Was at the supermarket for my weekly shop.Whilst at the self check out one of the employees said to another one “I’m so stuffed” and “put down a good layer for alcohol tonight”.The other employee replied “going out tonight?”The first employee replied “yes, dancing and I hope by the end of the night I will be getting stuffed by “two” of them”.I never went out. Never had friends. Have no clue where to start. Social things were never taught to me. I wish I was back in my 20s again and could do it all over again.]How do I deal with having missed out on so much? How do I deal with jealously if the youth and all the freedomn they have, something I never had?
>>34169385>I never went outNigga, how?
>>34169385Drinking is not youth. If you wanna go to a bar do so. If you want young friends, go back to college for any reason (postgrad, new major) and join a dumb club, talk to people regularly and joke with them, tease them, make fun of them and be made fun of.
>>34170438That's not impossible, in my case, it was overprotective parents barring me from going out, internalized shame from church and family expectations, ambitions and more expectations.
>>34169385Bro, you were seriously triggered that bad by an immature conversation that made you start dwelling on superficial shit that you never had (didn’t choose to have) and then the urge to post about it? First, how do you even know you missed out on anything if you never had it?
>>34169385Understand the past is behind you, but every possibility still exists to be taken in the future. Be at peace that yes you'll never "be 20 something and do x", but rejoice that you can, are still able and will eventually do x, even if you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s. In a way, by understanding that, you will be more free. Even more so if you let go of the comparaisons. You deal with having missed so much by doing these things. Pic rel is arma 3? Play the game (or anything really), mic up and talk with others. Ask them if they often play it, ask them if eventually they would want to play with you someday, or ask them to teach you more about the game. Next time, dont go for the self checkout, say hi to the employee, ask him about his day, or tell him to have a nice day afterwards. You could also join a D&D club, or any club really, I think some stores do D&D events you can try going to one. After a while you can ask the people there to go out for something. Volunteering? Could be cool too. Going to the gym, obviously, but it's really easy to just go in and out, but maybe that's better. You could ask your neighbor for something, then afterwards give something back, the thing you ask for doesn't matter honestly, really it's just so that you can give something back without it being too weird, and the Ben Frankin effect may play a role in that too.I'm just saying random shit, try what resonates with you. I have difficulties talking to other people or doing things if I think it can go bad and I often overthink things, but I realised that doing things is half the battle. Do things really, do them jealous, do them sad, do them melancholic, do them with regrets, but just do them. No amount of advice will do things for any of us. For the never taught part, if you do social things you'll learn what works and what doesn't, not without failures, but also not without successes if you keep at it. Eventually, after you've done these things, you'll understand.
Would you rather be 20 and sick or 35 and healthy?
>>34170896>let go of the comparaisonsI meant comparisons desu(Cont)Will all of your problems go away? No. But you'll understand than you can do something about it, as you have done things before. What about the problems you can do nothing about? That's a discussion for another day, or a problem you can look into by reading into stoicism. I think our problem is that we don't do enough, out of fear, ignorance, loneliness, maybe a few would say it's because of a group, or another, or that one, or the other. I don't think it matters that much who or what is at fault. It's comforting to escape responsibility by denying your ability to do something, but I have found that most of the time, I'm the one responsible for fixing things in my own life, same goes for (you), and until I've done it (guess how, by doing things), things won't change, regrets will grow, and time will pass. Time will pass anyway, but the first two don't have to stay this way. Go get it.
OP here.>>34170438I never developed social skills, had overprotective parents, hard to break my conditioning, no confidence, I have a 'baby face' and look way younger than I actually am.>>34170475no confidence, no idea where to start, no idea what to do.>>34170534yes I'am triggered by an immature conversation. If I can not have fun, then no one should be allowed to any. I want to go back to the time of Corona lock-downs. People stuck at home, just like me. I know I missed out cause I lived most of my life as a hermit or is it recluse?>>34170896To me the world does not come across as friendly and helpfull and you make it out to be.>>34170929I rather have a Logan's run. Fuck and party till i'm 30 and them get euthanised in a mass event.
