I dearly miss, and genuinely love, my ex. They broke up with me, but reached out recently. I had moved on because I thought they moved on. Apparently, the lines are blurred. I was mostly shocked at them reaching out after we ended on bad terms, and told them not to contact me again.But in actuality, I lied and I was just trying to save myself from feeling genuine love and feelings for this person again. It seems they really want to talk again. I have not thinking about them since they have reached out, but it looks like they’re moving on now because they saw me moving on? I mean, it’s all so ridiculous. If they have just told me what they felt after the breakup, it could genuinely work.How do I go about this the best way? I miss them so much. I seriously do.
>>34210091can you state the biological sex of both of you?it's important to give advice
>>34210091Them... They!!! Maroooooonnnnn give me a break mama miiiaaaa you're being a fooohkin shmutz on my brand new t-shirt eyyyyy ooowwww.....eyyyyyyy!!!!I'm gay owva heeea!!!https://youtu.be/VIDKB1paYYY
>>34210096I’m OP (F), about my ex (M).
>>34210091Edits because I forgot to English, apparently.*I have not stopped thinking about them since they reached out. If they had just told me what they felt after the breakup, it could have genuinely worked.
>>34210091Getting back with an ex pretty much has a statistical success rate of like <1% because the same problems that caused you both to break up are never resolved by both parties in isolation, and the reunion is just due to impatience with finding a new person. I think for your own sanity and healing process its better to just leave it alone, else youll in all likelihood just have to go through heartbreak all over again with even more time wasted, when you could have been working on yourself and finding peace alone, in order to find that next person to meet you on new terms with your improved self. But thats just my opinion. Your love for your ex is just the desire to go back to when things were easier and happier, before you knew the outcome of the relationship and the true character of your ex.
>>34210262I would say our circumstances were not ideal before, but I truly think, now, appears to be a time where we can work it out.
>>34210091>How do I go about this the best way? I miss them so much. I seriously do.Copy and paste your post and send it to her.
>>34210315how long has it been ?
>>34210345About two weeks.
>>34210474Oh two weeks. Yea honestly thats fine. But thats more of a window for space rather than actually enough time to work on issues that led to the breakup
>>34210498Correction, less than one year since the breakup, but about a month since they first reached out.
>>34210531hmm, I would say if you get back with them to consider if you could stomach the worst possible scenario, that you would need to go through this process again of heartbreak and healing. If you can accept that its possible, and honestly likely, and it still seems worth it to you, then yes you can try again. But you must be absolutely positive that you can accept the worst.
>>34210091>How do I go about this the best way?Pick up a book. Read it from the start to the end.Now read it again from the start to the end.Then read it again from the start to the end.Has the ending changed?What do you honestly think you're going to get out of reading the same book again and again?
>>34210325If you haven't already and you still want to reach out then definitely link the thread to them>>34211136Pretty much best advice I'd say, but to play devil's advocate a little and be "hopeful," the sequel could be written to have a better ending. That's definitely me playing devil's advocate though
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