Should I be less kind to people? I try my hardest to be kind but I don' think it makes me attractive. I've never had a girlfriend and feel like people just don't really respect me. I've had good things in my life and lots of blessings but I feel like nobody likes me really. I feel like people might like me but nobody loves me. Nobody wants to spend time with me and I'm always the first one to message. Should I just stop being nice to people?
>>34170794Yes be a total dick to everybody.
>>34170794Yes, I think there's more out there than this material world. Be good at heart always
>>34170797Is it worth it?>>34170803I want to be but I feel like nobody loves me in return for my kindness. I'm not even asking for a gf ( because I have a waifu anyways ) and all I want is for people to want to spend time with me
>>34170839What are you doing to try to meet new people since it hasn't worked with previous ones?
>>34170794Are you only nice to people because you want them to like you or are you doing it because you think it's the right thing to do?
>>34170852I like to go to anime cons and I like to talk to people in online games
>>34170862I want to do the right thing. I don't like treating people rude. I think I'm too nice for my own good sometimes. I feel like I need to be meaner if that makes sense
>>34170866Those are pretty easy ways to meet nice, nerdy people. Do you have hygiene problems and/or bad with social cues
>>34170869Do you see setting appropriate boundaries as "being mean"?
>>34170872>Those are pretty easy ways to meet nice, nerdy people. Do you have hygiene problems and/or bad with social cuesHygiene I'm VERY good at. For cons I'm the opposite of the smell meme and shower extra before I go since I cosplay all the time lol. I shower and brush every night well. Social cues I'm okay I think but sometimes am a bit clueless but not as bad as other people ik>>34170880Not really everyone needs boundaries
>>34170897Alright so what do you mean when you say you think you should be "meaner"
>>34170904>Alright so what do you mean when you say you think you should be "meaner">Some friends don't respond to me and have told me to just message them a period if they don't see my message. >Don't invite or buy things for friends who don't do anything for me>Don't respond as fast as I normally do>Stop saying "it's okay np" when they don't respond to me in a week ( if even that short )>Don't wish people a happy holiday ( no matter what holiday it is ) first>Don't buy people birthday gifts when they never buy you stuff>Stop doing favors for peopleStuff like that
>>34170933None of those things are meanThat was what I was trying to get at with my first questionNot buying someone a present when they never buy you presents is a healthy boundary, not being mean.
>>34170962What about not ding the period thing and just ghosting them? I don't wanna be the first one to always message people :(
>>34170976Normal boundary
>>34171008Alright I'm gonna do it and be less nice to people now. I'm going to commit to this
>>34170794You don't seem to understand the difference of what a good person is and the fact that you're so judgmental of it just shows how empty you are and puts the good person on a pedestal that they deserve to be on because they're a better person than you and you are jealous.
>>34172109What do you mean by this?
