f20 i have never had a guy being obsessed with me and it is messing with me. it is probably due to me almost never leaving the house except when i have to but i never get into situations where i am around men that could find a liking to me. i have anxiety so this is not something i can do easily but it is messing with my coincidence because i dont relate to other women etc. i think im not ugly but getting no attention from men kind of does make u feel that way. how can i change that? and if i put myself in situations with men, what do i do? nothing? what makes men approach women? or do i have to do something ? but i am awkward and afraid of rejection i also do t know what’s appropriate. also i am a bit alternative (not emo but i like semi quirky stuff that might not appeal to the average guy) so that stresses me out too. i dont like dating apps bc im afraid of anyone i know finding me i know its silly but i cant get over that.
>>34200865here's one attention
>>34200865Look if you want a guy like my oldest brother, you got to do something with your life and not sit around all day long. He likes women who know how to relax and enjoy life despite the troubles they go through. If you can do the same, someone like my oldest brother will find you and date you. Just ya'know go out a little bit more. Try to talk to more guys. Joke around a bit. Do some productive things. Find work and stick to it.Get out of your shell Miss Turtle.
>>34200900i study law at university so im pretty busy im not a bum i think im just autistic lol but thank you
>>34200865I'm obsessed with you, anon.
>>34200928thank you
>>34200865I don't really know, try smiling at one of us for a couple of seconds long enough to get someone's attention. That should break down the social barrier and give one the confidence to approach you. Unless that's not exactly what you want
>>34200865Centering your sense of self worth on male attention is one the primary ways women ruin their own lives. Consider yourself lucky you dont relate to other women in this way, and find something you care about and pursue it instead.
Why did you post this a second timeJANNIES! SEIZE HIM!
>>34200949You're so mysterious.
>>34200865you don't want people obsessed with youspecially if they are few and low quality peopleI wouldn't say I'm a chad but I have a very attractive personality when I want to so I've had girls obsess over me over the years and it's never what it's painted out to be, i'd rather have 20 girls midly interested in me (like nowadays) than 1 or 2 ugly chicks that post stories crying when I don't reply to them or appear to parties where they don't know anyone just because they found out I was going to be thereI remember walking alone, playing pokemon on a cartridge instead of emulated on computer for the first time in my life on my way to meet my friends when this girl that was obsessed with me for no reason comes with her sister and introduces her to me like I'm a fiancée basicallymost embarrassing moment for both me and the sister when after a couple questions she realizes we're not even too close of acquaintances.
>>34200865as for your question just dress nicely in your style and fashion, look up some ways to style your look to be more attractive, it's called attractive for that reason, to attract people. Whatever style you belong to, there is a "sexy" version of that stylejust dress like that, it means you're open to be looked at at least, start from there, I've went all out of my way if I notice someone attractive alone in a place where she should have gone with people like a bar or an event, ask a couple questions, if she's interested we keep talking, if she's not interested I just leave, no harm done.
>>34200865how big are your boobs? like not an exact number but could you show more of them off? if you do that and wear those little shorts where you can see some under butt i bet you can find someone special
>>34201257idk if my reply is too late but i dont like being seen in a purely sexual way it makes me mad for some reason it feels dehumanising
>>34202324Do you want attention from men or do you want to make male friends who eventually develop attraction towards you? If you want attention you're going to have to get over that.
>>34200865First of all my advice is to not focus so much on getting attention but instead focus on putting yourself in worthwhile relationships with people. Now im a guy but ive been friends with a handful of girls a few of which got a ton of attention from guys, but they were still absolutely miserable and insecure, the happiest girls ive known were always in committed long term relationships with someone who made them genuinely happy.So my advice is to stop caring about attention in genral but rather just focus getting attention from someone who would make you genuinely happy. Which is honestly pretty easy as a girl, just join some club for something you find interesting, find some single guy you like and be nice/intrested in him, this works pretty much 80% of the time if you put a bit of effort in.As with most things in life, dont strive for what is vainly taught to be postive, strive for authenticity and you'll find that its real source of happiness and security.
>>34200865You just have to accept that you aren't hot enough to make men go AWOOGA like in cartoons.Most people aren't.
>>34200865I obsessed over a girl once, she was obsessed with threatening me with police. Do you think she liked it a bit tho?
