How do I recover from having a crazy BPD cunt of a mother and a pussy whipped happy wife happy life father? I literally wasn’t allowed to tie my own shoes until 13 whenever I did anything she would have a meltdown and the only thing I could safely do was rot in my room and stare at walls at least until it embarrassed her. I wasn’t even allowed outside because she would “worry” which she thought was endearing she justified all her shit behavior toward me with she’s a mother and it’s her right to stunt my development in every possible way. I just want her gone from my life at this point. All she does know is smoke weed/expensive cigerates, adderal, alcohol, and wine about shit that happened literal decades ago and her lost career as a lawyer keep in mind she has no ability to manage stress or discomfort at all she can’t even handle a trip to the grocery store without a meltdown. Anyway I am a 22 year old man zero skills in any aspect of life and my worthless father is zero help as always. Am I just doomed?
>>34208329Sounds less like a BPD mother, more like an Autistic one. If you had a BPD mother you'd not have a married set of parents, you'd be a child of divorce, you'd most likely would have been abused, screamed at, cussed at, physically hit, struck, cigarettes burned out on your skin, neglected to the point of starvation and you'd always have cuts and bruises from BPD mom attacking you in a fit of psychotic rage. You'd also would have been higher chance to be molested, not by BPD mom, but by the strange men she keeps fucking and dumping who she allows into the home after divorce of dad. That's BPD motherhood, that's what that looks like. You have a clingy anxious overbearing emotionally suffocating mother who is nonstop anxiety and misery, that's an autist mother.
>>34208329Your best bet is observation. Scrap any expectations to be socialt competent Anytime soon. Observe others, people you admire in their presentation and Personality and reflect on why they are perceived the way they are. When you reach a satisfactory conclusion, try to immitate, probably get humiliated, and back to reflect on exactly why you didnt have the same effect on your surroundings, rinse and repeat until you are satisfied.Also reflect on your inner workings. Your constitution is going to be blemished by your shitty guardians and you want to avoid becoming them. So reflect on why certain impulses arise within you and if you truely want to represent those impulses. If no, then its very important you out yourself in situations where these impulses arise and very important you let those situations play out without acting or even allowing yourself to get consumed by those impulses. No supression, only rejection.If you do this, i promise you within 2-3 years you are not going to recognize yourself, within 5 the old you will seen like a hazy tragic nightmare.
