How do I forgive myself?Sometimes I look back at the things I did and it hurts me so much. Sometimes I really wish I could go back and just fix the past. It's not even how the things make me feel now, it's how much I hurt people who were just trying to be good to me. It hurts how I look at the things I did and see that I am a bad person. Sometimes I wish I could just sleep for 2 months and then wake up a better person.
>>34142703apologize to those you can still apologize to.identify why you made those mistakes and try to course correct. as long as you're alive, you're not too far gone.
>>34142715>as long as you're alive, you're not too far gone.But it's so hard to just wake up and keep going while full of regrets.
>>34142828Everyone is born into this world ignorant and selfish at first. Those regrets are what teach us to be loving, gentle and compassionate towards others. Improvement can't take place until we've seen why our initial behavior was mistaken, so as long as you put them to good use through self correction, then those past mistakes should be a source of gratitude rather than shame. If you hadn't made those mistakes back then, you would be making them now in the present. It's good that it's behind you now, rather than something you'll have to face later.Also, anyone you've hurt who has who has gone through this transformation themselves would be overjoyed to see that you've grown. None of them would hold it against you or wish for you to be stuck in the past with your old behavior. If they did wish that, it would mean they haven't learned a thing themselves about how to be compassionate.
>>34142703If you learn something from the negative experience to create a better result next time you can heal.Revisit the past event.Release the negative emotions.Imagine behaving in a different way to make it a neutral or positive event.The reason you can't forget is because your subconscious wants a better solution to avoid creating a negative event.The past doesn't exist anymore. Only your memory of it exists and you have the power to turn it into a positive message.
>>34142703It takes two people to have an experience.Both chose to have a negative experience.By freeing yourself from the culpability and becoming a better person you give a chance to the other party to heal from it too.
