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I’m too much of a grown man to understand “hints.” I’m not interested in playing that game at all. The only gf I’ve ever had happened because she made it REALLY obvious she liked me. But I’ve never found any woman with that same energy since.

I have a female friend that tells me woman have multiple guys talking to them on average. Men and women just do not live on the same planet. I really wish I could just live in a planet where I could walk up to a girl and straight up tell her she’s hot and I want her but I can’t because I have no idea how it’ll affect me. It’s just way easier if the girl gives me some sort of assist and I can take it from there… But that never happens. It’s always me having to initiate everything and it’s so exhausting and I’ve tried that but it’s always led to failure.

Should I just find an autistic girl? Would that solve my problems?
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>>34165190
>Should I just find an autistic girl? Would that solve my problems?
That’s most likely who you were trying to hit up to begin with. Girls who give mixed signals, girls who are unaware of the signals they send, girls who intend to send signals but never outwardly express them at all, all autist chicks.
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>>34165190
Read the system by doc love and read tge real chad move website
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>>34165190
>I really wish I could just live in a planet where I could walk up to a girl and straight up tell her she’s hot and I want her
you do live in such world
but your mindset and mental barriers have made this difficult/impossible for you

>It’s just way easier if the girl gives me some sort of assist
it simply doesn't work this way (unless you're some kind of special male, rich, very good looking, etc, but we're going to assume that's not the case)

here's a useful, albeit quite misogynistic mental model: think of women as NPCs. they don't know what they want, they don't know whether they're attracted to you, until you approach and convey interest. that's why the way you do it and confidence matter that much. if you do it right, you'll pique their interest and get a number/date. even though you weren't on their radar as a potential mate in the first place.

think about it like a role. as a male, your role is to make a woman interested in you. not wait on the sidelines trying to pick up signs of interest (which won't ever manifest for 90% of males).
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>>34165314
THEY MADE 2B TRINI
EYYYY NOW DAS SUMTIN YOU NAH SEE ERDAY
DEM STOCKIN FIT HER LIKE YAM FIT A NIGGA MOUT
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>>34165190
You shouldn't make hate into an excuse to be less loving.
There can be great reasons to hate, and not relent, but if you block your own capacity to love you lose the love "race"... which is primarily about how worthwhile your own time will be to yourself.
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>>34165190
My first gf never dropped any hints to me and just said yes to everything I suggested until we were dating.

You're allowed to talk to girls even if they aren't "dropping hints" to you. You can gauge if they're open to conversation with you. If a girl seems like she's enjoying and willing to talk to you, you can ask her out.
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>>34168115
>If a girl seems like she's enjoying and willing to talk to you, you can ask her out.
Not op but im too much of an autist to understand when its just friendly talking or something more when it comes to women.
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>>34168246
The way I learned it was by talking to women and asking them out and learning by trial and error. If you aren't literally autistic and are just inexperienced you should learn.

Learning how to interact with women is difficult and cringy, if you didn't learn it as a highschooler you must suffer through it as an adult.
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>>34168277
>you must suffer through it as an adult.
Too much inexperience in my case. Juice is unfortunately not worth the squeeze at my age.
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>>34168293
>Juice is unfortunately not worth the squeeze at my age
It seems that people use that "juice" phrase when they want to handwave things away because they're hard
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>>34169230
More like you either fundamentally understand it or you dont. It's not like physical exercise where everything is understandable.
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>>34169238
>More like you either fundamentally understand it or you dont
Unless you're a diagnosed retard, that isn't the case. You can learn it through extremely contrived means with a lot of research. We only know what we've learned, and if your life didn't show you how to talk with women with a sexual goal in mind or you didn't take the opportunities to learn when everyone else was learning, then it's pretty much all up to you to make what you can of your experiences.

That isn't to say you need to be the suave-est guy in the world to bag a chick. I see old, ugly dumbasses who stumble over their words wind up with pretty women all the time.



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