Somehow managed to find someone that loves me 28 years into my life of being alone and I really dont wanna screw it up so I do the best I can at all turns. Dad always told me to not let someone go if theyre head over heels for you to just chase some other tail because Id regret it. I may not be 100% on the person Im with but I know Id regret it if i stoppedWell anyway we cant have children and i dont know what to do now. i dont want to get to middle age and not have any kids and all our stuff just gets trashed or whatever when we die. i still feel like the both of us live the life of perpetual teenagers and in bursts i enjoy just coming home, playing games n having someone to be with but you cant live like this forever. i feel like the times in which i say i dont have anything to live for stem from the fact im doing the same shit i was doing since i was 15. id probably be scared to have a child but if i dont i think id be even more miserable.opinions?
>>34147576When you say you can't, you mean you both are not fertile?
>>34147578yeah one of us is i dont wanna give too many details cuz i know what people on this website are like but it doesnt matter now because its obvious i guess
one sterile bitch isn't worth a life of regret. Find someone who isn't barren.
>>34147576Your options depend very strongly on *why* you can't have children. Which of you can't, and why? For example, if she has messed up fallopian tubes, you should be looking into IVF. If your sperm count is very low but not zero, intra-cytoplasmic sperm injection might help. If one of you can't produce viable gametes at all but the other can and she has a working womb, you could look into donor sperm or a donated egg. If she doesn't have a working womb, you could look into surrogacy. And so on. But without knowing what the issue is, we can't advise you.
>>34147576>opinions?Yes speak with medical professionals, dieticians, fertility doctor, they go by the name of "Reproductive Endocrinologists" by the way. Identify what is exactly causing infertility in your GF. Common causes include:>Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome >Thyroid Issues>Blocked Fallopian tubes >Fibroids>Polyps>EndometriosisAll of these have their treatment plans and medical options to increase the window of fertility. The absolute worst mindset to adopt is the one where (you) or your GF instantly assume "0% chance of fertility forever fucked". Because if you fall for that, you and GF will fuck your chances up via self fulfilled prophecy of doing absolutely nothing about the issues. Women who actually go and get diagnosed and treated and implement the necessary steps into combatting their fertility issues have a high chance of success. Even for things as severe as PCOS too there's many examples of women being able to get pregnant with the right help.
>>34147617well i suppose but i dont wanna throw away the only person thats ever been nice to me that way >>34147623ok fair enough I didnt really think too much into it >>34147675I didnt think of that either, yeah youre right we'd just end up putting it off forever, thank you also literally adopting is bad, i dont wanna do that
>>34147576>>34147675Since you are the man in the relationship, that makes you the head, the leader. Your GF is gonna be too bogged down by anxiety, worry, shame, and petty self-consciousness about her own body to go and get things checked. So (you) OP, as a man, makes you the [problem solver]. What you need to do is get on Google or any search engine and type in "fertility doctor" + "(your location)". Take a pen and some paper and write some numbers down. Then present it to your GF, do not ask her if she wants to call them (she is a woman, she will automatically tell you she doesn't want it. This is woman speak for "I don't want the negative feelings associated with this".) you tell her she NEEDS to do this to help herself and help you aka help both of you. You tell her she doesn't have to do it alone, that you can call and ask on her behalf. That you'll attend these appointments with her, and you'll work together as a team. Then you make the call and get the appointment date, remember to explicitly ask for it. Then once the appointment is set, you go there with GF and begin the first phase of getting this shit sorted out. If both (you) + GF just sit there with your thumbs up your own asses and commiserate together in shared helplessness, nothing gets done and her infertility issues remain. Only action can solve this issue and a willingness to go see the correct people who have the knowledge and medical resources to help.
>>34147681>literally adopting is badIt's the most noble, selfless thing a human being can do. Think carefully about how the life of the child you're not going to adopt will be affected by your decision not to adopt them.
>>34147584>i dont wanna give too many details cuz i know what people on this website are likeShe's trans, isn't she?
>>34147701>Think carefully about how the life of the child you're not going to adopt will be affected by your decision not to adopt them.Nta but this is faulty logic. By that token, you and I and everyone ITT are evil bastards for refusing to adopt every single child in foster systems.
>>34147711>NtaGo back to plebbit
>>34147732>nta>Not the anonYeah I forgot plebbit is an anonymous image board where everyone addresses each other as anon
>>34147737Nobody uses that here
>>34147745Yes they do. Go on any 4chan archive website and search "nta" and you will see thousands of posts spanning years of anons throughout all boards using it.
>>34147576lol you're sick in the head
>>34147705kek no. I know what Id sign up for if that were the case. fucking got me good
>>34147711>By that token, you and I and everyone ITT are evil bastards for refusing to adopt every single child in foster systems.You're not wrong.
>>34148699kys
