Alright so I’ve known this one gal for about four years. We knew each other in passing at college and now we both work at the same company. She has always been a little stand-off ish and aloof towards me, and I also suspected she wasn’t into men romantically. Anyways we’ve been running into each other more often and she is still pretty shy. She’ll never say hey or anything until I initiate it but then she smiles back. Last couple times I’ve seen her though she stops to chat and starts talking my ear off about different things. Her dog, what food she likes, her morning commute, what she likes to do on the weekends and etc. but still acts shy sometimes. I don’t really say anything during the conversation other than just listening to her. I suspect she might be socially awkward like me (I have high functioning autism). We are socially media friends, and I have messaged her in the past and she has always responded. Would it be out of left field to send her a message to test the waters? Just like “hey, how’s the weekend been” etc.?I don’t want to be known as the office creep (people already call me Robbocop around the office because they think I’m sorts robotic.)
Another thing I forgot to mention is she was talking to a female coworker and mentioned “looking for a boyfriend on hinge”
>>34169326i just wanna thank yo ufor writing a comprehensive post about the situation instead of vague garbage like is common here..>Would it be out of left field to send her a message to test the waters? Just like “hey, how’s the weekend been” etc.?i can't imagine that would lead to anything bad, especially if she already stops to chat & tells you all about things :D
then again, i've never worked in an office, idk what it's like or how weird/retarded/inhuman the expectations are>>34169331hmmm...
Bump
Just ask the girl out. She's already made it clear she likes you. She wouldn't talk to you otherwise to that extent.Just say, "Hey, fancy going to do something after work on Friday"? Your call but make it something you think she has an interest in. Not dinner.Then when she says yes, smile and say "It's a date!"If she says no, she wants to keep it professional, she has a boyfriend now, whatever, just say all good, and done. That's it.
>>34169326Hitting on people you work with is never a good idea. If they're not interested you risk getting reported to HR; if they are interested, then ask yourself what it's going to be like still having to work with them after a really bitter breakup.For the record, I'd say there's less one chance in ten that she's interested.
>>34169326Try a non-date date, something that could be just friends hanging out, and see how she interprets it. Next run-into-each-other: "This is fun but we have to get back to work. Want to have lunch together?" (or "Want to catch a drink after work?")
