By chance I have recently met girl that rejected me like 2 and a half years ago when both of us where still in high school. Back then I really didn't know how to actually ask someone out so we really just became acquaintances and I asked her on text if she wanted to go out with me (without ever having texted before).I didn't think much of meeting her but she actually hit me up on Instagram and we started texting (Which we've been doing for the last 2-3 Weeks). When she texts back she's pretty engaging and asks questions a lot and all (she is a slow texter tho sometimes leaving me on read for days which I don't know what to make of since she was the one hitting me up and she also texts more in general).Anyways I asked her for a "date", I was quite stupid and said that we should grab lunch with her gay best friend (lmao), she said that she really doesn't go out with him but that we could eat with her uni friends. So I'm pretty much doing that next Tuesday.Maybe I'm just too inexperienced with this type of stuff but the mixed signals (leaving me on read for days but also being engaged in texting, rejecting me but also hitting me up) are kind of confusing to me. Does anyone know what to make of this?
>>34144541Not responding in the way that you want her to isn't "mixed signals". Going out with a group of people isn't a date. She is not even slightly interested.
>>34144563Yea, I might be coping desu. But she's not stupid and probably knows I'm interested in her (I did ask her out a few years ago after all)Idk why she wouldn't just say that she doesn't wanna go out, she did have the opportunity but decided to give me an alternative. I get what you say of course. But I don't know what she hopes to gain from this
>>34144592she's testing the waters
>>34144657What do you mean?
>>34144592>Idk why she wouldn't just say that she doesn't wanna go outShe *did* say that. You just weren't listening. If you ask someone if they would like to go on a date and they say "you can meet my friends if you like" that is a loud, resounding "no". She is making it crystal clear that you can try being friends if you want to, but she has no interest at all in ever being alone with you.
>>34144685Technically that was op who goofed that up with bringing friends into the mix, by inviting her gay friend to lunch with them, which left her open to inviting her uni friends instead. lol dunno what op was thinking…
>>34144541One of the many differences between men and women is that women can imagine (and be happy with) being friends with men they have no romantic interest in, while men tend to think in all-or-nothing terms. EVERYTHING you report describes a woman happy to be your friend but not interested in anything more.
>>34144717Yeaaa that was dumb from me haha. My personal worst case would be waisting time and energy on her without getting shit. Idk, should I be asking for a real date? Or just wait and see if she does anything?
>>34144763Depends on what you want, if you’re cool with just being friends then continue doing what you do. Otherwise just ask her out on a real date. Or just ignore her since she already had a chance. But also, assess why you think she reached out randomly after over two years later. Could be a number of reasons: she’s bored and just wants to talk to someone on her terms and timeframe. Or she just needs an ego boost, or she’s looking for a rebound from just breaking up and you were on her list of people who she knows had a crush on her. Or in the very unlikely circumstance, she’s wondering what she missed out by not going on a date with you over 2 years ago.
