My life is dull and boring. I'm dull and boring. How do I change this? How do I change my personality, get rid of depression and anxiety?
Pls help me
Just stop being an overly logical bitch about it.
>>34199822I have the solution but you gotta trust me.Go learn how to ride, and buy a motorcycle.Just trust me. Doesn't even matter which one you get.
>>34199822you basically need to force yourself to go out and do things and meet people, and work on your drepression in the normal channels. i did all this and realized that i prefer to just be alone and therapy didn't help and im just chilling now
>>34199822Take risks.
>>34199822The whole of life process is about learning and creating, learn and create, ingest and let out, to the extent of your capacity, if you find an avenue where to do this and exhaust yourself, you'll be happy and have things to talk about. The hard part is knowing your 'passions' or things that you like that aren't consumption, there you gotta think wide: some people like to lift, some to write, about this or that, there are so many ways to spend your life, every good career has creative elements in them also, this is going to have to come from you though. Discipline is what you do to form habits, since you seem to desire change that's what you'll have to think about. Discipline involves following schedule and clocks and post-its and whatnot, until your behavior and habit changes, this can take only a few weeks to a few months before the days of your life are significantly and instinctively lived differently.Try stuff, try to go beyond mediocre, give it you're all, that's the only way to feel proud, to feel unique, to feel like you've fully created and mastered yourself, at which point you become happy.Your question is rather general so I can't do more than give the best generalities I have.
>>34200575I already have a bike and enjoy riding, unfortunately I end up just riding in circles and also have no one to ride with, no destination, etc. I do have a lot of fun on the bike though >>34200577>>34200593When I had friends I used to enjoy hanging with certain people, now I have no one. Need to find where I belong again but no one seems to be interested in being my friend >>34200850I have no passions right now which is likely a huge hurdle. As mentioned above I have a motorcycle, I have activities that I enjoy but I feel like all my passion has evaporated. I also have no social hobbies, no creative hobbies, and am not sure where to get started. I have life goals such as getting married, having children, buying a house, etc. but don't know how to achieve them and don't know where to start.
>>34200552Tough for my analytical mind
>>34199822This thread is dull and boring
>>34205342Indeed, fruit born of the tree. How to change?
>>34208130Get out of your comfort zoneTurn into yes man
Go to church. Trust in God. Realize the titles that you give yourself are just that, titles you give yourself. By what metric are you judging yourself?Do not destroy yourself in the pursuit of being the "cool guy", vainglory will ruin your spirit.
Accept being dull and boring. Find joy in hobbies. There is nothing wrong with living small/"normal"/quietly. There's strength in acceptance. Life opens up because you're no longer focusing on how to change yourself, but instead on GROWING yourself.
>>34208238And ignore this>>34208227guy. Any time anyone uses God or religion to sway you in a direction, ask them to prove their claim.So >>34208227 prove God is real, THEN we'll listen to you.
>>34208140Yes man as in a pushover? >>34208238I've accepted it in the past, I desire more out of life now. New hobbies would be beneficial but don't know what to pursue, just sit in my room spinning my wheels.>>34208245You clearly stopped reading his reply after the first sentence.
>>34199822Very difficult, there is no framework for problems like this because they have to do with social rehabilitation structures, and that's antithetical to the concept of society.Best you get is "do things until you dissociate and can't feel anything, then call the nothingness happiness because at least is not suffering".
>>34200850Bullshit. It's never enough. Look at those dumbass japanese artisans. They always go "It's never perfect, I must strive for perfection yet I never reach it".Also a big problem for me is, Many things interest me, yet I don't stick to any single of them. I enjoy picking up things, I never master anything and I have nothing I feel is ready to show people. In part because this shithole site is so much about demeaning others no matter their hard work, it feels nothing is good enough.God I hate being a 4channer, I judge myself as harsh as I judge others which is as harsh as others judge everyone else.
>>34210517Desensitization is important (although I'm not sure where I would go to do that) however surely there must be some other things that can be done as well.
