I don't think it's fair to her to stay with someone with porn addiction, and I've been trying to quit for much longer than I know her (we've been together for 1.5 years). I discovered porn before adolescence, and instead of pursuing love interests during that time I just masturbated to porn with women that looked like the girls I liked. At some point it killed my natural attraction and became a daily habit that I used to cope with the small miseries of life. This is all before I was 20, btw.When I went to college, I met her, then things changed. We hit it off, I was her first and she was mine too. I am there for her while she's currently in a very hard period of her life, both her parents are frail and sick, she has no time for finding a better job, it's shit, but this never made me want to leave, and I never let her known I struggled with porn so much and it breaks my heart because at some point I just let myself not take this seriously. My only goal this year is to quit it, everything else is secondary, but I feel myself growing distant and I don't want to see her until I can consider myself recovered.This isn't rational and I'm struggling to separate my emotions and self hatred from my line of thought. I don't want to tell her, I need to face this alone, my way. She's not perfect, neither am I, we don't need to be, we just have to be there for each other like we have been doing every day for the last 20 months, but I want to be her rock and right now I can't even be my own.
>>34213113huh that's some beautiful lassie
>>34213113and btw after reading your blog, you sound retarded, leaving a girl for a "porn addiction"
>>34213113Just curious but have you both ever talked about porn? Is it something both of you have agreed to abstain from within the relationship? Some couples are fine with porn mixed in while others won’t be. Secondly if you find this to be on the level of an addiction what kinds of things have you already tried to limit or quit porn?
>>34213113leaving her now during such a harsh time is pretty nasty and "porn addiction" is a pretty retarded reason.
>>34213124>>34213160i know it's retarded but I feel extreme guilt when I'm near her. I can't stand it.>>34213132She doesn't watch porn and has expressed (umprompted) disdain for it. I used all sort of blockers but they never were effective, what I'm doing currently is leaving my phone at work. I read books on addiction to see if they can help, deleted my social media, and while it has helped I never stopped craving it and it's easily available one URL away. I can go on when life is easy but when I feel stressed I lose all rationale and temporarily give up on everything.Idk man I'm just retarded. Porn makes me do retarded things. I can't explain my lack of willpower
>>34213208I’ll try not to just rely on the crutch of getting professional help with this one although that’s not something you should dismiss either. It might help. But if you really want to go it alone then I would suggest you keep trying to go as long as you can without relapsing and maybe incorporate a reward system for milestones like a day, a week, a month then months. You might even find a community of others out there trying to quit and find someone to be your accountability buddy you both go to each other when you’re close to relapsing for support and encouragement to continue abstaining. Maybe that’s not something you could find though or too uncomfortable. But if she has a disdain for it then I assume she won’t want you consuming it although you never really know without communicating and romantic partners tend to be sympathetic when you come to them with something bothering you. I think it’s a good idea to delete any explicit materials you have saved and close any accounts that make it easier to consume it. If you want to have a sexual stimulation or release try to only do so with your girlfriend or at least with material that is her, or your imagination about her. You won’t be able to stop yourself from accessing porn but you can keep trying to rewire yourself. The next time you get the urge ask yourself a simple question and it is why are you seeking this kind of stimulation instead of something your partner can provide? Keep questioning yourself over that concept.
>>34213113Stop obsessing in your misery and just fucking do the right thing, quit the porn, get a flip phone, downgrade your computer or get rid of it if you can.If you really care, and you're not just going to be a bitch and end a good thing because you want to obsess over being weak, then you will do whatever it takes to care for her.And if you have kids, you don't want to still be this man by that time, right?So just stop, put in blockers, spend more time outside, make plans to leave your house more, get sunlight and fresh air, drink water, take care of your fertility.It all comes down to a choice, you can either continue to make the bad choice, or start making the better one.Don't be a pussy.
>>34213124Yea, some of these guys are clueless if this is not larp.
OP try Gabor Mate’s talks or books about addiction. See if anything rings true for you too. If you’ve already put this much effort in truly then you will have a long road to recovery but it’s worth understanding the underlying causes while you try not to succumb when stressors come into the mix.
>>34213113dump her so someone not obsessed with porn can have her
>>34213411He just needs to stop watching porn, quit being a dipshit jew retard, keep your posts in tel aviv
>>34213113Fucking stupid reason, You're just dramatizing your ass so you can feel better for leaving the girl who loves you.Fix yourself and do effort you fucking pig. It baffles me how some can maintain long relationships yet ones can't even maintain a week of talking.
>>34213113Porn is literally controlling your fucking mind and making you say retarded shit like this, Anime too is doing this shit to you, You feel like you're some sort of character who's ruining the other person.Point blank, You're literally doing no shit to her, fucking hell, others are literally taking advantage of their partners yet don't feel guilt, You're just overthinking and you're very retarded for taking a very stupid reason to break a relationship, But this is the true state of "love", when the excitement dies off and when the intimacy and spike reassurement become the substitute, it dies.Porn fucked your mind and made you think that fucking is actually good.
>>34213113Breaking up with her, and thus removing her own choice in the matter, is even worse, especially considering that you already slept with her.
