As title says, is it even possible/ worth it?I'm a guy in mid 20s and never cared about dating/girls. I'm not some NEET loner, I have social life (admittedly about 80% guys), had a few girls in my life being interested in me etc., but I just always ignored it. I never saw a reason to engage, as title says, I don't care much about sex and I generally prefer spending most of my free time alone.I don't think I'm asexual, I fap about 1-2/week but it's not a need for me, just something I can enjoy in peace and quiet. I don't watch porn and never did. I'm not opposed to it but it just doesn't do it for me, I always prefered reading stories and nowadays I just use AI to write my own.I though that maybe my hormones are fucked, since I also generally have a pretty low drive for other stuff and don't get angry but recently got my testosterone checked and it's on the high end for 18 years old. I don't think I'm depressed either, I just don't need much to be content with my life.But recently my parents started nagging me a lot about getting a gf, and I kinda realized that it makes life easier to be in a relationship. At the same time I still don't 'desire' girls, I don't think I ever saw a girl and though 'oh, she's sexy'. I guess I get along a lot better with guys but I never felt like I want to be anything more than friends, I don't find male bodies arousing at all.So, my question is, is it even worth it to try to get into a relationship? I don't have patience for bullshit, male or female, and I think most girls really want to feel desired, which I am not able to fake, even for short periods of time. I can engage intellectually, but emotionally and physically only in pretty limited capacity. Recently I've been told pretty explicitly that a girl at my work likes me, but the thought that I'd have to dedicate an evening or two every week to her just makes not want to engage at all, I'd rather just spend it on my own.
>>34147353No, it sounds like most romantic relationships would make you miserable. Just ignore your parents and the social pressure and stay single
>>34147368I guess what I'm worried the most if that I'm slowly approaching the point of no return. I'll be 27 soon, and while getting a gf at this point would be pretty hard, in a few years it will be exponentionally harder, especially if I don't want to deal with someone's baggage. Another thing is that I live in a country where it's still somewhat socially expected. I always feel weird when I'm on a wedding or other social function, and I'm the only guy without a pair, and it will become even worse. Same with friends, it's not a problem yet, since not all of my closest friends have wives/kids but I can already see that I'm drifting apart from those who do, since they more often than not socialize as a pair. I can see that if I continue like that one day I might wake up completely isolated aside from work and family like some people here.Is it even possible to get a relationship that is not based around sex and where both parties leave each other a lot of alone space? I don't mind spending time and doing activities together as long as I also get to do stuff alone.
>>34147399It is possible, but it will be difficult since what you are describing is very different than most people's idea of a relationship. You are going to have to find a woman who basically wants her bf to be a roommate who leaves her alone 90% of the time. If it is just social pressure, I'd say your best bet is being a 'beard' for a lesbian (idk if you are esl, 'beard' means someone a gay/lesbian dates to pretend to be straight)
>>34147353Asexuals do masturbate. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards anyone, then you're asexual.You may possibly also be aromantic, in which case dating is pointless. If you're able to experience romantic feelings but not sexual ones, then try dating another asexual person.
>>34147399In the same boat anon. Do you have the foresight of knowing how painful it'll be when your parents are gone?What sort of society are you in that expects marriage though? Yeah, being without someone in the situations that you have described does suck. I don't know if you have siblings but I do find there's this increasing stigma to my being alone, as if I'm secretly a sexual predator that's going to prey on my nephews/ neices simply because I don't have a girlfriend. Its saddening. At any rate going to force myself to go down the girlfriend route, as you say it makes life easier. And from what people at work say, they do seem to be quite up to managing things.To answer your questions, its good to at least try and find out, I think contrary to what the media depicts, relationships aren't as sex-focused as they seem. I don't think that you have to be obsessed with someone's body perse to enjoy them as a whole.
>>34147399your value as a man peaks in your mid-30s.the value of a woman starts out when young and diminishes over time.no need to worry.but you should worry about finding high quality women. and how to attain them.
>>34148001samefagging...i am currently educating myself on women...dude...imagine: they have all the dick they would want, always. they go in a bar and get laid.then there are guys willing to pay good money for instagram models. and everyone has a price, as the saying goes. and not all just want the normal type. all sorts of things. all.then there are the guys totally unaware of what is happening; women operating neurologically different entirely - liars who believe their own lies. and no logic but feelings. so no morals, only what feels good now.and there is no authoritative figure to keep them in place. so the western women and women in the west are all easy.it is a great revelation to me. women are mostly "devils". but one must not judge them.humanity is built on non-human modalities.
>>34147399>in a few years it will be exponentionally harderCorrect>>34148001>your value as a man peaks in your mid-30s. CopeMost women under 35 either don't care about the money a man makes because they have their own, or are just straight up out-earning men. Being an "established" man with a house, car, career etc is only appealing to busted out roasties looking for Captain Save-A-HoeAll the young, actually desirable women (< 30 years old) are fucking around with guys their age>inb4 some anecdote about how you're 35 and "slay young pussy" all the time90% of those cases it's the class porker working at Hot Topic, the actually attractive young women are getting with swim team captain Chad
>>34147936>What sort of society are you in that expects marriage though?Eastern euro. I meant having some relationship experience, not marriage itself. No one will ostracize me for not being married, but plenty of people absolutely will think something is at least a little wrong with someone my age who never had a gf. I'd like to think my friends are better than that but if I'm being honest with myself they absolutely think that I might be gay. (And yeah, that's also something plenty of people will look down upon.)I'm holding to hope that relationship that I'd be comfortable with is possible but when I look around me people spend like 90% of their free time together. I think I'd lose my mind living like that quicker than being mostly isolated.>>34148001Lmao, if I'm gonna cope by constructing my own reality in my head I'd at least make it fun. Sure, having your shit together is attractive at any age, but you don't have to be in your mid 30s for that. And having 0 experience, game, and desire is never attractive and get's worse as you age.
