Is asking a girl "when are we going to hangout" a good way to test the waters on if I have a chance with her?
>>34269135She will say "I don't know"Don't expect a definite answer with that sort of question.
asking to hang out is pretty immature from my perspective. That is okay if your'e in high school or college I guess. Otherwise, you should take initiative to state clearly the place, day & time you want to meet her to do something specific.
>>34269175Can I try "that Korean BBQ place, would you like to try it when they open?"
>>34269135>Is asking a girl "when are we going to hangout" a good way to test the waters on if I have a chance with her?Small dick energy.Just say: Let's hang out day X at Y hour at Z place.If she really wants to hang out with you, she will, and if she has something really important going on at this certain date, you can just set up another. If she makes excuses, then you will know.
>>34269135Only if by "hanging out", you mean dick and balls hanging out.
>>34269191You even need to be more specific, and if they havent opened yet its a non starter. Im telling you, with women you need to be direct and concrete about real plans. Otherwise you just come across as a flake or nonserious. "Would you like to go to [open & operating] Korean BBQ place on friday at say 7 oclock?" This is really the most effective way to TEXT women that youre trying to bone. Dont be a penpal or a flake. Just a guy who sets dates and takes action. Thank me later
No. Tell her when & where to meet you.
Try neging. Why don't you have time to hang out?
>>34269135Just ask her out if you are into her
>>34269135Not "when are we going to," but "Would you like to" or even better "Let's"
>>34269135Too soft and vague.Best way is to just say I'm going to get a bite to eat at such and such a place, want to come?Don't even set up a date.Women are children. They live in the moment and love spontaneity. If she says no, go eat anyway and move on.Sometimes women say no when they mean yes, so if she gives you subtle hints maybe ask her again in a month.But I would always frame an event as something you are going to do anyway and she can just take along.Make it low stakes for both sides.Don't waste your time overthinking taking action. It creeps women out and is a waste of your mental energy.
>>34269135My friend/ex-boss crush sometimes visits me at work. She often asks if I'm working that day and "acts disappointed" if I say I'm not, but if I am there she heads down after she finishes her work and hangs around til I finish. This time I asked her if she wanted to join me for icecream as we were getting into our cars. She agreed without hesitation and we ended up hanging out at the icecream shop for 2 hours and another hour in the carpark. We just talked about stuff. Laughed a bit but didn't really flirt imo like how we normally flirted when we worked together.Was this a date or just hanging out?
you should not call herwomen are cunts
>>34269135say we should hang out or we should chill sometime or we should kik it, not when we hanging out, weirdo
>>34270268I can tell you are a fem anon. No man would ever think of that. I like you calling me a weirdo kek.
>>34269135Yes. I don't know how stupid/unaware your crush is of your feelings but any casual invitation that results in a "no" then they probably don't like you, otherwise they would enthusiasticly say yes or really start to plan with you.
>>34269135Based on a very recent personal experience, you're better off suggesting a time and place. If she's interested she'll say yes or imply she's up for it at another time, and if she's not she'll say she can't.
>>34269135>when are we going to hangoutTry it, but have an actual plan for what and when it will be. It's on you to make it happen if there's interet.
Tell her when you are seeing her, dont ask.Send her just this>i will see you at 7pm tonight at the McDonald's at (address)Dont give her a choice. Theyre bad at choices
>>34271333> McDonald's I don't take advice from shit eaters.
>>34271364Maybe eating shit is her kink, you never know
> new Korean BBQ place> Opening upOP you have a clear time and place.
>>34269135That's something the annoying guy you definitely don't want to hang out with says. It's up there with "where's my hug". Invite her to hang out you weirdo don't ask her when she's going to invite you.
>>34271464You read that in a very different tone than I did. Jeez to my ears I assumed it would be said in a kind of sexy way.
>>34270213It would have been a date if you had made a move.
>>34269135Be yourself unironicallyif that doesn't work it's not meant to be in that case just move on
If the words aren't in the correct order then she has more problems than is worth your time. It's just as fine to ask when she's available because all she has to do is answer with a date or time that she's available. If she's into you and turns you down because of something as little as the way something is said then she's not worth it dude
>>34269135>when are we going to hangoutNooooo, this sounds arrogant and entitled. You sound like she's supposed to hang out with you but has forgotten to.Instead try "I'd like to hang out" or "I think it'd be really fun if we hung out" or "How do you feel about hanging out?" Do you see the difference? You're not implying it SHOULD happen, and turning it into a more open invite.
>>34272338That's even worse It's not something a man who successfully fucks says. Regardless of tone.
This entire post is very 'Where's my hug'
>>34272942Every one else is saying it passive. >>34272945>>34272947You two are taking it a bit far. It's fairly normal to ask your friends when you are going to hang out unless you expect it to just happen without planning.
>>34269135You don't have to be direct, but you do need to be more specific.>I want to take you to X place Saturday at Y time, you in?Something like this.
>>34269175Ma'am, OP is asking about testing the waters on if he has a chance with a girl. You are replying as if it's already confirmed that the girl is attracted to him and wants to hang out with him. As if OP had been asking how to ask a girl out. Different question entirely.>>34271020>you're better off suggesting a time and place. I'm not so sure that that's the absolute better option.I mean, if OP asks a vague question like "when can we hang out" and the girl is interested, she's likely to volunteer what dates and times are free in her schedule. Whereas if OP asks to hang out at some specific time, the girl might refuse plainly and then OP won't know if the girl just expects him to ask again later or if it's a subtle hint that she's not interested or what.
