Was walking with a female friend and coworker of mine and she was showing me something on her phone leaving work. All of a sudden she said “aright see ya” as I was walking with her. My car was in the same direction but I pretended that I was walking the other way to not make her uncomfortable. Thoughts??? She was acting totally normal up until then and was showing me different things on her phone (social media stuff) and then just said “alright see ya”.
>>34166733She spergged out. Somehow had the idea that like your car was another direction and was wrong and was too awkward to call attention to her mistake. The solution is doing nothing and not mentioning it
>>34166733Why didn't you say: "Alright, see ya too, but we'll actually have to walk a bit in the same direction, I park over there!" Is it so hard to act like a normal person?
>>34166733>I pretended that I was walking the other way to not make her uncomfortablestop doing this. stop trying to manage the thoughts and feelings of other people, its impossible and youll go crazy. this is how you become normal. normies naturally have no empathy or dont care about other people or are too dumb to even predict what other people feel and think, you can mimic this behavior.
>>34168764>stop doing this. stop trying to manage the thoughts and feelings of other people, its impossible and youll go crazy. this is how you become normal.I enjoyed this part, well said.>normies naturally have no empathy or dont care about other people or are too dumb to even predict what other people feel and think, you can mimic this behavior.I didn't enjoy this part. You missed the gem of your own advice. Ceasing trying to manage thoughts and feels of other people? Very based. Assuming it requires a lack of empathy to pull it off? Not based. Normies have empathy, but they also have boundaries. They understand that empathy is a resource, like water. And they understand that in order to maximise the effectiveness on the plots of their own lives (their own connections: friends, family, their relationship/marriage), then they must spend their empathy wisely and selectively, they understand their life is not a farm or a field, just a humble plot. They've only got enough empathy to consistently and effectively water that plot. If they were neurotic, they would catch the stupid idea that somehow their whole life is an entire field, and they would try to spread their empathy across the field in equal measure to be a "nice guy". And if they tried that, they would realise very quickly that each connection, each person in their life receives only a drop. Just a tiny drop of empathy at a time. They would quickly find out that for all their intentions to be helpful, they become undependable and helpless. "Normies" live in reality. And the others who wrongfully believe that their empathy is some superpower with infinite limitations and fail to have boundaries, they live in fantasy.
>>34168874normies dont think that way at all. its really not complicated. normies are not able to predict things which is why they talk so much, they need as much information as possible because they cant fill in the blanks. for example if someone is sad then an empathetic/autistic person will instantly analyze the context and predict why the person is sad where as a normie will just blurt out "whats wrong?" because they dont have the ability to think. but this can cause the empathetic person to get stuck in their own head and hallucinate things that arent real. even if a normie was smart and could predict things they still dont because they dont give a shit.
>>34169019>normies are not able to predict things which is why they talk so much, they need as much information as possible because they cant fill in the blanks.They can predict things. To what degree, lesser or greater than a neurodivergent, I cannot know. But I promise you they can, and I say that as someone with adhd, pattern recognition and chasing dopamine from pattern seeking is my speciality. And the pattern I see with ‘normies’ is they can make social, cognitive, and emotional predictions. The trouble you may be having as an autist is they show their predictive power through language, in their words, using euphemism or double-meaning or idioms. Classic example: >“Don’t count all your chickens before they hatch”. In normie speak it means “I predict that the outcome you are expecting is not going to happen at this time, to safe yourself disappointment, you should not expect it either and wait until it actualises before planning further.” >empathetic/autistic person will instantly analyze the context and predict why the person is sadI find this half true. You’re right, autists are extremely good at detecting when someone is hiding sadness or any emotion . In fact autists are so good at this I genuinely think its spooky, like a supernatural sixth sense. But when it comes to the “why” part, I gotta be honest autists are the worst at analysing this. They almost get every prediction wrong or can’t even see the ‘why’ at all. I’ve seen autists get it extremely wrong this way:>Autist tries to talk to an acquaintance.>”I really dont feel like talking” abruptly says the acquaintance.The autist then believes the acquaintance is mad at him, completely oblivious to the fact the whole day the person was irritable, restless, ruminative. His dog died yesterday, but autist thinks it was all about himself somehow. So to be real with you, autists suck at predicting “why”. They are excellent at sensing “what” though.
