Respect boundaries and stop messaging her, she made that clear.
When and if she wants she will message you back

>>34197733
Op needs something to replace this yearning or he’s going to do something stupid…I say start growing and smoking cannabis, try to forget at least

>>34197709
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>>34197726
Nobody can advise you here if you don't tell us the actual details of what you did and what happened.

>>34197733
Thanks.
What I don’t get is that she blocks and unblocks me all the time, so I have no idea what messages actually get through to her. You’d think that if you didn’t want any contact with someone you’d block them indefinitely, not bimonthly. I don’t understand. It makes me think she still wants me or something. Or maybe she’s just doing it to collect evidence in case she really goes through with filing a RO. I’ve never threatened her. I’m just a poor beggar.

>>34197733
This, assume it's over and fuck another girl. You're free

>>34197769
>she blocks and unblocks me all the time
irrelevant, no contact is forever

>>34197769
Uncertainty can be rough, but learn to be okay with it, in the end those messages that you do not know of she read, they won’t matter or make a difference.
Just remember the positive and negative things and learn from the negative ones and find ways to be better, we all have different ways we can be better.

>>34197765
She’s a Jehovah Witness and we finally had sex after almost a year of reconnecting. (We were together 10 years ago and had lots of intimacy, but she broke up with me and converted to this religion/cult during this hiatus.)
The sex before marriage, especially with an “unbeliever” broke her mind and she confessed to the congregation’s elders. Of course they told her to stay away from me. Now I know more about JW and religion, and it makes me fucking mad how much control it has over her. That stupid doomsday cult took her away from me. I tried to argue doctrines and shit, but logic doesn’t seem to do any good.

>>34197804
Oh wow, so you're actually (mostly) in the right here. JWs are a fucking despicable religion.

I don't know if you can do any more than you've already done, but if she ever gets out of the cult she will probably thank you for at least trying.

>>34197769
She probably unblocks you because she gets paranoid she's going to miss a text from you saying that you're on your way over to her place to kill her Jesus Christ dude

>>34197846
No, she's much more likely to get murdered by the insane cultists in her congregation than she is by OP.

OP might be a naive retard but all he did was commit the sin of sticking his dick in crazy. He is arguably a hero for trying, albeit in vain, to save this poor woman.

In a sane world JWism would be banned in as many countries as possible, and its leaders investigated for mass abuse of their followers, child rape, and embezzlement of funds among other things.

>>34197804
so, she's nuts.
she said to stop contacting her. either because it's painful for her, or she wants to spite you, or they made her do it,... whatever, she said it. move on and consider it her loss if she rather hangs out with the child grooming cult than with you

>>34197846
I could see her thinking that. That just makes me so sad she’d actually think I’m capable of doing that.

>>34197865
that's actually a common manipulation technique
if you're a creep, she's doesn't look insensitive by stomping on your feelings or refusing to talk things out
so she makes it look like you're a creep with such 'accusations' and she's home free

>>34197709
>I literally can’t live without her.
>Being without her isn’t an option.
I'm not just gonna tell you to grow a set of nuts overnight because when I went through a bad breakup our of an LTR I also felt something similar, but I will say I was acting nutless during that time.
Life will go on if you let it. Eventually new girls will come into it. Time will make the memories fade.
Ordinarily I'd say she's already hopped on fresh dick anyway but this might be the one exception if she was so deep into the JW cult that she narced on you and herself. And even then some slickster in the church might still convince her to fuck because it's part of "Jehovah's plan" or some nonsense.
I really do fucking hate Jehovah's Witnesses, they somehow manage to piss of both us real Christians and non-Christians too.

>>34197852
Yeah the “religion” is a joke. So many failed prophecies. Child sex abuse coverups. All the children that died from refusing blood transfusions. No birthdays, no Christmas, no nothing. Stay passive, don’t vote, the world is gonna end soon anyway. Why bother engaging? Lmao. All those old JW’s who were told they’d live to see the end of the world, and then they died and the Governing Body moving goal posts to say it’s an overlapping generation.
Just the fact that this religion calls themselves “The Truth” and that all other religions are false is a massive red flag.

Go out and get you a kinky girl and have some fun, get that out of your system, spend some time alone and then find a good woman to settle down with

>>34197709
>I literally can’t live without her.
You can and you will. Every man goes through this shit, everything and anything you do to try to get her back will only repel her further.

She's made her decision, you're officially absent from her life - let her bear that weight the same way you are.
If you cry in her messages you're not really absent, you're actually just reaffirming her decision by becoming an annoyance that won't go away.

Shut up and move on, give her the opportunity to realise she fucked up

leave her alone. jesus christ.

You really need to leave her alone. Tell her to block you; It's best for both of you.

>>34197709
leave her alone, learn to live by yourself

>>34198008
>Go out and get you a kinky girl and have some fun
In my experience you can't just go out and get a girl when you're going through it like this unless you're really good looking, are a rizzler, or have one who was waiting in line for you (see the above).
I do agree though that once OP normalizes, he needs to find a girl who fucks like a sewing machine and like handcuffs and costumes, at least for a few months.

>>34197709
>Being without her isn’t an option.
It's literally your only option. Leaver her alone you selfindulgant twat.

>>34198187
>>34198193
>>34198204
>>34198221
>when the transbian discord chat gets too empty and you have to find something else to do

Jackie was a reference and you using that showed your hand. Manipulative and conniving. Pathetic.

>>34198413
Sounding high again.

>>34197709
Holy shit this is the deeper level on the tier system. You probably could have been engaged with her. I can't help you with this one. Had my oldest brother been here he could have helped you. I'm really sorry for your break-up OP. Unfortunately you just should have been more upfront before meeting her what you were like before that interaction okay? Next girl you try to date, try to be a little bit more autistic with, okay? Yeah being a little autistic may ruin your chances of getting the relationship, but it for damn sure won't fuck up a long-term relationship when skeletons get discovered in the closet.

>>34197709
Oh poor child. Drop it. Give it a week or two. Then ask her out for dinner and drinks.or whatever. If she says no, wait a week or two and repeat, if you really want to torment yourself.

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Though looking at the bright side, congratulations on getting this far with a woman. Not that many guys get to have a best friend. Unfortunately you sadly may have messed things up, but you made it really deep on the tier list.

>>34197709
>>34197719
>>34197726
i wish i was loved like this

>>34197988
all religions call themselves the truth

>>34197709
>Being without her isn’t an option
restraining order is a solution

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>>34197709
>>34197719
>>34197726
NIGGA STOP TYPING
WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING

>>34197709
>I literally can’t live without her.
You have no choice but to live without her, and you will discover that you can.

There is NOTHING you can do here except respect her wishes and leave her alone. You may actually get in trouble with the police if you keep talking to her. It doesn't matter whether she has blocked you or not, STOP TALKING. This is over.

Only she can decide if she values the relationship more than her religion. It doesn't look good anon. Just leave her alone and prepare for the worst. If she's threatening a fucking restraining order you need to listen

>>34197769
shes not the same person anymore. I went through something similar ish. I fucking loved this woman so much. One day she was schizo in the literal sense, did not recognize me anymore and suddenly became violent (thought I was an intruder). Cops were called and I almost went to jail. She came back to but was never the same.

Honestly idk what to do either. I still go through months where I pine for her and it was 7 years ago. What helps is hobbies and also, stop building her up in your head. She was probably not as perfect as you think esp if she fell for a cult. Be nuanced, remember the bad stuff too. I loved my ex but she would say really fucking mean "jokes" like just trashy stuff about wanting to marry a celebrity crush or other borderline cuck shit. I try to remember that when i think of all the times she was sweet and I felt whole with her. I can guarantee you this woman had major flaws. Think of the good AND the bad. that's what helps.

Also, another REALLY important one is to stop gooning to her. Do not jack off thinking about sex with her, that is like the single most important thing to getting over it... it will still be a battle.

lurking for other advice

Bump

Assuming this is even real, just an FYI, you can be arrested for continued contact and wind up with a charge. You can even be placed in jail.
Idc about your life, but you should make choices with informed consent. You can be arrested for this.

>>34198227
>if they don't agree with my schizo stalking they are troons
lol

"If I apologize you can forgive me and we can go back to how it was before because I really want you, ok?"

>>34202245
Basically. It’s so simple. Why can’t she love me the way I love her.

>>34202262
So you don't see what's wrong with that statement . It's all about you and your feelings, not about her at all.

>>34197804
>That stupid doomsday cult took her away from me.
Stop harrassing people who want to be in a cult. That's like being in a gang. Just leave her alone. Why would you even want someone who is inclined to become a member of such all-encompassing groups?

>>34202265
It’s all about her.

OP, are you 18 or something? This is clearly your first relationship

>>34203373
I just turned 40… This was my 2nd/3rd relationship.

>>34202298
No. You literally ask "why is is she doing something I don't approve of." And the answer to that is that she is an independent person with her own wants, needs and free will. And you blew your chance to stay in her life.

>>34204284
>she is an independent person with her own wants, needs and free will
Ok, but being in a cult isn’t good.

OP, I have been where you are emotionally. You fired your last bullets to get her back. It didnt work. Its time to start the painful process of moving on. I didnt think I could do it, but I did. If I can do it anyone can. I suggest going to the gym, walking a lot, talking to therapist, and starting a new life trajectory/career you always wanted to do. She doesnt want what you have to offer. Her loss.

>>34202298
This isn't remotely true. If you cared about her, you'd do what she's repeatedly asked you to do. But you don't, because you actually only care about yourself.

>>34204317
What part of
>she is an independent person with her own wants, needs and free will
did you fail to understand?

>>34204326
This is the best advice on here.

>>34204349
Of course I care about her, but it’s also a life or death situation for me.
>>34204354
I didn’t fail to understand anything.

>>34202262
She doesn't want to

>>34204725
>for me
So it's about you, not her. You already know what she wants yet refuse to do it.
Hence the question in >>34204354

>>34197709
damn bro if you played it cool from beginning you might have had a chance but you absolutely sperged out. hopeless situation

>>34197709
Kek wtf are you a Protestant
Bahhahahahahahahahahahaha. She's the retarded for having sex with you.

>>34204729
I haven’t contacted her since because I don’t want to go to court. So, basically I die.

>>34204764
>So, basically I die.
Leave off the histrionics you self centered asshole.

>>34204836
You think I’m being dramatic, huh? I already had a heart attack and spent a week inpatient.

>>34204868
Thank you for proving my point.

>>34199403
>>34197709
Assuming this is real, you have to stop messaging her OP for your sake. I also had a gf, she cheated, we broke up, long time passed and she tried to reconnect again. I quickly realized (beside her looks gone) that we changed too much, and the girl I liked doesn't exist anymore. And the girl I saw in her back then was already an idealized version I projected onto a walking dumpster fire.

You need to break the fixation. She made her choice, you vs her cult buddies, and the cult won. If you by 1% chance made her leave and be with you, she'd resent you for it all the time. Nothing much to do here, you can't love yourself with her mind, she has to do it.
It sucks and it is hard, but there isn't anything else (other than jailtime).

>>34197804
oh shit you're actually in the right here

damn, im sorry man. if it's any consolation, there's a chance that she'll come to her senses (after which she'll come right back to you). but there's nothing you can do to pull her away from the cult, she'll only hate you more

>>34204868
That's your doing, not hers. You're responsible for your own passions. What you're doing to yourself isn't any more noble than somebody who sends himself to the hospital through his gluttony, or gets himself put in prison due to his greed. You're just letting emotional attachment get the best of you, and attachment is not love.

>>34198227
fucking kek

>>34201763
>the partner of someone who was brainwashed into joining a cult and leaving them is the schizo one here
join the 41% asap

>>34197804
Friend, you can't fix people that don't want to be fixed. I know it might seem like you're just one reason away from fixing the situation, but what she's afflicted by is not rational. You basically have to wait for her to want to be fixed, which is a process that does not have a timeline.
The best thing you can do is focus on you. You have 10 years of history with this person, so I know it's difficult to let go. Letting go now is much better than wasting any more time trying to fix someone who is unwilling to be there for you. You deserve so much better than that, and there is someone else who can be that for you.

>>34201763
so you admit to the samefagging

>>34198008
Where are the kinky girls ?

>>34197804
Read The Monk, Never leave her trust me, You can save her, A girl who converted to catholicism and became a nun was saved by her pitiful lover

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>>34197709
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>>34197726
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxLoo8lb-yU