I'm a woman in a customer-facing job. For the past 5 months, I've had a male regular who I see 1 to 3 times a week who I can tell is interested in me, but he has never made his interest explicit. He's very timid and somewhat awkward. He mostly asks me about my plans for that week, and tells me his own, in a way that I can tell that he's giving me the opportunity to signal if I want to do something together.This would be a critical time to say that 1.) I don't know my sexual orientation with any certainty, 2.) if I had to put money on anything I would guess that I am a lesbian (with a low sex drive, an extremely avoidant attachment style that is maybe even insecure-avoidant, and experiencing compulsory heterosexuality), and 3.) despite being in my late 20s, I have never had sex, which is mostly explained by my aforementioned low sex drive and reclusiveness. This is 100% real, unfortunately.Having said that, I have always been curious about receiving oral sex from a man (and to a lesser extent, having a man get me off with his hands). The shitty thing about that though is that I've never been interested in any other kind of sexual activity with a man, so I'd be incompatible with >99% of straight men who have a very reasonable desire to be satisfied too. And I also kind of fear I only THINK I want this, and the closer it got to being real, the less I'd want it.... I'm also very much aware that I'm getting older. My sexual prospects are slowly waning. And secondly, I need to exercise more control over my life, I have wasted so much time already. It's a major flaw of mine that I live so passively. So maybe I should lean into my relative youth while I still have it.1/?
>>342045382/2Back to my male regular. He's very nice, has some common interests, same age group, and decently good-looking (I'm not attracted to him, but I'm far from put off). I have considered several times before if I would be open to letting him go down on me (provided he wanted that too) and I think the answer could be yes, but I would have to get to know him better. Best case scenario, for me, I think is that it happens and we're both on board with a FWB-type relationship that, while recognizing my physical and emotional limitations as a romantic/sexual partner, is affectionate nonetheless until one of us moves on.Sorry for rambling so much. Basically what I'm asking is should I start responding more positively to him putting out the feelers for a date and let one happen, or keep to myself politely like I've been doing?I think if we did go on a date, and we both had a good time, I would then try to be candid and tell him what I am looking for like I said here, and leave the ball in his court to decide if he wants to proceed or not. But then there's the issue of having to look him in the eye at work afterwards if he isn't interested. "Don't shit where you eat," ya know.... Anyway, hopefully some outside perspectives will help me think more clearly. Thanks everyone.
>>34204538you sure look like fecal matter to me you dumbfucki hate youdiafwtfyou ruined my life, a transsexual id at label harassment to your libel FUCK I HATE YOUyou're an ultra nightmare to deal with, you painful mocking eyesore of a braindead smoke drifter realistic zombie dumb ass bimbo
>>34204538"I'm a lesbian!""Maybe I'll have casual sex with a random dude"attention whore
>>34204538>top-to-bottom retardationgood lord, the internet did a number on you huhstop watching porn or reading smuttell the guy you're new to all this but would like to get a meal togetherand then, since you're a sperg, just blurt out that you're a virgin but you'd like to try kissing and cuddlingprivate parts can wait until at least the second date
Tldr n why the fuck is sexual orientation even a thing, sexuality, whatever. You either have the ability to have sex, or you don't. Full fucking stop. Whatever the fuck you're "attracted" to is all just smokes and mirrors. If you physically cannot get it up for anything but horses then I guess damn you're horse-sexual and there's absolutely nothing we can do about it, maybe Viagra will work though. Time to get into a "relationship" with a horseFuck sexuality and making entire identities out of them. You either reproduce or you don't. Whatever you're attracted to is prone to manipulation and usually just deviant fetish shit anyway rather than a "sexuality". It's all just leisure built upon more leisure. If you have the ability to have sex with a thing, you're sexually functioning. If you don't, you're sexually dysfunctional.Sexual "orientation" is a meme. A "gay" man can probably have sex with a woman. Why do they insist on staying "gay"? Because of "culture". They want to LARP some sort of cultural hallucination.Then there's pansexual and demisexual and etc. the truth is, we probably have the ability to have sex with anything, and the "sex function" only turns off at really extreme ends/cases. But preferentially, we'll choose "something" just because of whatever oddly specific reasons we've been conditioned into.Sex is for reproduction. "Sexuality", "sexual orientation", none of this shit is even relevant to reproduction. At most, if your sexuality makes it so you can't reproduce using sex, now you have to use IVF or other reproductive technologies to reproduce, increasing costs. CoolEnd brain dump
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>>34204538>This would be a critical time to say that 1.) I don't know my sexual orientation with any certainty, 2.) if I had to put money on anything I would guess that I am a lesbianYou should probably leave him be, then. It wouldn't be fair otherwise.
My hunch is people with low sex drive are just unhealthy in some way and if they fix it their sex drive will just be normalIt seems way more common for women to have this issue which makes me think this is something that can definitely be figured out
>>34204666Dude, you fail to understand so many things it's unreal.
>>34204862Not another ad hominem poster with zero counterargument it's unreal>>34204689Mmmmmmmm-No.
>>34204761Huh? It would be most fair to let him know and decide for himself than to simply let him continue pursuing her in vain or to reject him without reason.
Bumping before I'm away from the internet for awhile, but I have something to add before I go.I realized that I never even really considered that there's no guarantee that someone who gives oral sex will also be good at it. I guess I'm really fucking naive. Go figure. The qualities on display as I imagine it, the men who give have drive, they're enjoying themselves, they're "in the moment" instead of being "stuck in their heads", they're self-assured and take pride in their prowess. This is probably harsh and invasive to say or think about, but when I think of it that way, I'm really skeptical that he has that energy in him, which makes me want to maintain my distance to save myself the time and regret and embarrassment. But I'm repressed and guarded as hell myself, so maybe I shouldn't scorn my own.
>>34204538>im a lesbian>i want a man to suck my flapsthese men hating dick loving larpers oh my days, many such cases
>>34204538you're horny, he's too much of a pussy to ask you out. YOU make the first move, if a man denies sucking a girls pussy hes 99% a fag.
>>34204850shes a virgin foid in her late 20's (as if that even exists) who believes herself to be a lesbian even though she needs the attention of a man. shes most likely a fat fucking beluga whale that the guy talking to her is most likely a disgusting pig who's into fucking lard women or extremely desperate. or shes just ugly.
>>34205622My life would be probably be easier if I was fat and ugly with a normie brain instead of average but psychologically defective because that one's less straightforward to fix.
Final bump. I will see him again next week. I'm thinking about giving him my phone number then or the week after, even though I have a lot of doubt that I will like his personality. Is this a bad idea? Should I try anyway?
>>34210165already told you exactly what to do, dumbass>>34204595
>>34204541Let the man taste some nice virgin pussy, I say yes. Just be nice to him okay? You'll certainly learn a thing or two about yourself and your orientation and relationship with men.If I went on a date and a girl told me, "I really want to see what it's like to be eaten out, and I'm a virgin, are you up for that?"I'd stop filling lottery tickets and look 3 times before I cross the road for a while, because all of my luck has been expended at that moment. Make him happy, go for it! And yourself too ofc>>34205444Don't overthink it. Nothing about a man tells you how he eats pussy. I seem like a very gentle and sometimes quiet guy. Super respectful and friendly to everyonePut me infront of a pussy, I'm going to eat it with the pattern recognition of making and breaking patterns that only a mount and blade warband professional player of 3.5k hours can do. I will learn you, and make you cream and enjoy every second of it.
most of you guys are either dangerous incels or just misogynisti think you should ask him out girl, go on a date with him then figure out what you want.
>>34210215lol. lmao even.
>>34204538You should go out with him because you're in the better position here.If it doesn't go well he'll just stop going to your store. Because you work there he knows you're not gonna leave so he will have no choice but to stop going. Also he's probably mostly going for you in the first place.
>>34204538>1.) I don't know my sexual orientation with any certainty,lol, lmao even. Dont approach him, save him the trouble. Let the poor man live his life in peace without you ruining it.
>>34204538You're mistaken if you think you have youth remaining. Your clock went off at 26 - hundreds of cultures tell their kids you need to be having kids by 25 at the latest - but not western culture. Regardless - you have the opportunity for a gentle man to explore what you need to. Have him wear protection unless you intend to have multiple children and stay with him until you die.Those are the big guidelines. For everything else, just be honest. Tell him what you want. After 3 months, the sex honeymoon is over, and the next 3-6 months is learning about the person. If you make it past that, and you're still wanting him with you, congrats, you're a couple.
>>34205611I totally agree. She is horny and way over thinking this. She also is interested in the man but afraid.>>34204538OP. Just relax and be a bit more friendly with the guy so he will ask you out. Go on a date and have that experience before trying to make your sexual fantasy happen.
>>34204538If it's a wagie job then go for it. My friend dated a girl he met while working at walmart
