Basically I asked a friend to be my bf and got rejected.We're still friends which I'm really glad for, but for some reason I'm just failing to move on. I'm basically stalking him at this point and he tells me to stop simping for my own good but doesn't seem too peturbed about it. I feel like I'm the only one who even compliments him most of the time and if I stopped he'd just go back to being insecure and I'd be sad.He said he doesn't have the time for the kind of commitment involved in dating which seemed like he was just being polite/his usual people pleaser self cause he's currently unemployed and talks to me daily anyways, sometimes for hours on end.The issue is he's had a lot of trauma due to insane women in the past that kind of made him fear connection despite craving it so much. He's really sweet to me and I'm the first he turns to if he's suffering or being bullied which I'm really grateful for. If anything I'm glad I confessed cause he's convinced no one would ever want him and I proved him wrong for what it's worth.So until I find out whether he just dislikes me personally or is just pushing me away cause he got burned before I can't really get it through my thick skull that no doesn't mean maybe one day, hence I need an outside perspective to look at this more clearly.Do I have any chances of getting out the friendzone and if not how do I help him see his own value so he doesn't end up alone forever?
nah he doesn't find you attractive enough.Move on.
>>34205437>how do I help him see his own value so he doesn't end up alone forever?>its his fault, not mine! Move. On.
>>34205457Didn't say it's his fault, it's the fault of assholes that want to ruin his life, but you're right. >>34205446Thanks, needed to hear that.
His loss.
>>34205437what a retard he is.You should bully him and he will be like a puppy to you.
>>34206855don't be rude he's still my idol :c
>>34205446>>34205457>>34205541>>34206855Soon as a g.i.r.l (guy in real life) comes in here, you all instantly convert to "GUIUURLLLL LEEAVE HIIIIMMMMMAAAH" mode.Fucking pathetic. Keep pursuing him OP, send titties, ass, he will be into you instantly.
>>34205437Are you this guy?:>>34208265
>>34205437No means no.
>>34205437If a guy friend zoned you, then you must have a lot of red flags.Don't worry though, there's still hope for the friends with benefits zone
>>34208871No idea who tf that is, not me>>34208981Rip, I'd try to fix it if I knew what I did wrong
be mine
> I'm basically stalking him at this point and he tells me to stop simping >which seemed like he was just being polite/his usual people pleaser self cause>he's currently unemployed and talks to me daily anyways, sometimes for hours on end.>The issue is he's had a lot of trauma due to insane women in the pastAre you sure you're not roleplaying as an overly concerned straw woman trying to appease yourself while you indulge in your schoolgirl anime fantasies? Because these descriptions are odd and self-referential.
>>34211186You're sweet but it wouldn't be fair to you. You deserve to be more than someone's rebound.Atm I'm still too hung up on him to have the motivation to search elsewhere. If I tried to, everything would be seen through the lens of how other candidates compare to him and that'd be nasty. I appreciate it though, good luck :)
>>34211200Not even sure what you're trying to say but unfortunately women can be delulu too ;-;
>>34205437It may even be over for your friendship but it's definitely ober for possible romantic feelings or relationship. I have gotten feelings for a friend and have had friends get feelings for me. When they got feelings for me they just dropped me as a friend because they couldn't deal with the heartache. With me, I've dropped some people nut have also toughed it out and it was hell but eventually got over it. Wasn't worth it because then they just stopped seeinf me as a friend.
>>34205437If a man rejects a woman, all the woman has to do is stay at his side no matter fucking what. Every fucking failure of the man, support him, seduce him. One day he will break and will have to see you were always there all along and the fear of being a fucking retard with be so ominous he will choose you for the rest of his life.Being 30, I constantly dream of the highschool girls who gave me attention while I was focused on a stupid oneitis situation from listening to fucking cartoons. Some stood by me a long time and moved on. I wish I could reciprocate their feelings now.
>>34211650Thanks bro, that gives me some hope :)Dw, if she was the one she would've stayed.
Update:I got a bit too flirty than I should and the gravity of my feelings sort of sank in for him. Unfortunately he did say if it was that deep for me it might only stop if we stop talking, which sort of sobered me up enough to apologize and promise to stop flirting unless he initiates it. Feels better putting the ball in his court, though I hope I haven't jeopardized the friendship altogether cause it's rare to find a friend like him and I was too blinded by love to see that.
>>34211674Also, don't make him the only guy in your life since he doesn't owe it to you and you don't owe the loyalty either. Be happy as soon as it's on your hands.>the oneHeh. The unicorn hasn't come to me.
>>34211968Girl to girl I’ve been there and he isn’t right for you. You deserve someone who will actively choose you and want to be with you.
