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Ex bf from 10 years ago hasn't stopped talking shit about my husband and I. He posts screenshot of my husband's post on his social media too. We're having a kid now so I cut off everyone who's still friendly with him. I want nothing to do with them. Was this the right thing to do? What do I do?
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>>34154806
I don't think it was necessary to cut off everyone friendly with this guy, but definitely block the ex on social media and generally avoid seeing him
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>>34154903
I haven't seen him in 10 years. I've got him blocked. Everything he's doing is unprovoked as soon as I started my relationship with my husband. We got married and it got worse. All of these people know all this guys does is smear me with everyone he knows. He's been doing it since I was 19 and we were together I just didn't think he would take it this far for this long. I'm kinda tired of people "not taking sides" when clearly he took advantage of me never really saying anything. Some of them never even asked for my side.
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>>34154920
I should clarify, he's always been obsessed with talking crappie about me to everyone because it's the way he paints himself as a victim. However when I started dating my now husband he started doing it to him too and being more aggressive about it. After we got married, it got worse.
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Demoralization campaign. You have nothing to do with Maria and I. You are the pollution that has no place in our lives and is to be removed
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>>34154920
If he's blocked on everything, how do you know what he's posting on social media?
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What a horrid make believe story you made. Just shows what garbage you are to attempt to manipulate emotions and perceivements through creating a trash story. Narcissistic blackmail. Manipulative and conniving. Everything Maria hates and removes from her life because of how horrible it is.
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>>34154929
Some mutuals will sometimes tell me whenever he's been doing something extreme like posting screenshots of our social media on his profiles. On X you can still see them.
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Charity session time

>>34154806
That boy is not well in the head. Usually it takes half a year to heal, learn and integrate after a heart break

10 years is pathology, its not about you even, its his old traumas looping and you are the trigger he chose

You are not his therapist, not his saviour. Pay attention - you should contact police. Together with your husband. This boy needs consequences or he will keep going

File a police report, they will tell you what can or cant be done legally, ask them to talk to him as prevention measure (they do that in many countries)

You are not dealing with healthy man, so dont project common sense or morality. And dont pity, you are not his mother, you are someone being harrassed
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>>34154952
Won't doing that just give him more fuel? I wish a scare like that could make him stop once and for all, but it seems like anything we do just gets him to react.
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>>34154958
You want to hide and hope that somehow it will solve itself

Yeah, its easier to just suffer silently wishing for the best. You did this for ten years already, what life did it lead you into? You are asking advices on 4chan what to do with a stalker that poisons your days

Pay attention: bullies, tyranny, evil grow stronger unchecked. You are signaling directly by your inaction that this situation is fine, so why would he stop? Why would this traumatized boy lose his reliable source of stimulation? There are no consequences for him so far, why change anything?

Do you want your child to grow in this environment? Do you want your stalker to get meet your family on accident late night at some shopping mall and get weird because he had a bad day?

Woman, wake up. Go to police, file a report, tell them HOW YOU FEEL not what lets you hide. The sooner you draw the line, the easier the life will be
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Typing shit like that attempting to influence and perceivement of things. Fuck off. You are the parasite in the toxicity in our life. Get the fuck away from us
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>>34154992
Thanks, I guess it doesn't hurt to ask the police at least.
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>>34155012
Well done, this is the right direction. Truth is on your side, and in that you are the strongest
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>>34155024
YOU ARE WRITING MULTIPLE POSTS ACTING LIKE YOU'RE MULTIPLE PEOPLE AND YOU ARE LYING. TRUTH IS NOT ON YOUR SIDE BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING SHIT UP AND AN ATTEMPT TO HURT US.

YOU'RE A LIAR MANIPULATOR DECEIVER AND HARMFUL TO OUR LIVES
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You're a fucking creep acting like you're writing from her perspective in an attempt to shape the narrative to harm us further. You are the poison in our lives. The narcissistic liar
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>>34155036
>>34155034
What is your question? Do you need help with something specific? Better make a separate thread and link here, I will help you out
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>>34155060
I'm being harassed by this person who is creating these threads using details about my person and me to target and manipulate emotions.

If you're able to see you can tell that he creates these LARP stories that are not advice threads. Every story he creates is from a different perspective. They are against board policy
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so, how black is your husband?
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>>34155123
Are you sure about this?

Op post is an anonymous post, not specifying anyone, posted on a dead board, on a not so popular online forum

There is not a word in op post that is aimed at a specific person

Even if this is some elaborate scheme, it is so inefficient it shouldn't bother you

Mike, do you have a professional that can help you? A close friend? I have powers and tools, but for you specifically it should be in person
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>>34155164
I am positive. Your character assassination attempt is only hostile dressed up as helpful

I said what I have to say. I warned her that he is doing this so she is not affected and it only reflects what a horrid person he is.
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>>34155164
It's a LARP meant to harm those targeted. And How a Larp post works and is harmful.

As a 410 user you should know this by now.
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love how OP immediately vanished and stopped responding when asked about the skin color of her husband



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