My gf suffered an acute mental break down (from being overwhelmed by many factors?) on nov 20th. she was incoherent, couldn't sleep, and didn't really eat or drink much for about 1-2 days, I'm not sure I wasn't there. Her mother told me on day 3 when I called her that she's was going to be prescribed sleeping meds and anti depressants to help sedate her. I'm very afraid that the medication shell be on and parental/medical enforced isolation will cause permanent damage or prolonged damage to her., or possibly her forgetting me as her boyfriend entirely. She reached out to me via email where we wrote to each other from 22nd of December to 26th where she abruptly stopped. She wrote lovingly and saying how much she missed and appreciated every time I visited her. I'm assuming her mother restricted further access to me, (she's very controlling of her life, she might have seen me as a bad influence despite me doing everything right, I've never argued with my gf. and I respected her and her daughters wishes and boundaries). Its been 50+ days since I've seen her, I love her deeply, people are telling me to go see her, but her mother is putting firm boundaries on me for her " safety" which I feel Im forced to abide. I don't know much about anti depressants but people tell me terrible thing about them, like permanent brain damage,.or just something that just delays the problem. I'm fearful of what's to come.
>>34151252Antidepressants and similar medications may have severely negative effects, but they shouldn't within the span of 50 more or less days. It sounds like you two are in a long distance thing so I'd personally just question why any of this is happening. You say you weren't there but you somehow know or at least think she was incoherent and didn't eat or sleep for days? And your only real defense for yourself as to why the family would restrict access to you is that you never argued with her, that doesn't really make you a good or bad influence from your own perspective.I have no medical knowledge if you need a disclaimer, I've just been on antidepressants at various points in my life, so I believe it would be an extreme case if they made your gf forget all about you or give her permanent brain damage in such a short amount of time. Any way you're willing to share more info? Is it long distance? How long have you been together? Has her family always seemed controlling? Has she always seemed unstable?
Antidepressants don't make others forget people. Most likely the girlfriend doesn't want to see you or is informed the mom of something negative about you and the excuse is the mom.
>>34151252>. I don't know much about anti depressants but people tell me terrible thing about themI think that's all we need to know about the situation. You should let medical decisions be made by medical experts, not by people like yourself.
>>34151313We used to live in the same city, but now she lives about 30 miles away and it takes me about 45 mins to get there, I've always been the one to drive her around and spend time with her, again her mother generally restricted what she would do. She's one of those moms that has a tracker on her despite her being in college and almost 20 (I'm 22 btw). I knew what happened because I went to talk to her family on one of my bi weekly visits to her house and they told me what was happening, I called her mom later that day and she told me her condition, she knows how significant I am to her since when they took her to the clinic she was panicking and was frantically asking where her brothers and specifically me. Gf saying how much good things about me and how much I mean to her. Hearing this broke my heart, and I wept when she said they'll medicate her. We've been officially for about 8 months then (+2 months for the dating phase). Only very recently did she become unstable, things out of our control. She was being overwhelmed by politics, the reality of education, immigration, and just her living situation as a whole. I knew she was getting black pilled since a few days before her crash out she told me to read "The deliberate dumbing down of America" which were proving her realizations to be right. She never showed any signs to me that she wants to be sperate. People have told me that it could be the fact that she was overwhelmed and decided she wasn't ready for a relationship. she called me her "shelter" during those emails, so I can tell she still has some love. I really do think it's her mother. About 3 days ago I messaged her phone to see if her mother gave it back to her. got a response that is nothing my gf would text me, formal Spanish saying "I'm not interested and want to keep just a friendship." Gf writes fluent girly English to me(She's south American btw, middle class castizos, her dad's an electrical engineer,mother studied administration).
>>34151546What do you mean? Am I not in a position to ask for clarity or have any say?I never trusted medical "professional", after the 90s when medicine became institutionalized and for profit. I understand the use of anit depressants but if they hamper parts of your nervous system to go silent or to limit your own emotions, then not only are you ignoring the problem but denying your true self. But your point still stands that they're studied professionals, I won't debate you on that.
