Basically, I always wanted to be a rockstar. I'm into a lot of 90s post-punk, hardcore type shit but I feel like the ship has sailed for me and I'm getting absolutely nowhere. I'm almost 30, I'm old and washed up. I've recently been teaching my nieces (12 and 8 years old) how to play guitar, bass and drums and they've gotten REALLY fucking good at it in record time. I'm quite a proud uncle. I would like for them to pursue music as they get older so they can live the dream I never did. The only problem is that my brother and his wife aren't into music and they hate the type of music I play with them (I try to teach them a lot of different genres but we mostly play pretty aggressive stuff). They want their daughters to become doctors or lawyers. My brother wants me to back off so they can focus on school but I think they're at the perfect age to learn music and we have fun in our lessons. He says that I am just trying to live out my fantasy through them. Is he right to say this?
Unfortunately yes. He doesn't want you trying to override his judgement as a parent, and he has a right to stand his ground; especially if he notices that they're lagging in their studies or homework now. It's one thing to help them learn to play, it's a bit inappropriate to influence them into a specific career against their dad's wishes.However this might be a sign you'd be an excellent music teacher. You could try teaching through more formal avenues, like at a music school etc.
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>>34159743You can't override the actual parents of your nieces anon. All you can do is be a cool uncle, if they really like music they will come to you or will carve their own musical journey. Do the kids have their own instruments? You could be cheeky and get the eldest a guitar for her 13th or something. Is your brother actively attempting to crush the kids interest in music? I would say he's being a bad parent in that case and you're doing a good thing for the kids. I'm sure mommy doesn't like her little angels listening to hardcore either lol. Music is good for the heart, brain and soul and kids are made to have fun.Idk anon, I think you're doing a good thing getting the kids into music however you could rapidly find yourself not allowed to visit them. I would take things carefully. Also have your own kids if you want to live vicariously through someone.
