My girlfriend said I am really bad at being a dominant man but I can't help it. I want to be sweet and loving and supportive to her but she just reads this as being a bitch. How do I adjust my mindset to stop being so corny?
>>34174139be born with a better father?
>>34174139Nah shits hard. Girls don't like kindness as much as you would think. Doesn't really matter if you are otherwise masculine, they hate soft temperaments. No clue why
>>34174139>I am really bad at being a dominant manThis is not a bad thing. Tell your GF to fuck off.
>>34174139kill and eat her
>>34174222Yea so I have learned, but Idk I just think she's so sweet and I love her and I want to show her that. But by doing that I become a bitch so idk what I am supposed to do >>34174228She's not the first girl to tell me this idk what's up with these bitches man I just want to nice and sweet to her
>>34174335If your GF isn't fine with you doing what you want, then you need a better GF. End of story. Forget the "how do I be dominant" bullshit.
>>34174344Ive considered it, but I keep seeing/hearing that women pretty universally like a more dominant man so idk if I'll just end up in the same spot for the 3rd time. I want to find a way to adjust my mindset so I can keep the girl I love
>>34174139>being a dominant manIn what way does she mean? Does she want someone cold and distant? A dominating sex partner? Physically strong? What she said is meaningless unless she actually specifies what the complaint is.>How do I adjust my mindset to stop being so corny?Don't. That shit is rare among men and even rarer among good men. Women who don't like supportive men are messed up in the head in some way. All women from traditional Christian girls to the "strong independent woman" liberal stereotypes like having supportive men (whether dominant or submissive) in their lives. If your woman doesn't like that then something is very much wrong.Find out why. If it isn't something that can be fixed, then find someone else. Those who associate being supportive with being a bitch are likely bitches themselves, sadly.
>>34174359>In what way does she mean?Like taking the lead in our relationship, asserting myself, shit like that. The thing is though that I genuinely dont care enough about what she does or what we do together to do that. I mean that in that I am happy to go with whatever, let her do her thing, etc
>>34174355>I want to conform to what women wantNo, don't do that.
>>34174457What are my options bro unfortunately I like women and want a gf/wife
>>34174470Find a woman who'll love you for who you are and not try to change you to suit her needs?
>>34174139Most women are absolute bitches. If she's not naturally motherly/nurturing towards you, then dump her. I had to go through like 16 girlfriends to find one who is motherly/nurturing but also not a submissive doormat.
>>34174383I had a similar relationship as this and yea, didn't go anywhere in the end.You can still be your kind/compassionate/soft/etc. self, but you really are expected to take the lead. If your intuition is to go "I'll down for whatever" or "you decide, I'm cool with anything" or any variation thereof, it just stresses the girl out. Even boss girls (or rather, SPECIALLY boss girls) will want you to take control of the situation, be it planning outings, direction of the relationship, trips, etc.
how submissive are you OP? you're not asking her if its ok to kiss her or something are you?
>>34174344This, im ready to ditch my gf because she's the same way. When I'm mean she acts right, but when I actually try to be loving, she becomes a sarcastic cunt. I want off this ride. I'm tired of seeing couples actually in love and im stick with a bitch who doesn't know when to cut the shit.
>>34174808That shit gets old because she's essentially denying any agency just so she can give you the illusion of leadership. There are women who can actually think for themselves and still know how to be submissive to their man. Unfortunately that shit died with the boomers. I have not seen any woman below 30 act that way. They let their husband's decide everything while they sit like glassed retards. Sorry but im gonna lead the cart, not be your fucking pack mule.
>>34174139Just tell her that her left boob looks weirdly unsymmetrical to her right boob and say it gives you the ick. Then enjoy the meltdown
>>34175293Shit I might try this, at this point I'm fully tired of my gf so I may just drop this nuke and see what happens. Fuck it.
>>34175365What will happen is a breakup and a lot of tears from her anon lol. I was half joking, only do this strategy if you are a mad man. But it does give the oxytocin deprived woman a taste of her own sick medicine. Only do this to the type of girl who constantly skewers men's pride or masculinity as if it were a game to her. If you skewer her right in her feminine ego, she will melt down and regress into a child and do the shocked Pikachu face. Exactly like this interaction https://youtu.be/Ph8ZXK57k7s?si=vpQL64Ap2xU4mxCR>"Why you look 50 and you're 24?" The woman immediately stops in her tracks and turns into a shocked blow up doll
>>34174139Give some specific examples OP. Its hard to know what you mean by submissive or dominant because every anon has different opinions about it
>>34175398Honestly man. At this point I can take a break up. My gf is one of those "haha I am woman, hear me roar" types and that shit is honestly getting old. She literally thinks she has no flaws and the flaws I do point out she acts like she can fix in one afternoon. I'm kinda getting sick being with a woman whose barely 30 and acts like she has the wisdom of a 1000yr shaman, you don't know shit past your upbringing which is also fucked because her parents are like that as well. A family of fucking know it all that really dont know shit past their own interestSo yeah, she can get knocked down a peg. Even if we break up maybe she'll learn to cut that shit for the next guy. I've been in plenty relationships, I can find another
>>34175407You're him you been him and will continue to be him. Yeah prideful people are impossible to deal with mate, I should know I was the male equivelant to your GF. I'm mid 30s and only now realising I actually don't know half the shit I talk about and I've the people who knocked me down a couple pegs to thank for it so maybe you'd be doing her a favour. Best way to do that is just break up without a word because it shows her that her words aren't as valuable as she thinks they are. If you run the uneven titty strat she'll cash that for vicitmbuxx kek
>>34175416Yeah im getting close to that, all she does is talk with no action and im at the point where I can easily see myself monkeybranching and just letting her figure it out. I used to be a prideful fuckwit as well until life bitch slapped me in the mouth constantly. Now I assume I know nothing until I either do research or have all the facts..
>>34175293lmao
>>34174139I suspect what she actually means is that you're not capable of having an opinion about anything. You're the kind of person who, when someone says "What should we do tomorrow?" replies "I don't know, what do *you*want to do?" - that sound about right?
>>34175458There's a difference between never having an opinion and always being the one who has to decide. A woman shouldn't suddenly lose fucking attraction because you don't know what you want for dinner of all goddamn things, unless she cooks or handles everything else but dinner, then her lazy ass can atleast have an idea. Hell I'll even drive and pay for it, so no. I dont give women a pass on this idk shit. They survived just fine single and now I have to deal with a borderline retard just because suddenly it's my job? So I have to work a 9 to 5, pay bills, hold shit down and you can't even say if you want chicken or beef for dinner? Bitch go starve then.
>>34175477>I dont give women a pass on this idk shit.And why should OP's girlfriend give OP a pass on it, if he is making her take 100% of the decisions and do 100% of the thinking?(Or are you OP?)
>>34175522She shouldn't. Hence my whole point. It's give and take. You should be able to give opinions and suggestions just as well as the opposite party. The only reason why I'm using women as an example is because they're the main ones who sit around all day, not doing shit, and then it's all idk's when 6pm rolls around. If OP is operating like this then he needs to get his shit together but if he's not and his woman is being a infantile moron with choices and decisions then she needs to pull her head outta her ass and actually say what she wants like an adult. Personally I've been with too many women who think giving input is like asking her to plan the entire trip, pay for it, and figure out what we're doing. No, im just asking what fucking hotel you want to stay in. Not hard.
>>34175216Maybe say that to her. Tell her you aren't interested in being an asshole and that's not what you have in mind for your relationship, so if that's what she wants she'll never get it from you. I think male willingness to self-objectify and feed into the toxic expectations of their gfs out of a fear of losing them is a big part of the problem.
>>34175557Yeah good idea, she likes to push this idea that I'm mean because I like it and I tell her no, I'm mean because you don't listen or consider anything and it frustrates me. Like she'll do inconsiderate/stupid things and then wonders why I'm ready to put a foot up her ass (I wont) it's tiresome cause it saps my energy making the problem worse cause now she's upset I dont wanna do anything with her.
