I've got a girl coming over tomorrow night, the plan is she'll cook anything I get the ingredients for, her idea, and I'm a bit nervous about it because she's a lot younger than me.I'm almost 32 and she's barely 20. Set up by some mutual friends, already hung out and spent the night a few times at my place, but I'm still not sure about it. My friend said that she really wants to impress me and it seems that way but even though that's flattering I don't really like it. All the time we've spent together has been great, don't get me wrong. I like her and she likes me too but I'm not sure what to do with this whole thing, mainly because I feel kinda trapped. If I keep it casual then it'll break her heart and be a whole problem with our friends. I don't want to keep it just casual, but the fact that I really shouldn't really bothers me. Having my choices almost forced like that just doesn't feel right, even though it's the choice I want to make anyway. The girl is great and we get along very well, but I enjoy being a single dude with my own house and doing whatever I want, whenever I want. This feels like a step towards being a boring old man if I go through with it. Not to mention I'm sure her family will have their own questions about the age difference, even though we're both white.Plus, I'm not sure what meal to choose tomorrow so that's another problem.
Just try to enjoy it while it lasts.IT IS WEIRD though, I have an adoptive sister who's 20 now and it's crazy to think I was already an adult when she watched Cartoon Network and played with dolls. It really changes your perspective on age
>>34165041enjoy it while it lastsgirls below 20 rarely commit so be ready for this to be over sooner rather than laterI did get a 16yo gf when I was 26 but I looked and behaved like a teen and I lived with my parents and all of that, functionally I was a 19yo, I couldn't get a 16yo gf now as someone that lives alone and pays taxes, I just don't see us connecting to the level that is needed.just sex is doable, I've fucked plenty of 18yos lately.
>>34165041You know exactly what you should do, you just can't bring yourself to do it. Actually *do* what you know you should.
My 57-year old dad is about to have his second child with his 26-year old gf.At one point you'll inevitably stop caring what others think, you may as well stop caring now.
>>34165326based dad>>34165041you're overthinking this. just enjoy the moment and see where it goeschoose something you can cook too, so you can do it together
>>34165041>Set up by some mutual friendsThe fuck kind of social circles you run in where your unc ass is getting set up with a barely out of her teens girl?
>>34165326That poor kid. Growing up with older parents is tough especially if they're gonna be in hospice care while you're in college.
>>34165041Expect nothing more than a pleasant evening with someone who might become a friend. That would in fact be an excellent outcome, but if anything more develops, that will be nice too.
You virgins know that 19-20yo women go out hunting for 35+ guys to fuck every weekend, right? They rinse and repeat regularly
>>34165041I won't read yet another calendar of doom thread. It has been done to death here in all its variants.
>>34165334>choose something you can cook tooI was thinking that too, good idea.>>34165340Young adults lol what kind of question is that >>34165397I think it's up to me if anything develops. She already hit me with the "so is this maybe going anywhere or just for fun" texts after the first couple times she stayed over. Maybe I'm getting a bit too old to just keep fucking around though, so I'm not sure >>34165794It's more optimistic I think. You don't have to get fat and boring as soon as you turn 30 despite what people seem to think. Personally I'm still gonna be ripped when I'm 90
>>34165874>young adultsNigga you're 32, you ain't a "young adult" anymore lol. I just find it odd because of zoomer hysteria over age gaps, I doubt they'd be setting you up with a girl that was still a teenager only a few months ago.
>>34165041>I'm almost 32 and she's barely 20So two consenting adults? I don't see the problem.>she really wants to impress meSo you've got a girl with enough sense to not fall for the "hoe phase" meme, *and* she's into you to the point of auditioning for an LTR? I'm still not seeing the problem.>I feel kinda trappedTake a moment to ask yourself what you actually want, and if what you want is a relationship, then be upfront and transparent about whatever stipulations and boundaries that relationship would entail, and let her make her own decision on if proceeding with said relationship is something interests her.>I enjoy being a single dude with my own house and doing whatever I want, whenever I wantAside from not acting single if you're not single, and being conscientious of plans and agreements, you don't really have to give up on the do whatever you want, whenever you want thing, just establish the frame that you come "as is." Don't have her immediately move in; let the amount of time she spends at your place, and the amount of stuff she keeps at your place, increase gradually over time. If at any point you're no longer feeling it, talk to her about it, and if a resolution can't be reached, end things. Agreeing to be in a relationship isn't a commitment to forever, it's a commitment to enjoy things until such time as things are no longer enjoyable.>This feels like a step towards being a boring old manFirst, boring is underrated. Second, if your hang up is that you don't want to feel trapped, I just covered the idea of only be in the relationship as long as you're happy in it, and obviously don't even kid about marriage prior to the two year mark. If your hang up is a desire to "sow your oats" then trust me when I say pussy is overrated. You know what *isn't* overrated? Comfort. Support. Peace. If you've got a girl who can provide you with those things, you're luckier than most.TL;DR A nice girl wants to cook for you and touch your penis; let her.
>>34165041Less thinking with words, more feeling through it with your heart and body. You can even contemplate it like this, just inbibit yourself a bit from so to say "cluttering your desk" with words while doing so. Could help to do it on a walk. Gently.Sounds like emotional insecurity more than anything so just like... put in the emotional work, get better at that. Keep your ears and heart open and don't chase after this and that reasoning.For what meal, >>>/ck/Probably something that doesn't generate a ton of gas? :p
>>34165041If you don't want to deal with the guilt, then just call it off, but remember that it still takes two.If you're not leading her on, she knows full well what she's getting herself into.
>>34167809>So you've got a girl with enough sense to not fall for the "hoe phase" meme>A nice girl wants to cook for you and touch your penisA woman sleeping with a guy she just met IS in her hoe phase, retard. Most sluts don't go into it thinking of themselves as sluts. They genuinely believe that relationships work this way, because nobody taught them otherwise. Doesn't make it any less self-destructive.
>>34165041https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kbkysPTnHcSocial media has primed an environment where this type of degeneracy is not only accepted, it thrives. Social media desensitizes and radicalizes even moderates into believing heinous and abhorrent behavior is acceptable under the correct context. Spend just 5 minutes on Twitter, Facebook, Reddit, you will find hordes of these deranged people. They exist among us. The FBI knows about them but never acts until it is far too late. Western society is on a one-way fast track to collapse as long as social media continues to destroy minds and decay the culture.
>>34167856>niggety fool bot be SPAMMIN' adv fulla dis booolsheeet
