had too much dip on your chip. It's funny how many ppl get into fucking relationships and don't realize the ultimate point is to start a family. Whenever I date a woman, I always assume in the back of my mind that she will be my one, it hasn't happened yet, but that's why I date. I'm not out here looking for a good time and then getting dry with them when they want more, at that point I'd just fuck sluts and stay single. I mean your post pretty much says it
>I was into him until he brought up living together

Translation: I didnt expect to get this far into a relationship and now I don't know how to handle a real adult responsibility so I'll just claim I'm unattracted now as an umbrella reason rather than tell this man I'm too pussy for something real.

I'm not judging you but this is pretty much your real point.

>>34137587
>Mentions Disney
>Says "it just is" parroting me.

>>34138472
>All Capital words


Really pathetic how you keep attempting to sneak in

>>34139287
I'm judging her and she's a retarded cunt

All the fags judging her but she hasn’t cheated on him YET; not cheating on him the moment she lost attraction already elevates her beyond most foids t b h

>>34137636
True

>>34139030
>doesn't take into consideration the real work that will be needed to maintain us
How to train a Western girl to do the chores for me?

>>34136535
>We’ve been dating since mid 2024
you didn't grow up with him
so he's basically a stranger
humans don't just magically form bonds like that

>>34136576
Fbpb.

You already know what you need to do, OP.

>>34136610
Fourth post best