>> Be me; be a retard from a developing country.>> Be a teen, get leather crafting business going, start making money.>> Mother starts drinking and gambling>> Invest in crypto>> Mother fucks up and gets arrested.>> Bail her.>> Loses her job due to the arrest, doesnt tell us, goes into debt to cover up.>> Lean about it months later and financially bail her.>> She debt because she tried to defraud he pension fund>> Bail her.>> Coronoa hits.>> Business not doing so well.>> Learn that she evaded taxes after she lost her job, have to sell crypto and machines.>> Things stabilize a bit, try to get back to collage>> Do well in collage>> She owed more money>> Bail her.>> Cant buy back into crypto when the initial bubble popped and it was at rock bottom. >> Keep going.>> Business fails totally.>> Uncle is a cool retired pilot, decides to help me so i can focus in studing.>> Uncle dies of cancer.>> Mother starts drinking again>> The crypto i didnt buy back into will be worth arroung 50K, life changing money for shithole country.>> 27, no friends, no girlfriend, no job, $3K left in savings. 4/5 of all the money i ever made went to the taxman, the pension fund or to a money lender.>> Joing a rock climbing gym to get out of the house a bit and not kill myself.>> People are nice, girls have abs, not everyone lives as i do. >> Im taking steps to fix my cituation, im in the final stages for beeing a dorman in a luxury building, getting high quality cibersecurity and networking certifications and selling what i have left so me and my aunt can move out as my mother starts drinking again.>> Some time ago my mother was drunk and droping one benzo after another, i intervened to make sure she didnt od. Never let her hit rock bottom. What a moron i am.>> Sorry to bother, i needed to vent.
You don't need two meme arrows or the space before your words.
>>34207103Sorry, i havent used the board in a decade. Im not sure how it works any more.
respect bro... your mom seems to be going through depression and a series of bad decisions but I think you have to help your familymaybe try getting her to therapy or some rehab because it sounds like she's addicted and she won't be able to leave it yourselfon the other hand, you probably want to live your own life and not have to babysit your mom.... but I think it's morally good that you do....
>>34207355Dude i got her into AA. It was after she took 3 antiparasitic pill thinking they where benzos. On week later she was bad mothing the other members and saying how she was not like them because she didnt drank every day. Then she as saying that the root of her problems was that her image of a perfect family got shatters when she found out my aunt took me to a gun range without her knowing. That was soon before her divorce. When i was young i had played with my fathers gun and shoot a bed by accident. My aunt decided i need to learn gun seafty. At that time my mother was telling way to much shit to my father, who was secretly giving money to a past family end evading taxes himself. Honestly i just want to bail out. I also failed a gunsmithign business because in one of her baiouts i ran out of money and didnt have enough for the last papperwork. Had to sale my lathe, my safe, alarm system. I see people my age with a avrage salary living normal lives, i just want to bail out. I just want to get the job, keep my side hustles and climb.
>>34207095Your willingness to help your mother in spite of her repeatedly throwing it all away speaks highly of your empathy. It is a great strength to have, but it also needs rational judgement to counteract its weaknesses. Helping your family is the right thing to do, but if your mother isn't making an attempt to change in earnest you're just exhausting your finances and energy for no gain. It hurts to have to realise this, but only those that want to be helped can be helped. Addiction is a horrible disease of the soul. It is laden with shame that results in denial. I don't mean to sound harsh, and I'm not saying to abandon your mother. But don't set yourself on fire to keep another warm. Let her know you're there for her if she seeks healing in earnest, but don't throw your hard earned money out of the window if you could build a secure life with it instead.
