I returned to work from my 1 week vacation. I don't really talk much in the office and i'm one of the first to arrive because i live close by.Upon my return, a coworker (we are acquaintances at best, rarely talk to her) asks me "how were my vacations?" and that question really bothered me so i replied "this may sound rude but, when you ask that, is it because you genuinly care or just because that is what people are expected to do in these kind of situations?" She got upset and didn't answer.Now, i know that what i did was not nice, but to me, fake empathetic acts like that are really bothersome, what's the point of them? Just so people can feel better about themselves for being "nice"? i just don't get it.
I don't think she was being empathetic. She was just being nice to you.Oh well, it happens. We all make mistakes.
>>34209280>She was just being nice to youbut why? what's the point? we barely talked before, why now, to what end? Just to waste some time before starting our duties?
>>34209272The point of asking isn’t about caring about your vacation. Why would they care? It wasn’t their vacation, they were probably stuck doing boring shit while you had a vacation. They dont care about your vacation. I don’t care about your vacation, your vacation? Zzz boring, i dont care about it OP.But (you) care about your vacation, thats why you went and took one. So tell me, how were your vacations? I dont care about them but I care that you care and I wanna offer you a chance to externally process your thoughts and feelings because that would get you to talk more and show your personality more. Your coworker didnt care about your vacations, dumbass. She wanted to listen to you be enthusiastic about them, because it is actually YOU who she cares about, not your vacations. To what degree does she care? Prob nothing serious or romantic, but just appreciation for you as a coworker and potential friend
>>34209285Like I said, she was just being nice to you. Not everything needs to have rhyme or reason. Sometimes people can be nice to each other for no reason at all.
>>34209272>"this may sound rude but, when you ask that, is it because you genuinly care or just because that is what people are expected to do in these kind of situations?"Have sex
>>34209292>But (you) care about your vacation, thats why you went and took onei actually was "forced" to take them, like in that spongebob episode...i didn't do anything amazing, just stayed in my home, alone.When you put things in the perspective that you did, i feel kinda bad now
bro, you are a fricken spaza simple "my vacation was great" was all you had to respond and keep it moving
>>34209293i just don't get people>>34209331it really bothered me, it just seemed insincere to ask that
>>34209348>i just don't get peopleDon't worry, that's normal for people on the spectrum. Which is why i didn't judge you at first glance. Sometimes they can appear rude when they didn't mean to.
>>34209349thanks i suppose... the whole "being nice " for the sake of it is just puzzling to me, the whole situation is
>>34209348start understanding you are the problem, not peoplethis is how people have been socially interacting for millenniayour behavior is selfish, don't expect the world to conform to you...less you want to bury yourself in a social pit
>>34209406I don't think it's the case that anon is a covert/overt narcissist. His language speaks heavily of someone who's in the spectrum. It just so happens that sometimes autists act really rude when they didn't mean to. That being said, could OP benefit from social training? Yes, yes indeed. I am glad he has a job, because usually the unemployment rate is really high, like 35-85% in some places. Being on the spectrum is hard. Especially when the economy is in rough shape and social programs are cut left and right. You can imagine why.
>>34209272>what's the point of them? Just so people can feel better about themselves for being "nice"? i just don't get it.No. It's so *you* can feel better because someone is being nice and/or polite.
Why would I fake interest in helping you?I know for sure from your post you are genuinenly retarded and and your life is already doomed. It never began.So this answer is just a fake empathic act.
>>34209285It sounds like you have autism or some other disorder.Normal people regularly ask these kinds of questions. It’s how people start bonding and enjoy each other’s company. If you are normal, it feels good to be asked about your vacation or how your day went. It feels lonely when no one asks you these questions. I guess she assumed you were a normal person.
>>34209672Kek
>>34209272Do you understand that to live in a society, you must adhere to the niceties of polite fiction? If you want to be honest, go and become a farmer.Otherwise skill up in talking to people.There are many books on this topic.>”how was your holiday?”Great, thanks for asking.See how easy that is? And you’re so sperg not to comprehend the simplest of things.
