>I’ve been sexting a guy for 1.5 years>he said he was in an “open”long term relationship >claimed his partner was asexual >recently I asked if he’s open to meeting >he ignores>more recently he’s going through a divorce and now entertaining the idea of meeting We are planning to meet in several months. I’m a virgin and I don’t think he knows. He’s into some extreme kinks while I’m into vanilla sex. I do plan to try to engage in his kinks but I know it’s going to be very awkward for me. I’m aware fantasy and online roleplay can be extremely different from irl and that terrifies me. I’d have to be really comfy with him irl to do what he likes. I’m planning to be on the pill then. I’m wondering how to prepare for sex and what I need to know (including about protection and diseases). Is it still pleasurable for a guy when he wears a condom during anal? He has told me he wants to do anal with no condom, but I’m a bit hesitant due the risks. How will it work if I’m into piv and he’s into anal? Do we do piv first then anal after each time or? He’s also into scat…hear me out, he’s a very attractive guy. I’m overwhelmed thinking about this. What do?
This shit seems too sus
>>34137397Can people just go on the internet and tell lies?
>>34137397What’s sus about it?
>>34137397yeah, fake
>>34137388>He’s into some extreme kinks while I’m into vanilla sexAbort. Don't do it.
>>34137498I’m genuinely asking for advice and insight into sex and my current situation. What’s your problem? If you’re a virgin too, then you have nothing of value to add to this thread. >>34137500I’ve known him for a while and it’s hard for me to be attracted to someone. I’m attracted to him so I feel like this is my chance to lose my virginity
>>34137538It's not hard, you just found someone that gives you attention, but you are sexually incompatible and it sounds like he is much older than you so you shouldn't do it. Also anal is retarded, even more so for a virgin that likes vanilla stuff. You should listen to your gut and the terror you feel and do what's sensible and intelligent so you aren't left with a bad time, regrets and trauma. Anal, scat, and you like vanilla, like what are we talking about here. People say you are larping and it could be, but it could be real because I know I'm also very stupid.
>>34137538>>34137563Oh and he is also in a relationship. The fact he ignored you for a while is also a massive red flag. Trust me on that one. This is all lust fueled retardation fueled activity you should avoid OP. If you are a woman you should know how extremely easy it would be to find another guy to give you attention and to lose your virginity with.
Assuming this is a real post, and I say this from a place of genuine love and concern, you are bewilderingly naive. This guy, as described, is big trouble and you should not meet him, let alone fuck him, let alone let him put his dick in your ass. He has been cheating on his wife with you and probably others (using the gross/retarded libtard 'open relationship' excuse) and is now getting divorced so he wants to hook up? And of course he's into anal and shit stuff. Block his sorry ass and use your virginity - literally a woman's most valuable asset - to your advantage instead of throwing it in the trash, which this guy literally is.
>>34137563>You should listen to your gut and the terror you feel and do what's sensible and intelligent so you aren't left with a bad time, regrets and traumaThanks. I’ll keep that in mind. I definitely don’t want to have a bad time or trauma. I’m imagining the smell and clean up. Though I was planning to get a butt plug or a small device to see if I’m into it. Now I’m stressing out. >>34137573He ignored my question about meeting when he was in a relationship. But he is currently separating from his partner and will be free to meet me later. Yes, I likely can find guys to have sex with, but like I said, I am not easily attracted to people.
>>34137594I’m also a bit concerned about trusting him because of the lying.
>>34137603>>34137609You know it, we know it, everyone knows it, it's a bad idea and it will have consequences. There is plenty of red flags. That's all there is to it.
>>34137388Oh, hi. I remember talking to you in the degen gender question threads.
>>34137609As you should be. Everything you have posted about this man is absurd in how bad it is. He's like a parody of a modern pervert. Again, playing along that this is a real post from a real woman, I pray that you will come to your senses and and recognize the calamity you are attempting to engage in for what it is.
If this is a real post, I believe that you should not expect good, let alone perfect advice, because we do not know you, nor him, except for the description you provided. I do not know what kind of life suits you. Sex and that’s it? If so, I think it’s a good option, as long as you are assertive, and he does nothing against your will that you would experience as trauma or a bad memory. Then you get what you want.But if you are looking for a relationship with something more than sex, this is probably not a good option, judging by the description you gave, because I would not expect a relationship, since he was messaging you while being with her. But that is my world. I do not know what world you live in or want to live in. I do not condemn what you choose, but personally, trying to guide you toward my ideal world, I would recommend not doing it, especially if you feel something for him, because emotions can cover many obvious facts.And even if you do make a decision, I think that if it is built on emotions, he should understand a slow approach to the situation.If it’s only about sex, set clear rules like: this is allowed, and that is not.And if any of the advice here, or any decision you make, causes you to feel bad, uncomfortable, or under emotional pressure, I would recommend waiting and calmly thinking it over or withdrawing. There is no such thing as a decision made with no turning back, at least not in this case, not taking into account what opportunity might slip away, because it could be just as big a trauma. So I recommend thinking carefully about what you really want. And what you want from him.
>>34138136it's a virgin woman meeting a degenerate man and your advice is "set boundaries" lmfaooooooooloo
>>34137388>I’m a virgin and I don’t think he knows. He’s into some extreme kinks while I’m into vanilla sex. I do plan to try to engage in his kinks but I know it’s going to be very awkward for me.Anon, I'm going to put this really simply:DON'T DO THIS. I'm not being puritanical about this. I'm not one of the anti-sex alt-right nutters who swarm on here. As far as I'm concerned, if you want to have sex, have sex; if you want to have casual sex, have casual sex; if you want to get into kink, get into kink; I don't care what you do so long as you're happy. But this WILL NOT make you happy. I've seen too many women get sucked into something like this - thinking they can accommodate kinky desires they don't share - and I promise you, you will have an absolutely MISERABLE time if you do this. Please don't.
>>34138374>muh virginPsycho-sexual things going on there.
>>34137388>he’s into anal? Do we do piv first then anal after each time or? He’s also into scat…hear me out, he’s a very attractive guyHow bout stop being a lookist retard for 1 sec and see what you're dealing with, fucking ew
>>34137615>>34137808Dang. Is there anything that can make it better? Maybe I should talk to him?>>34137675Oh, hi. Yes, that was me>>34138136Honestly, I want to sleep with him. But not the scat or anal part which is his fetish. I’m fine to try it once on my last day with him…but not everyday…also I don’t have romantic feelings for him nor want a relationship. >>34138428Okay…I’m gonna have to really talk to him about this before actually deciding to meet regarding things I’m willing and not willing to do. Maybe instead of being actively involved in scat, I could do my business and later he can do what he wants with it? Or just watching me do my business without me touching it?
>>34139146The post at >>34138428 is written by AI text. Holy shit you're gonna fall for such opinion based question generated without any actual thoughts and feelings. Any dashes are written by AI and very long text input.>>34138428Get the fuck out of here you clanker. Your opinion is already invalid the moment you use AI to type shit you have no idea what you're talking about.
>>34139285 I ran the text through a bunch of AI text detectors and it's not AI. I didn't even read it but now that I did it doesn't even read like AI. Using dashes doesn't mean it's AI lmao.
>>34139335You're so fucking retarded that you forgot there's a humanizer for AI technology already. If you have gotten a diploma and studied English, you don't write with dashes in sentences.AI companies bribes these AI detectors to encourage people to use a lot of AI.
>>34137388>recently I asked if he’s open to meeting >he ignoresThis is all I need to read. It's already a red flag. As much as the sex kinks and fantasies you both have, this partner of yours will ditch you also. It doesn't matter if he cheats nor is dealing divorce, he has to put you in his priority but that ain't the case. Ignoring you was his sole decision without his wife's influence.You don't need to waste time nor spend your time exploring about anal sex, scat and sex disease when your partner ain't serious. I'm a guy myself and can understand what's going through his mind.If you're going to give your first love to this person, your entire love life will shatter and never love another one again because you'll be traumatized with it.
>>34139395I mean, when I asked him if we could meet, at the time, he ignored my question but we proceeded talking about other stuff. There was a time last year where he disappeared for a few months though. Later he said it was due to some family issues. I still think the fact we are still in regular communication after 1.5 years is somewhat meaningful, no? >I'm a guy myself and can understand what's going through his mind.What is he thinking?
>>34139285>Any dashes are written by AI and very long text input.What?! You think just because I type in longer sentences than your brain can process, I must be an AI? Fucking hell.>>34139146Anon, I'll say it one more time: just don't. You've never had sex, so you don't have any understanding of how much different people vary in terms of what they want and need, and you have no idea how important it is to find someone whose sexuality is actually compatible with your own. Someone with kinks that extreme will get no enjoyment at all from anything you enjoy, and vice versa.This anon: >>34139395 also has a point. This is a guy who has treated you very badly - I'm going to add dashes now, just to annoy the guy who thinks I'm an AI! - a guy who thinks of you as a convenience rather than as a person. Combine that with his extreme kinks, and he's clearly someone who will treat you as a prop in a live action porn re-enactment instead of treating you like a person he's having sex with. You will feel like an object, not a human being. If you are not a kinky person yourself, you will get no pleasure whatever out of sex like that. Please reconsider. (I'm speaking as someone who has quite a bit of experience of sex with a number of partners, some of it kinky. You need to listen to people who know more about this than you do: you have no conception of how much you will hate this, you really don't.)
>>34137388>How will it work if I’m into piv and he’s into anal?You will be in agonizing pain, and he won't care.
>>34137538I don't have to lose my virginity to know you are going to get raped.
>>34137563>anal is retarded,Tell that to my fat white ex whos butthole I loved every single day, it was amazing
Everyone, I have another issue. We are planning to travel and meet in a pretty big city that’s close to his hometown. It’s quite far from where I live, and will be expensive. We planned for December, but now I’m thinking since he’s going through a divorce rn, he might sleep with other women while he waits for December. If that’s the case, then I wouldn’t go through the plan of meeting irl. Please I don’t want him sleeping with others. He can do that after me
>>34139753>You will feel like an object, not a human being. I really hope this won’t happen…>I'm speaking as someone who has quite a bit of experience of sex with a number of partners, some of it kinkyDid you ever sexually engage in something you regretted?
>>34140117He cheated on his wife with you. Of course he's going to sleep around, you idiot. And he's also apparently into scat? Run bitch.If this thread isn't fake and gay, Are you seriously going to travel half way across the country to get cuckolded by a man that eats feces?
>>34140122>I really hope this won’t happen…It will. Listen to people who have more experience than you.>Did you ever sexually engage in something you regretted?No, because I'm a man and a dom. But several women I've been involved with had previously been in situations a bit like yours, and it broke them in pieces. A guy like that will promise you anything you ask in order to get you into bed; once you are there, he will do whatever the hell he wants and ignore what you want. You think you'll be able to say no, but you won't: you don't know what it's like having a confident, dominant man staring you down and giving you orders; you don't know what it's like being in a position where if you don't do what someone wants, he'll kick you out and you'll have nowhere to sleep. Afterwards, you will not feel like you had sex, you will feel like you were raped.
>>34140117>Please I don’t want him sleeping with others.What on Earth do you imagine you can do to stop him?
>>34140143He doesn’t want poop on his face or in his mouth. He only mentioned wanting it on his belly and dick. >>34140267He’s a sub and actually wants me to dominate. I don’t think he’d kick me out since we will probably split the cost for the hotel or I could pay for it and kick him out if need be. So far he’s been respectful and kind whenever I’m uncomfortable. I’m assuming he’s going to be the same irl. >>34140270Idk maybe I could threaten him and say I won’t meet him if he does…but then again, he could just lie and I wouldn’t know…
>>34139753I'm the same poster you all quoted me you dumbass.Your teacher would fail you instantly with your texts here since that wasn't the kind of way to write in English you fuck. You think using AI would make you sound smarter and better at speaking English? It's the opposite.>>34139335Use Gemini AI and write a sample text to generate and put it on ANY AI detectors, it'll be 0% AI detected everytime because the AI detectors are 100% trained with ChatGPT. There's many more AIs out there to list but don't get yourself fooled again. No actual humans write the way they do in a forum or imageboards.If you wanna listen to him then you should be asking all your problems with AI instead of actual people here in 4chan if all you do is defend a clanker when it's called out.
>>34139727>I still think the fact we are still in regular communication after 1.5 years is somewhat meaningful, no? People divorce their wife for more than 5 years for the same reason and you're not even his wife and even if you're soon to be the wife you're not treated as one. I'm not against cheating, some women deserved to be abandoned if they really deserve it with the problems she cause but this case he's the problem.It's just like replacing your old phone with a new phone. An upgrade. You are an upgrade and a better addition to his life but the difference is he doesn't use you all the time either despite everyone uses a phone every single day for "whatever" reasons. It doesn't matter how long you've been with. If the consistency drops it's over even if he gets back on track again.Since you're new to this love making stuff, for a first time that guy shouldn't be your first as many people have said here but you wouldn't listen. You are interested in having sex and we won't force you but you've been warned by the people. You have to fully revise your statement that you don't care about being dumped and double down to get sex advice.If you cared about long term and having family and not dying alone in your life you shouldn't be doing this but your do so you have to make it clear you revise your statements from the start of your post.
>>34140288>He doesn’t want poop on his face or in his mouth. He only mentioned wanting it on his belly and dick. and what are the assurance he'll let you do that when he could just lock you up in that room and rape you against your will and force you to do all his kinks like tie you up instead then force you to eat his shit instead?If you wanna experience sex with him go on but this is fucking against your sex interest either. You like scat and he doesn't. He likes anal and you don't. You're not even openly interested to try his kinks all by yourself, you're forcing it on your own with the help of others to gaslight you.You're gaslighting yourself so hard and desperate to experience all those stuff to the point you forgot the risk it comes. This isn't about break ups anymore. This is about your safety and survival.If he was someone you know in real life that you meet everyday then it's different, you can fully trust them. If you're going going to double down like an idiot for an stranger then leave evidence and write all what's going to happen inside at your house before you leave so if you go missing, they know where to go and even if you get kidnapped or killed you'd be avenged by yourself with that thing you left at your house.
Invert the genders and the whole thread suddenly makes a lot more sense.
>>34140117Okay, I need you to ask yourself a serious question, here: how much of what you know about this man and his situation comes from something he himself told you? Do you have independent confirmation of any of it? Did you, for example, ever speak to his wife? Did you ever visit his house? Did you ever see where he works? Did you ever speak to any of his friends or his family or his colleagues?I'm guessing not. So, now ask yourself: suppose that at least some of what he told you was a lie, but you don't know what. Now, how much do you *actually* know about him? If his marriage had genuinely been open, his wife would have been completely fine with him seeing you, so there would have been no need to keep you secret. It would have been fine for her to say hi to you, and fine for him to have visited you before. But he didn't.I'm 99% sure that he was lying to you about his marriage being open. He was actually cheating on his wife. That's why he couldn't visit you before, because he wouldn't have been able to explain to his wife about where he was going. He was probably also lying about his wife being asexual. I can almost guarantee he was sexting with several other women besides you, and lying to you about that - and probably lying to them about you, and each other, as well. He is almost certainly planning to meet and fuck some of the other women he has been sexting. It's possible that he has already fucked some of them; if he hasn't, it's not because he's loyal to you, it's simply a matter of scheduling.
>>34140398No one needs AI to sound smarter than you, anon.
>>34140427Honestly, I don’t think I’d ever have a relationship/family of my own. I’m open to intimacy if it’s with the right person. I was not only seeking sex advice, but also opinions about the situation. Some of the replies ITT have got me thinking and questioning if this meetup will be worth it. >>34140467>he could just lock you up in that room and rape you against your will and force you to do all his kinks like tie you up instead then force you to eat his shit instead?That’s scary, but I can’t imagine him doing that. >You like scat and he doesn't. No, it’s the opposite. I’m not into it at all. He is. >You're gaslighting yourself so hardI’m not sure what you mean. It’s clear I want to have a good time with him, but I also have concerns. Obviously I haven’t made up my mind. I might not have enough data points. I’m hoping some trust can be gained in order to give it a green light
>>34140579>I can’t imagine him doing that.(NTA) Roughly 75% of rape victims "couldn't imagine him doing that". What are you basing that on, anyway? What he has told you about himself? If he is a rapist, do you seriously think he would have let you know? What you think he is like is what he has chosen to show you.
OP, you have literally not said one single positive thing about this man beyond the fact that you think he's hot.Instead, what you have described is a man who habitually lies to his wife and to you, cheats on his wife with you and will thus certainly cheat again, and has perverse sexual fetishes that he wants to subject you to despite your natural revulsion, including unprotected sodomy. I cannot imagine how you've gotten this far and are still considering the possibility that giving this pest your virginity is even an option. Do not fuck him. Do not meet him. Do not text him. He will ruin your life.And if you won't listen to reason, make him get an STD test, like, 24-48 hours before you let him rape you.
>>34140579>You like scat and he doesn't. >No, it’s the opposite. I’m not into it at all. He is.I had the gender switched with my long statement out of confusion.>That’s scary, but I can’t imagine him doing that. How does rapists are able to go into a raping streak? They're able to get someone's trust and he has your trust.I'm not saying he's a rapist but there's too many red flags. Even if he is a reliable person compared to what everyone says here as much as you think. There's too much issues and potential problems involved to put your effort into it which doesn't make it all worth it.>It’s clear I want to have a good time with him, but I also have concerns.The only good time is when both of you vibe 100% and can chat all day and make time for each other which makes all the effort worth it and he's none of that. You said that yourself out of your own mouth.You're desperate, you're doing this because nobody loved you like this before. It's painful but it's gonna be more painful when you break up. If you still won't listen then write a confession letter/detailed diary whatever happens to you whether you disappear or die all will be answered through your actions alone and justified by you alone. So if all else fails the ones responsible will be caught. If you don't give a fuck about what happens to you at least leave an explanation for your parents and relatives.
>>34137388Serious question: what makes you think you can't do better than this?
>>34137388>He’s also into scat…Have some self-respect you stupid fucking bitch
>>34140579>I’m open to intimacy if it’s with the right person.Like a dude who literally enjoys poop? you're so fucking stupid it's unreal
>>34137388>I’m wondering how to prepare for sex and what I need to know (including about protection and diseases).- Both of you *must* get an STD test, and it has to be one where the results are available to view online. If he *says* he's been tested, he's probably lying. And yes, you do need to get a test yourself, even if you're a virgin. Some STDs are transmitted in other ways. - Make sure the test includes a blood test for herpes, and tests for HPV and all three strains of Hepatitis. (Standard tests only look for Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Syphilis, and HIV).- Make sure you are vaccinated against HPV, and see if you can get yourself vaccinated against Hepatitis as well. Give the vaccines time to work.- Choose a reliable method of contraception; start using it several months before you have sex. That's necessary because ALL contraception methods have side effects. If they're bad enough that you can't handle them, you need time to explore other options. - Always use condoms. Don't regard condoms as a method of contraception. Condoms are to prevent disease, not pregnancy. (Why do you need condoms if you've both been tested for STDs? Some STDs take three months to show up in a test.) So, insist on condoms for anal, for example, even though you are very unlikely to get pregnant from it.- Learn how to use condoms correctly. For example, they go on as soon as he has an erection. The second he comes, he has to hold the condom round the base and pull out: he mustn't stay inside.- Bring your own condoms with you - don't trust him to.- Practise putting condoms on something until you've got really good at it.- Remember that ALL methods of contraception fail sometimes. Ask yourself carefully: if you do get pregnant, what are you going to do? Make your mind up.- Find a condom-safe lube you like. Bring some.- Assume he's lying.- Don't let him come in your mouth. If he does, don't swallow.
>>34137388>protection and diseasesI suppose I should also point out HPV and herpes can be passed skin to skin - so condoms are not a perfect protection. You can get herpes from kissing. Anything sexually transmitted is also carried in blood, vomit, and faeces, and some STDs in urine. A large number of other diseases not normally considered sexually transmissible can be contracted from contact with someone else's shit. Being exposed to your *own* poop is generally not that dangerous, since it can't contain anything you aren't already infected with; but don't let it come in contact with a cut or scratch, for God's sake keep it out of your eyes, and don't let any get into your vagina. Keep very careful track of which finger has been where.
If this is a real post and I have growing doubts because your way of thinking is very difficult for me to understand then at this stage the problem is not sexual technique condoms or logistics The problem seems to be decision making which I have the impression you have already made. You keep trying to optimize a situation that is incompatible by definition You want sex but not his kinks He wants kinks that you actively do not want You say you do not want a relationship yet at the same time you do not want him to sleep with other people You claim it is just sex yet it gives the impression that you are clearly emotionally involved at least that is how it looks based on your own responses. Setting boundaries is not moral advice but a communication test if he respects them maybe everything will be fine although no one can guarantee that if he questions them downplays them or tries to negotiate you already have your answer as to what would most likely await you. Boundaries make no sense if you already feel pressure to bend them before the meeting and during arousal boundaries are very often brokenI do not want to tell you not to do it However I think it would be good if you honestly thought about whether you are truly being honest with yourself about what you actually want after this sex and not only during it Because once it happens you cannot undo the emotional part even if right now it seems to you that you do not care Many times I thought that something would not affect me that the death of a certain person would not move me that if I did something I would feel nothing because it is just pleasure Sometimes I did not even think about it at all And then when it actually happened something appeared that I completely did not expect strong emotions and long reflection about what had happened
>>34137388>I’m a virgin and I don’t think he knows. OP if you go through with this you’ll regret it until the day you die.Let me guess, you’re a socially awkward loser who’s never really had close friends or relationships huh? If you had, you wouldn’t be on this site for one and you wouldn’t be fucking around with this guy for two. Having sex for the first time will be the most intimate experience and connection with another person you could ever imagine experiencing. It sounds fake, and exaggerated and it’s truer than you could ever imagine, especially if you’re late to the game. Having it happen with the wrong man (especially some porn obsessed freak like this guy) will create a sense of shame that will never quite fade away. Stop talking to him, and find someone decent at a fucking GameStop or library or anything else. I don’t care what baggage and fuck shit issues you have, I don’t care if you’re ugly or fat and dumb. You deserve better than what you are allowing yourself to have, and you should not under any circumstances lose your virginity with this man.
>>34140848I mentioned somewhere that he’s respectful and kind when I’m uncomfortable and tries to put me at ease. I’m hoping it’ll be the same irl. Yes, I’ll definitely make sure he gets tested if we do meet. >>34140944>you're doing this because nobody loved you like this beforeHe doesn’t love me. Nothing he’s done or said has made me think otherwise. I just feel like I won’t ever get a chance to sleep with an attractive man. Given we’ve been in communication for 1.5 years, I feel like I know him somewhat. Yes, I’ll let someone know my whereabouts and who I’m with. Ty.>>34140968The only thing that could be better is not engaging with anyone. It’s hard for me to be attracted to people, but I find this guy attractive. His body is like the statue of David, and he’s older which is my preference. I prefer to have a casual encounter somewhere away from where I reside. >>34140972Everyone has their turn-ons. I’m sure you have some you’d be too embarrassed to share with others. >>34140980I don’t reduce him to simply a guy with a scat fetish. He’s a real person, just like you, with goals, history, feelings, desires and so on.
>>34142991>Having sex for the first time will be the most intimate experience and connection with another person you could ever imagine experiencing.No it won't. The first time you have sex is usually terrible, especially for a woman. It has no long term significance at all.
>>34141047>>34141360Noted. Tysm! Also, you reminded me, sometimes I see him with cold sores on his lips like a few days ago as well as a few months ago…does it mean it’s not safe to have contact with his lips? If that’s the case then there’s no point meeting unless it’s just to hangout together without the intimacy. >>34142671>You say you do not want a relationship yet at the same time you do not want him to sleep with other peopleI don’t want him sleeping with anyone before meeting me. I may not mind if it’s after we meet given that I don’t live near him. Meeting him will likely be just a one off thing.>Setting boundaries is a communication test if he respects themI’ll definitely talk to him about boundaries sometime. He’s going through a lot right now so I’ll wait. >whether you are truly being honest with yourself about what you actually want after this sex and not only during it Thanks. This is something I need to reflect on. I want the meetup to be meaningful for both of us. I’d be happy if we could care for each other during our time together and make some nice memories. I’d still want to keep in touch after and be friends if possible. >>34142991>you’re a socially awkward loser who’s never really had close friends or relationshipsI am a bit socially awkward, wouldn’t call myself a loser, I have a handful of long term close friends, but never had a relationship (my choice). >You deserve better than what you are allowing yourself to haveIs it because he’s into scat or because he cheated on his partner?
>>34143797>I’m hoping it’ll be the same irl.You're planning to travel to a city you don't know, and stay overnight in a hotel room with someone you have NEVER MET, based on that hope. That's quite a gamble.
>>34143811>sometimes I see him with cold sores on his lips like a few days ago as well as a few months ago…does it mean it’s not safe to have contact with his lips?Short answer: yes, it's not safe. Cold sores are caused by herpes simplex 1, which is much less nasty than herpes simplex 2, and an awful lot of people have herpes 1. The risk of transmission is fairly low if he doesn't have an active sore. (High if he does). But I certainly wouldn't risk it if I were you.
Thank you all who replied and have been helpful. I have some things to think about and have noted down some useful things from this thread. I won’t be replying anymore since I think I have enough opinions and insight onto the matter. >>34143813We were thinking of spending around a week together.>>34143817Nooooo….if we can’t kiss or he can’t go down on me, what’s the point? The likelihood of me meeting him now has drastically lowered.
>>34143836You can still kiss. HSV1 is so common and harmless theres no point of worrying about it
>>34143989If she catches HSV1 she risks giving it to a future boyfriend while blowing him. It's worth avoiding that risk if possible.
