I’m 19 turning 20 this year finishing my second year of school. I originally attended a private 4 year school and struggled my first year. After concluding my first year I took some classes at my local community college from May-Jan. As the fall semester was concluding I applied to re-enter my original school. I tried letting my parents know particularly my mother and she was strongly against me returning. After I got in since I was a former student they assigned me a schedule pretty quickly and so I began to attend classes. My mother lost it and started shouting and screaming and telling me how stupid of a decision this was and while I don’t entirely disagree the approach was a bit harsh imo. I’ve also registered at my local community college for spring semester to avoid this in case my parents don’t allow me to return. With aid and scholarships if I went to the private school I’d be paying $6k in fees which is nothing to scoff at but I don’t think I’m crazy for thinking it’s not a ludicrous price. The reason I would enjoy going to back to my original school is that home I feel very isolated, and it has slowly been eating at my mental health. I understand the frustration my parents hold since I did fuck up in school and disappoint them but I feel that control over me is another reason they feel so strongly about this. Anyways my goal is to move out by 21
>>34168358you are wasting time (which is the most valuable thing) by being retarded and switching back and forth. Choose a path and stick with it.>I feel very isolated, and it has slowly been eating at my mental health.oh shut up. If only you realized how competitive the world is today- how meaningless this would sound. Who gives a fuck? The world doesn't. Either you can perform or succeed in employment, or you can't. No employer cares about your feelings.>she was strongly against me returningif you aren't paying for your schooling, maybe you need to take into account the opinions of people paying for it. You are a scumbag leech for putting this debt upon your parents when you know they can't afford it. Why aren't you working and paying for your own tuition and your own rent? Maybe they are right for being mad because you can't even choose a school and stick with a progress.>Anyways my goal is to move out by 21if you were serious you would be making moves to move out right now. Pay for your own shit, feed your own mouth with your own hands.
>>34168377>oh shut up. If only you realized how competitive the world is today- how meaningless this would sound. Who gives a fuck? The world doesn't. Either you can perform or succeed in employment, or you can't. No employer cares about your feelings.You’re right about this but I don’t see ad to why I can’t accomplish this goal at my original school. By that I mean obtaining my bachelors.>if you aren't paying for your schooling, maybe you need to take into account the opinions of people paying for it. You are a scumbag leech for putting this debt upon your parents when you know they can't afford it.I don’t plan on having them pay for it that would be unfair, admittedly I am severely under planned and currently unemployed so I would need to either take out some loans or start hustling. However I don’t see the big deal about borrowing funds responsibly and my major is somewhat lucrative so I would be able to pay it off after graduation.>if you were serious you would be making moves to move out right now. Pay for your own shit, feed your own mouth with your own hands.You’re completely correct about this I’ve got nothing else to comment Thanks for reading and responding to my tangent anon, I appreciate it.
>>34168358>I’m 19 turning 20You're an adult now. You're the captain of your own ship. Your parents can yell and say and threaten whatever they like, but ultimately your choices are yours and yours alone. I would also say unless your parents are wildly successful in life and business and have personal experience with what you want to do, thank them for their input say you'll consider it, and ignore them. You can move out if you have a job that pays enough money to have a comfortable apartment. It is no more complicated than that. Until then you just manage your parents with humoring them, agree and amplify anything they say back to them. Works most of the time.
>>34168568>I would also say unless your parents are wildly successful in life and business and have personal experience with what you want to do, thank them for their input say you'll consider it,Thank you for you me advice and consideration. My mother is nurse herself and went to the same cc I’m attending currently so she does obviously have some experience, the issue is I’m not sure I want to follow in her footsteps exactly.
>>34168970In high-performance and competitive fields a real life, qualifying question you will in fact sometimes be asked is "do you have any X in the family"? This is asked because having the benefit of someone genuinely invested in your growth like a family member who knows how to do what you want to do is a massive force multiplier. If you do want to do something in the medical field, it is worth considering listening to your mom and enlisting her assistance.
>>34169067This is helpful information thank you for sharing it with me. I’ve heard that for nursing the institution that you attend and graduate from isn’t considered as much as other career paths, is there any truth to that?
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