My girlfriend (28) has been a neet since 2023She has mental health issues, depression etc and I’d say I’m pretty understanding Problem is it’s been YEARS of this now. She doesn’t even really attempt to look for work, majority of her day is spent watching twitch, cooking junk food but order Uber eats anyway, arguing online I’ve politely offered to help her. Hell, I even have friends that could help me get her work at their companies but she always says shit like “it’s not the time”, “eventually”>”I’m just comfy right now” etcI’m 2 years younger, carrying us working nearly 55hrs some weeks. It’s just exhausting kind of, and when this first happened I assumed it would be much lessAm I wrong for losing my patience with her /adv/? I don’t want to believe she is a lost cause, but it’s been years. She’s 28, soon she won’t even be able to get food service jobs. Is it time to let to?
Be nice and sit here down and tell her you can't be the only one putting effort in the relationship, financially and socially. She wants the gold digger lifestyle but got a regular dude instead. It's not fair to you that you work your fingers to the bone while she sits around getting fat. I don't know what will motivate her but saying she better shape up or ship out should light a fire under her ass. If you do nothing all day, doing anything seems monumental. But she can do it one step at a time. Too depressed to work? Find someone else to sponge off of. It's more than your feelings she takes for granted, it's your time.
>>34214091Of course she's comfy. You're paying her bills.Tell her you can't pay for Uber eats any more. You cover your shared expenses, she's on the hook for the other shit. If she starts talking about getting on disability or finding a job be encouraging but if she just gets angry at you dump her on the spot.
leave her. if after you have offered her a job and have been comprehensive she still wouldn't fix her shit it means she doesn't want to. leave her and find a better person to love.
>>34214091>Is it time to let to?Yes. She's going to make your life worse and worse. Pepare to leave, tell your family and friends that you're leaving her. If someone tells her, they tell her. Be ready. Just say you want someone better, someone who has their life together. Good luck. Oh and, if you're posting this to adv - you know you've already made the decision to leave her. Get your important/expensive things out of the apartment before you tell friends/family. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. GL
>>34214091>Am I wrong for losing my patience with her /adv/?This is the second time I've had to say this today, but this is not a situation where you should be thinking in terms of "right" or "wrong". You don't date someone, or get into a relationship with them, because it is morally the right thing to do; you do it because it makes you *happy*. If you're happy with her, stay; if you're not happy, leave. There is clearly no chance the situation will change in the foreseeable future.
>>34214157NtaWhy would you tell your friends and family first?
>>34214091You are an enabler
You should be pumping her full of kids or you should shut up.
>>34214221This.Unless you need a womb, she's useless.It's ok to be depressed, but there's a ton of psychological treatment available, plus antidepressants are really cheap. I suffer from worse conditions, and every day I take my meds, shower, breakfast and go to work.Give her an ultimatum - whether she "sobers" up or break up.Also, expect some heavy resistance. She's going to freak out really bad. Mantain your posture, establish boundaries and lay out a plan.That's much easier said than done, but it's a way.
