am i allowed to ask my bf for more romantic gestures in everyday life? and specifically romantic, not overtly sexual gestures like aggressive groping.we don't really kiss and there are basically no romantic gestures in our everyday life. sometimes if i come by i gently touch/caress his hair but he doesn't seem to care for it either way. i sometimes wish he did something similar with me. gentle touching of some sort basically, romance.when we sleep, and even if he's dead asleep snoring, he'll put his hand on my thigh and it's one of the things he does i love the most. he doesn't do it if he's awake. but during the days when he's not asleep i feel like nothing like that ever happens and everything feels so aromantic/friendship-like between us.how do i communicate this without making him feel like he's not enough/not doing enough? i want to avoid a negative reaction like that basically.
>>34162828Has it occurred you that maybe he's just not that into you?
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>>34162895this, weird fucking way to phrase that OPwhat the fuck kind of relationship is that?yes you're allowed to talk
It sounds like he might just be naturally uncomfortable with this sort of stuff, no matter who he's with. I don't know if he has some complex about feeling like he doesn't do enough already, but straight up telling him you'd like him to touch you more might work best.If he's unsure what's appropriate, guide his hand when you're together and smile at him or something so he won't feel like he's crossing a line.
"am i allowed to ask my bf for more romantic gestures in everyday life? "FUCK YES ITS YOUR RIGHT, you're allowed to want intimacy in a relationship, why else are you here. As the other guy said, communicate it to him and phrase it more like "I wouldnt be mad if you touched me more" I'd recommend you amping up the intimacy with him as well, you already gently touch and caress him, take that up a notch and with time he'll mirror it.
>>34162828>how do i communicate this without making him feel like he's not enough/not doing enough?Bear in mind that he actually isn't doing enough. But yeah, it's better to phrase it in a constructive way. Don't say "You never kiss me!" Instead smile and say "Can I have a kiss?" Then, when he does kiss you, react positively, like you're really enjoying it. Then say "Oh, that was lovely! Do it again!" And after he's kissed you again, smile about it a lot. The next day, say "I really loved it when you kissed me yesterday!" Keep being positive and reacting positively, and he'll get the message eventually
>>34163001This is advice that is punching way above the weight class of this board. Also note that while wanting to be given affection, a lot of men never experience the feeling of being given affection and it can atrophy their emotions. Please be sure to give him kisses and initiate hand holding. That said if after like two weeks of doing this as well as blatantly outright talking to him saying you are trying to work on having more affection going both ways in the relationship, if he dose not reciprocate in a lasting and earnest way. Then you dump him and move on he isn’t worth the time.
>>34162828discuss love languages with each other, this kind of thing going unspoken will lead to feeling unwanted and resentful
